My husband moved out and in with a woman he was having an affair with. The only thing he took were his clothes. Everything else he owns is still here. We had my brother living here and he told me that was the reason he did what he did. My brother moved out yesterday (it was truly horrible with him living here). My husband keeps saying he wants to come hom. I dont want to rush him but dont want to be taken advantage of either. When this other woman is around she is up his butt because she knows he still cares for me. When she is not, we are together. How long should I give him before I say its over. He is a good talker, but has also come through in the past (not that this has happened before). If you wish to discuss, leave me your emai. Thanks.
2007-11-03 23:49:47 · 12 answers · asked by jenn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sweetie why should you even care if he comes back or not. this man didnt leave because of your brother. he left because he was cheating and thought the grass was greener on the other side. stop allowing this man to manipulate you. his leaving had nothing to do with your brother and you need to stop believing that. and i certainly hope that your brother dont feel like he is the cause of your dirt bag husband CHEATING and leaving. because if we were to be totally honest here the bottom line was and is CHEATING on you and you are accepting it. your husband has chose where and who he wants to be with, so leave it alone. dont allow him to come back and forth between you and this woman. its not fair to all involved. have more dignity about yourself. you are a wonderful woman who deserves better than this man is treating you. stop thinking that you dont deserve better. anytime that you can help a family member and not put yourself in a situation where your helping is going to put you in a fix than dont do it, but your family will be there for you when this dirt bag is gone and has left you for this woman/women. leave him alone and you decide for him. dont be his fool. he has left now let him go. dont talk on the phone with him, dont go on dates with him. let him know that as long as he is living with this woman he is not to make any contact with you. and if this goes on too long file for divorce and move on sweetie. dont waste your time on this man he still has alot of growing up to do. and it starts with being truthful with himself and his love ones. GodBless
2007-11-04 00:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here we go with exscuses.He will always have an exscuse for you on why he cheated,and this might be the first time,but there is no exscuse for cheating other then he wanted a new piece of as......Then he wants you as a standby for when he gets sick of this one.Honey don't let this man mentally screw with you.The trust is gone and if you think everything will be just fine and that you will beable to change him and he will never do it again.You are fooling yourself.You are being took for granted already when he has got you waiting for him to come home.Why would you want him to come home?Cause you love him?Where was the love for you when he climbed into bed with this woman after commiting himself to you through marriage?Wake up.The love can't be all that if he just stomped on it.
2007-11-04 07:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by lollypop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may come back but would you want to have a man back that walks away when it is difficult straight in to the arms of another woman?
Are you not worth more than this? You are being used as the fall back scenario. Take him back and he will d it again as he can just get away with anything!
Sure he cares for you You mop up his mess and let him sleep around You are this man's dream wife.
2007-11-04 07:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by MissE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard sayin', but things have got to be pretty miserable to allow an in-law to drive you out of your own place.
Probably should have tossed the brother sooner. Then again I doubt he can justify having an affair because of your brother! That would be different.
Probably ought to focus on that aspect.
2007-11-04 06:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look.......he is just using your brother as an excuse for what he is doing. He should just be honest with you, but NO.....he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants you to sit there waiting for him to get tired of her and then he will bounce back to you. This guy is a real loser. He likes living off of women who are willing to let him make them feel they can't make it without him. Come on girl, grab your sense of independence and self-worth. Throw out anything that is his, change the locks on the door and file for a divorce. Life is too short to keep wiping the crap off your face. You will look back one day and wonder what you ever saw in him..............day of independence is just around the corner..........grab it by the horns and celebrate
2007-11-04 07:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband did the same thing to me. I was 3 months pregnant with our 4th child. he kept going back and forth until I just couldn't take it anymore. That puts alot of stress on someone. You get mixed feelings. He told me he loved and told her he loved her. Good Luck! I hope things work out for you.
2007-11-04 11:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by B&M_2005 M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the other woman (not your husbands). I have been experiencing the move in and out and back and forth for 10 months and he also proposed to me. three weeks ago he moved out "to find himself", got back with his wife but living apart. I called her for closure and we told each other everything= she said she was going to go thru with the divorce and now he wants me to move in with him.
2007-11-04 14:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your magnanimity in forgiving him and forgetting the past, would be a wonderful therapy for your husband's bruised soul!
2007-11-08 06:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by The Tribune 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be crazy to think about taking him back so quickly. Bear in mind, he will do it again and again. Move on.
2007-11-04 07:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it is over. I would not deal with any other woman EVER and neither should you.
2007-11-04 07:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by Primrose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋