I live here 1 year 7 months, When I came here I realize how different we are. We used to fight a lot, every weekend. He used to hit me at least 1 a month and I stayed because "I love him" he had help me a lot here, He used to be so sad and he decide he would not hit me again this was march, He was doing good until today. We are so different but I feel I can leave him. I now I have to ..but, We had pass for a lot of things, like miscarriages, hospital, etc. etc....What do I do? We are so different and I think just love keep us together......thanks
2007-11-03 10:30:51 · 11 answers · asked by Lule P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you want to live, you need to leave him!!!
Hitting someone is NOT love.
2007-11-03 10:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by hi_stk_n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not love keeping you two together, this is just a bad habit.
As you say, you have to leave, and now would be a good time, before you become so used to be hit that you actually think that it's normal and that you deserve it!!!
Listening to you, I feel that this is the way you're heading if you stay longer in this relationship.
Your abusing boyfriend needs help with anger management and probably with other things as well.
Only, in the state of mind you are in, you won't be of much help to him, so, I really encourage you to leave him, for both your sakes.
Good luck.
2007-11-03 17:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any person, male or female, who lets a "Loved one" hit them deserves every good/BAD thing that happens to them. Remember, when they find your body, dead and cold, leave a note in your pocket to let people know that this was all your fault. Don't waste your time or your life on some idiot. You don't OWE anyone anything. There are millions of men in the world. There is no such thing as a "Soul-Mate". Find love elsewhere. Be happy with yourself, alone. Then look for someone with whom you can share your life. Good Luck.
2007-11-03 17:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by G3o5d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is hitting you that is abuse and you need to leave. There is never any reason to abuse someone. I don't think it is love that keeps you together, it is dependency. You need to call the Alliance for Victims of Domestic Violence. The number is 1-800-799-SAFE. Call when he isn't around so he will not discover your activities. They can give you advise on how to leave, help with some things you need and a safe house if needed. Just remember no one deserves to be hurt physically, emotionally, or sexually. You need to leave him.
2007-11-03 17:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you read this yourself you'll realize this is not a good thing and never will be. First of all when he hit you you should have left, you are better then this and this relationship is not worth all the pain and suffering you are going through. Leave now.
2007-11-03 17:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by carol p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do get him to visit a marriage counselor soon before love fades as time passes. If he really loves you, he will agree. If he does not oblige, then leave him cos he does not love you. The counselor is a well-trained 3rd party and professional and will be able to guide you through the cause of problems and suggest ways to help both of you through, and he or she may even be able to help you find out if your husband really loves you. Take this as the last resort before you decide to leave him. Its not easy for 2 person to get married and its even harder to divorce, esp when I can see that you are not quite ready to leave him yet. Don't give up before your last try! Don't give yourself chance to regret when you do leave him!!
2007-11-03 17:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by IRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him!!!!!!!!! He is not going to change he is going to so the same thing over and over.. Also if he loved you at all he would not be hitting you...Once you allow a man to get away with hitting you like that then they will never change.. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-03 17:38:42 · answer #7 · answered by brandy d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man that put his hands on a woman does NOT love her. Why do you allow him to treat you like that. You must love yourself and respect yourself enough to know that no one should ever be allowed to hurt you. Get out, get away and start a life on your own. Get to really know yourself, and once that is complete then you can start dating again. You must realize that you are a human being that deserves to be treated as such. You will be truly loved once you truly love yourself for who you are.
I wish you all the best.
2007-11-03 17:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by phoenixlstilwell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lule p call the police now and leave with them .. as he is not going to stop hitting you.. the rat
2007-11-03 17:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by rpetch007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, there should be NO question in your mind what he is doing to you is wrong. Be there done I left him it!!
2007-11-03 18:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋