it was my first time..ive neva done it b4..i regret it so deeply its realy tearing me apart..it made me realize how much i realy love my husband..how much he realy means to me..im trying so hard to get that message across to him..i know i cnt push or be mad at him for daughting me..its my own fault..no one in this world can hate me more for wot ive done than i hate myself..i miss him so much..we trying to work things out but theres constant friction and i dont know how to make it stop..i just wana make him happy..show and make him feel that there is there will neva be any other man or woman i want..he says his trying..but i dont feel that..it feels like i cnt do anything right in his eyes..that there is always sumthing im doing wrong..how do i show and make him feel that i love only him that i only want need desire him..how can i make him hapy again..make our mariage strong again..i dont wana pay for my STUPID mistake 4 the rest of my life..kids mis him 2..damit i love this man so much
2007-11-03 22:12:46 · 12 answers · asked by musicslave 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
SHUT UP BECAUSE YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT LOVE IS!!! I CAN'T STAND WHEN PEOPLE SAY THEY LOVE SOME ONE AND DON'T THINK THAT YOU SHOULD PAY FOR YOUR DUMB CHOICE TO CHEAT. YOU ARE VERY SELFISH!! YOU NEVER SHOULD HAVE MARRIED THIS MAN IF YOU WANTED TO SLEEP AROUND. GROW UP. YOU DESERVE WHATEVER YOU GET EVEN IF IT'S HIM DIVORCING YOU.
2007-11-03 22:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 7⤊ 3⤋
At some point you should get into couples' counseling. This (the cheating) was a rough patch in your relationship that is translating into a second problem with him throwing it in your face. You might even consider getting the counseling immediately instead of waiting until the child is born so you can understand the dynamic of what is happening right now. You both are hurting and need help. Do this as a gift to your child before it gets here.
2016-04-02 03:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make decisions, and take actions that we feel bad about.
Ones that we regret deeply, that sometimes effect our families and our friends as well as ourselves.
The consequences can be very costly.
Don't listen to the righteous...they never admit to mistakes, only blame.
We can only learn from our mistakes, strive not to make them again and do all we can to limit their effects.
Whats done is done. It can't be undone or magicked away.
What i do know is that hating yourself wont help either.
Try and be strong, accept what has happened.
Be clear in what you want.
Keep the lines of communication open.
Tell him you love him.
Accept that he will doubt you, challenge you, be hurting and unsure and quietly and calmly reassure him.
Only time and love and hope.
Good luck
2007-11-03 23:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by aaah h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I feel bad for your situation, BUT, is he just being mean!! I've read most of the answers on here and a few are just rude, Spend some time with him, and let him come up with the answers to the problem(as u call it). Make it a point to lethim know of your love for him, but, think about opening another door to yur relationship!! Rent a couple of porns, and show him what he's missing!! It was/is some of the best sex, I've ever had!! I'd bet he's jealous that he wasn't included as part of the party! Invite him in!!!
2007-11-04 01:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You say you love him so much, so give him the space he needs, you have to help him build his trust in you again. It only takes a few minutes to be unfaithful , but it will take a lot of time for him to trust in you again. I would suggest you go to a marriage councilor, they will of a great help for both of you. Wish u luck.
2007-11-03 23:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by shinersd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a book that you need to read.... email me if you want me to send it to you (its a PDF file)... boogiesmommy06@yahoo.com... no its not about cheating or anything, its about how to save a marriage, it saved mine (but under different circumstances.)
OK! If you WANT him to listen what you have to say, you first must open the door. That entails leaving him ALONE... dont call him begging for forgiveness... give him a few days before you try to call again. Tell him you want HIM to talk and tell you everything that is on HIS mind... he is going to go off on you and say how horrible you made him feel and so on and so forth... to start changing the tides NOW... AGREE with him. Beat yourself up as bad as you can. If he says something like "You broke my heart." you say something along the line of, I know, I am a horrible person and I dont deserve you back, and I agree with your decision, you should divorce me, you should leave me, I wouldnt want to be with me either (just bare with me...) You HAVE to swallow it down and grin and bear it... he STILL loves you, but he is really pissed... and because of that, his first response is going to be when someone is attacking you, he is going to come to your rescue, even if it is you that is attacking yourself. It may take one time of doing this, or several times or doing this. Once he finally says "NO YOUR NOT!" that is when the door is open, talk then... I know it sounds TOTALLY completely insane, but it will work.
When someone is that upset, there is no reasoning with them... every attempt you make to get him to forgive you, will push him even further away. Just think of him on ice right now... YOU talking is making him slide further away from you, just from the air your breath saying this stuff... SO PULL! Its all in this book, just shoot me and email and I will send the book back to you... its worth a shot when you are grabbing at straws right?
2007-11-03 22:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy to 1+triplets 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
If you are able to I would suggest going to couples therapy to try to work out some of those issues.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-11-03 22:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why did you cheat on your husband if you love him in the first place? Go to Church and to marriage counseling. How would you feel if he cheated on you?
2007-11-03 22:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
How would you fell if he did this to you? What lead you to do it in the first place? I agree with the previous person you need ot decide what you are.
2007-11-03 22:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
first of all stop saying your bisexual.you cheated !all for sex.that's your problem.sex.pick one or the other and make things right.i would not forgive my guy if he slept with a man or women.gay is true.bisexual is about sex.
2007-11-03 22:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by STALKER BLOCK 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋