All in all, I am 23 three and have been with my spouse for almost 6 years now. In that time we have been through any kind of hurdle a relationship can go through ( cheating, children , death in the fam, being broke and having lots of money, so on and so forth), We are even considering having another child in a few years.
I am a very happy person and I love him SO much words cant even explain, but I have absolutley no desire to get married, not now , not ever. I figure if everything is fine the way it is, why screw it up? Mind you, out parents both went through very messy divorces, I guess I just shyed away from the idea of marriage and he wants to do it more than ever. I know im not my parents and they have since moved on from eachother and are quite happy in new relationships but generally I have no want or desire to get married at all.
Is this normal?
2007-11-03 22:51:52 · 7 answers · asked by Crystal84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are all a product of our environment and upbringing. Just becuause your parents went through a messy divorce doesnt mean that you will experience the same thing. If the man you love is your equal, if you feel totally comfortable with him. If you know you cant love anyone else the way you love him, then why wont you marry him? Marriage doesnt have to be "messy". Its what you both make of it. If both of you love each other, respect each other and couldnt imagine yourselves with anyone else, then why not marry? Life is a risk regardless of what you have experienced in your life. There are no guarantees for anything. The best any of us can do is to trust that your love will endure the test of time.
2007-11-03 23:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Technically, divorce is not normal but became so since Henry the VIII. Anyways, marriage is the greatest act of love a person can give to another (the second being catching a bullet.) Just go for it. If you're fearing the budget will be very costly, you should've just stayed celibate in the first place.
2007-11-04 06:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Coin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have trust issues. There are benifits to getting married. When or if something would happen to him in the course of your married life, you are intitled to his pension( if he puts you on it), social security for you and the kids ( makes it so you don't have to work as hard to raise the kids, and help them through life) You have to make a commitment to each other, and you don't want to go through that. It is nicer for your kids to say their parents are married( it does bother them when they are old enough to understand). I guess everything is not fine, or you would want to get married, you need to ask yourself what the real reason is, and be truthful to yourself. You are the only one that can answer those questions.
2007-11-04 06:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you aren't married, then he isn't your spouse (let's get one thing straight). if you don't want to get married, that's your decision, but if your state has common-law marriages, and you live together, then in the eyes of the state, you are married. all property is split 50/50.
if you are married (common-law wise) then just make it official, and give however many kids you now have, a REAL mommy and daddy marriage. it's up to you.
2007-11-04 05:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to marriage councillin she / he may help u with ur fears, well worth the money
2007-11-04 05:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by clogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it's normal. marrige is a pain in the ***. ask my wife, she'll tell you.
2007-11-04 06:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're smart. Not everyone gets a good matr kike me.
2007-11-04 05:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋