i have feelings for my brother-in-law and i know its wrong! I can't help it though and I have thought the same of him feeling that way, but aint sure. My husband has cheated on me all the 15 years of our marriage, and he dont treat me with love and affection. We went on a vacation and my brother-in-law went with us. My brother-in-law treated mine and my husbands adopted son so good that it felt as if he were the father and husband. The question is what now?? How do I express myself? What do I do? how do I find out how he feels? Im scared that I got the wrong signals, and tell him how I feel and for him to tell my husband.He lives in a different state and only comes down in holidays.
2007-11-03 19:29:09 · 6 answers · asked by reda m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You shouldn't be with a cheating husband. Anyone can make a mistake but this is not one of them. Get your #@$% and go! Far away from this so-called husband and his brother, it will only complicate things.
2007-11-03 19:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by I know a lil' bit about that 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I jut don't understand why are you with him if he cheated on you for 15 years???? What the hell are you waiting for???? and like you aid he is not your son, what are you waiting??? That is what you need to ask yourself and about your brother in law talk to him about you and your husband life and see if he feels the same way you feel about him. If he tells you that he understands what you are going through and wishes for you to live with him then that means he likes you the same way you like him. You jut have to call him and let him know that you are going through a lot and you can't take it anymore and see what he tells you. Seriously leave your husband and find someone who wouldn't even look at another woman than you. you deserve more than a husband you cheated on you for 15 years. Good luck!
2007-11-03 19:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie A. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are only feeling those feelings cuz of the lack of love and effection from your marriage. it's really a bad idea to start anything with your brother-in-law. you should try to work things out with your husband....if you want to continue being married to him.
having an affair with your brother in law will blow up in your face. what if you tell him how you feel and he doesnt feel the same way. he might tell your husband....
2007-11-03 20:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy (and who could be) with your cheating husband you should divorce him and move on. Stay away from the brother in law. You are only going to cause terrible problems. What kind of man would sleep with his brothers wife....not a good one.
2007-11-03 19:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your husband has cheated on you this much what the h### are you still with him for? Get out, then if somethign develops with his brother, fine. Two wrongs don't make a right. It will mess things up worse if you don't split with your husband (some husband) first.
2007-11-03 19:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this cheater 1st, and give yourself time to heal!! Enjoy your life and quit enduring it, you deserve better!! Kindness, can be mistaken as more than it really is, so be very careful, maybe brothernlaw, is the good-son!! But send him a Christmas card someday, after you move far away from your soon to be X, and see what happens!!!
2007-11-04 02:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋