Okay long story short...me and the ex-neice kinda always had the hots for one another...I'm 29 now and she is 19, I was married to her aunt until 2 years ago when we divorced for other unrelated reasons (she decided she didn't want to be married), I remarried about 6 months ago to a cool girl but me and the neice have been knocking it since she turned 18 about a year ago...I think we have fallen in love...I know the ex's family will be livid if me and the "neice" become an item...what should I do? As much as i care for my current wife, I just don't have as much emotional draw to her as the neice...I realize that now. P.S. this may sound superficial, but my "neice", is super HOT looking and is a little sexual dynamo, so I admit that really is playing on my mind...I cannot get the neice out of my mind...day and night 24/7...what to do?
2007-11-03 19:59:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
munkees i resent that...I/we were careful to not do "anything" until she was 18...i am no pedophile
2007-11-03 20:25:36 · update #1
It's not incest if it's an ex by marriage relation either munkee,,,jeez if u want to critcize me fair enough, but please be accurate with the facts
2007-11-03 20:27:09 · update #2
this is a sad scenario for your niece because she is falling for someone who is incapable of understanding love and confuses it with lust , , the fact you;ve been as you claim "kicking it " since she turned 18 doesnt excuse the fact you have been obviously fantasizing about her since she started maturing and going through puberty so rightfully so you are a pedophile you waiting until she turned 18 doesnt excuse that fact sorry if the truth hurt's but it is truth.
You are incapable of committing to any woman and your confusion of lust and love is clear sign of that , when your ex-inlaw's find out your game your in for major trouble and serves you right , everything that come's now is owed I'm afraid. As to the love and lust read my following comments maybe it'll unconfuse you. And who know's you may quit using your niece in such a ignorant manner.
The start of a new relationship has the lust lasting usually about 9 to 15 month's if there arent to many stress issues like money , kid's , ex partners so on and so forth.
By the 2nd year your still lusting , but you have more admiration and pride in your chosen partner.
When you reach the 3 year mark , your lust is fading into comfortability , you respect your spouse more and the honour and pride of knowing they are yours needs to be shown more in public then before .Your devotion to your spouse has set in about this time.
By the 4th year it's love and I mean true blown full love.A lot of people confuse lust with love and thats what they base their feelings and emotions on.
Love is about committment , trust , honesty , loyalty , devotion , admiration , the ability to be true to the spouse chosen without 2nd guessing or wondering what if.Love is about the comfortability and acceptance of life as it bring's you peace and happiness and harmony , it's about not feeling the need to get fine jewelry , cars , boats , houses , or going out for romantic dinner's that cost more then the couch you sit on at home to eat pizza.
Love is about accepting one's flaws and mistake's and being able to forgive .Love is about alot of thing's , but only love grown from true faith in the belief of love can bring everything I have listed.
Unfortunetly in today's society couple's never reach this level of love because their to busy cheating with younger model's of women sad isnt it.
2007-11-03 21:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get married?? You obviously had feelings for your niece, why would you drag your now wife into this? In the long run she's the one that is ultimately going to get hurt! You've already ruined your marriage, there's not much left you can do, but let your wife move on and find someone who will appreciate and cherish her, because you are NOT that person. How could you be? Since you are having an affair and show little remorse, like you said your niece is "super HOT"? You're selfish and childish and shouldn't be married in the first place. Hopefully one day, you'll get your reality check and someone you love, maybe the niece, will leave you for a younger super HOT man!
2007-11-04 01:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok most have said get counseling or that this is fake but being from a pretty strange family where this kind of stuff has happened with aunts and uncles and unexpected marriages I'd have to believe you. So here's my advice:
You're married. You aren't giving your wife a fair chance and you're cheating yourself out of a good relationship. Your "niece" is 19. Trust me...it's just for the time that it's fun and interesting. She's 19!! She'll get bored or find a guy closer to her age and move on and you'll be one year older and alone.
I know it's not what you want to hear but you have to cool it with the niece. She WILL most definitely move on. When I was 19 I thought I knew who I wanted to be with or who I "loved" and within a year I was bored out of my mind. It's youth. Let her be young and focus on your married life.
Good luck!
2007-11-03 20:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by acatisacomintogetcha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you can't hold a marriage together to save your life. I suggest you get single and quick cause this is totally unfair to your current wife. You knew you had feelings for this neice a long time ago and you shouldn't have subjected your current wife to this. As for this ex-neice, you two deserve each other. She's as much of a troll as you are. Just wait until your ex and current wife find out about this. They'll skin you like a catfish!!
2007-11-03 20:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by I know a lil' bit about that 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you weren't married to someone else, i would say it's absolutely fine because she's of age and you were related by marriage, not blood, so it's not like banging a kid or your cousin or something. But you're married, so you shouldn't be banging anyone else but your wife. If you're not happy with your wife and would rather be with your ex-niece, perhaps you could consider getting a divorce. If you don't want to divorce your wife, you should end your affair. But you can't have both. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Eventually you're going to have to choose. But choose wisely because you'll have to live with your decision for the rest of your life so you have to think about what you really want and what is really best for you, now and in the long run. Who will still be there in the long run, if either? Would your wife stay with you if she knew about the affair? Would your ex-niece stay with you if she found another yonger,hotter,single man? There's a lot of things to consider, so take everything into consideration and make the decision that you feel is right for you and think you could live with
2007-11-03 20:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Understood 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, listen up you selfish incest pedophile..... seek counseling.
*Edit* If you were worth my thoughts, I'd have a few comments back, but I've got better things to do. You're sick. Karma's a ***** and she coming for you.
2007-11-03 20:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by munkees81 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
psst this is the devil speaking..your horns are bigger than mine...snap out of it your just thinking with your member of course shes hot and energetic shes nineteen....if you stay with the niece you will lose your wife and in a few years the niece will dump you for a younger HOT nineteen year old
That's just the way the world turns.
2007-11-03 20:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what goes around comes around.Yr wife cant be unfaithful too and having fun with another guy jsut like what u r doing to her
2007-11-03 20:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by chasen54 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I'm going to have to call BS on this one.
2007-11-03 20:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by ironcityguy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This question is old! Seek counselling.
2007-11-03 20:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by sorri 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋