Separated from husband 7 months ago; we still talk every now and then; (Contemplating a divorce) Don't feel like waiting for things to get better or change. Should I step out and find someone new??
2007-11-03 18:06:24 · 14 answers · asked by Brnskngyurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See first what you can do to save the marriage. Give it a chance. It there is no chance of repairing the marriage dating while still being married is not a great idea. You would be committing adultery. Also, give yourself a chance for your heart to be whole before complicating your life and the life of another person - that would be so unfair. Divorce is a loss, and greiving is natural. I am soon to be divorced, mind you from an abusive husband, but why would I want to date someone and make things complicated when they don't need to be. Better to be happy with yourself and learn to enjoy your own company and be strong in yourself before entering into another relationship.
When you are ready for someone new God will put that person in your life. Finding someone new is not the answer.
2007-11-03 18:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were separated from my husband, I'd be thinking about whether we had given our marriage everything before calling it quits. I would definitely not get involved with anyone else until my marriage was over. I would make the decision to either divorce my husband or talk to him about our relationships future.
If you don't feel like waiting for things to get better or change, then divorce your husband and start with a clean slate. Don't drag someone else into your situation until you know what you want to do.
2007-11-03 18:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is going to change until you get that divorce.
Go get that divorce and then move on. Holding on for 7 months "waiting" for something to happen when it hasn't is a waste of your time.
And on the other hand...if you're waiting for things to change with your husband...stop waiting and go do something to see if there's anything left there. You need to act...to make something happen.
2007-11-03 19:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by stonehands 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did at 8 mos., but I'd already decided on divorce. I met someone I thought I'd never in a million years be with. He's everything that I could have ever dreamed of. I'd date if I were you, but ONLY when you've decided divorce is the final outcome of your marriage.
2007-11-03 18:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you separate with the intention of divorce? If so, then go out. If NOT, and you wish to end the marriage, then I see no point in NOT going out. However........PLEASE dont look for someone new. Just ENJOY!
You dont need a replacement... ;)
2007-11-03 18:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't, if you want to date then divorce your husband. Otherwise it gets tricky, everytime you go on a date you'd have to tell the guy I'm still married but we're thinking of getting a divorce! I think most guys wouldn't stick around for date number 2.
2007-11-03 18:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by Amzy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are ready to move on. Why not? If in the process of dating you find that no one can top your husband, then it was all for the better.
2007-11-03 18:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by mlvue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have started dating 6 1/2 months ago.
2007-11-03 18:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jenispent 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you should "step out and find someone new" you are STILL married, if you "stepped out and found somoene new" you would be committing adulterey and you would be making that "someone new" your whore...yes there ARE male whores. Maybe YOU don't have any self respect but you don't have the right to make that sort of decision for someone else.
2007-11-03 20:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-10 05:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by polich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋