What do you think makes people fall out of love with their mate?

Answer 1

Well, define this 'love' thing, anyway.

If you are talking about that heavy, passionate longing, well, that is lust and adoration. It passes. It pops up. Like all other emotional aspects of life, it ebbs and flows. I mean, it's just hormones.

A better question could be, 'why do people use this excuse for giving up on, honestly, loyalty, and teamwork?' Because THAT is what the vows are all about: still upholding all those ideals once the hormones have played out.

Answer 2

In a marriage or other serious relationships it is always an incompatibility which develops in the sexual relationship which causes people to "fall out of love". If a couple have an attraction to one another which is strong enough to bring them together in the first place, then if their sexual relationship is good to start with, and continues to be good they will overlook all sorts of other differences or problems, and make allowances for one another.

If any significant problem or incompatibility in their sexual relationship occurs this affects their complete attitude to one another, and they can fall "out of love". There are exceptions where people having a low sex drive may not be concerned with any sexual problems or incompatibility, and they may fall out for some other reason, but I believe that is rare.

Provided a couple had sufficient attraction to one another at first, then as long as their sexual relationship continues to be good and of sufficient frequency, they will make almost any compromise to stay together. That is the absolute truth, although many try to gloss over this as being the most important issue of any relationship.

Answer 3

Relationships have general stages. 1st everything is like Heaven, then you start to settle down into routine. This is where it is important to keep trying for some spontaniety and spice, otherwise it becomes like a just another chore being together.
People do grow and sometimes we grow together and sometimes we grow seperately. Good communication and TRUST is the key. If you have this then you should be able to work at keeping things together. I really don't think age has anythign to do with it, or that people are marrying on a whim, it is just that as a natural part of life we are continually learnign and growing.

Answer 4

I think that people fall out of love with their mate because sometimes people change and don't realize that they have changed and they don't talk about the things that bother them to one another they talk about it to everyone else.
When you get older you mature more so your not like when you were younger but it is nice to keep some of the things as they were.

Best of luck

Answer 5

No one stays "in love" forever. It is called falling in love but it does not stay, it is just a very small part of love. In your marriage you go through all stages of love! It is when you work through all these stages and all stages of life that the love just gets better and better. It is really better than falling in love when you reach the end. Marriage is to be until death do you part and if people would stay committed to that they would get to the best part of love. But so few stay the course.

Answer 6

lack of intimacy,sex,communication breakdown taking eachother for granted basically forgeting to maintain and preserve the reasons you fell in love in the first place.

Answer 7

For me it was his affairs, lying to me, I heard it all after 31 years of marriage so I called it quits.

Answer 8

people change as well as there goals and ideas, many people get married on a whim and to someone they dont know, and that why it might fail of course you can think you know someone all your life and they change and i think its the change that turns people off.

Answer 9

physical attraction is gone, nothing to talk about, wanting different things outta life, or found some1 else and had more of a connection w/ them!

Answer 10

Not trusting gone another. Lack of communication.
Infidelity...I hoped that answered your question