Should I say anything to the other woman?

Question

The cat died of a broken heart.,that's what curiosity got this cat. He finally brought his cell phone home and I really wasn't going to check the message just delete the mean ones that I had sent the day he disappeared(b/c we got along so well yesterday) but there was one from her and I couldn't help myself. Hers said I just wish you could hold me and tell me things are going to be OK. His response was The holding I can do. These were sent on the 4th, he vanished Monday the 5th.

I didn't say anything to him I stuck a note in his cell phone and cried myself to sleep again last night.The note wasn't hateful or accusing I just said that there is no reason for a married man to be saying this to another woman.And that I was hurt again.
Should I email this whore? And not get nasty just ask straight up if there was something going on or if something was about to happen. I'm pregnant and I have a right to know if I need to be retested for any kind of disease.

A bit of a background. This woman is his boss, he had her on his myspace, and was sending her messages that he eats p***** and she sent him some porn. We got in an arguement about that. He deleted her only to add her back a while later. Lately he has been hiding in the bathroom with his cell phone. Having to go to work in the middle of the night and as mentioned before on his day off he told me he had to work, i took him to work, then wanted to surprise him, I got the surprise no one had seen him, he says he was out christmas shopping for me.

I have no hard proff other than the stuff that happened online and the cell phone thing.

Oh and for my stalker feel free to send this to him any woman or man in my postion would think the same thing.

Answer 1

Does your husbands boss have a boss, or is she the owner? If she is just the boss, then go over her head and report the problem to her boss. They might both get in trouble and lose their job, but that is on their heads. I wouldn't say a thing to her, nothing that could come against me, but I sure would start gathering all the evidence I could, such as correspondence between the two.

Answer 2

I think you already know the answer, it is just hard to accept the facts. But there is no need to email the whore( as you put it) bc she didn't make the commitment to you, she owes you nothing really, she is just doing what whores do. The whore you need to confront is your husband. Its obbvious that this is going on for sometime now, so you have to make a decision about what YOU are going to do, are you going to demand to be treated better, and if it doesn't happen ask him to leave or you leave? Or are you gonna except it and just make lame excuses for him- ie; saying stuff like well I really don't have any hard proof, to ease the pain?

Answer 3

Absolutely. I've by no means heard a feminist who stated guys had been "vain" at caretaking. I could surely recognize that many guys had been socialized not to do as well a role at caretaking (simply as many ladies had been socialized to not forcefully propose for themselves in, say, a revenue negotiation). Other than insemination, lactation, and vaginal start, I do not feel guys and ladies (as a organization) have any inherently one-of-a-kind competencies. Although surely, man or woman guys and ladies have a large type of (non-gender discovered) competencies. Short reply: Yes, that's precisely what feminists (a minimum of this one) believe.

Answer 4

You poor soul.!00% this guy is not being fair on you.Once a cheater always a cheater.There is enough evidence there to give you your answer about your husband,You would be a better person by not going after this other girl.Hold your head up high and do not stoop to her level.Find a nice guy that will be honest to you and your new baby .To put your mind at rest yes have tests done to make sure you and the baby are fine.

Answer 5

Oh my God, you poor baby that is so horrible, I say how in the world can any human being that calls himself a man, do that to a pregnant wife....and on Myspace jeeze if I were you I wouldn't even bother with emailing her or even crying over him one more night! Yes my opinion is that he is cheating with this person and your right to feel hurt and angry your pregnant what a loser man dump him and raise your baby in happiness alone theres other guys who are sweet and loyal not cheaters, I did it with a set of twins and a 3 year old baby girl and Im cool....you'll get over it trust me it only makes you stronger and more aware of the creeps to come because believe me this world is full of them....liars and cheaters-they never change once one always one...dont believe that he'll change for you once he confesses....because he won't hes a loser.....man staying loyal is the easiest thing on this earth if you love someone I don't get it why say I love you and not mean it.....good luck...Angel

Answer 6

You already know this guy is a liar, and more than likely also a cheat. What more do you need to know to decide whether or not you want to spend your life with a liar and a cheat?

What do you hope to gain by talking to the other woman? If he cheated with her and she goes away, then he'll cheat with someone else at the next opportunity.

Rather than focusing on her you need to focus on him and his behavior. Is this the way you want to live your life? Do you want to be married to someone whom you can't trust or respect? Do you want this kind of a man to be the father of your baby, your baby's role model?

You have some really tough decisions ahead of you. Best of luck.

Answer 7

I went through a similar situation but it was an ex-girlfriend from high school and he couldn't physically meet her, but they were talking things on the internet and sending pictures. I needed to know if my husband truely wanted to be with me so I made him delete his myspace, all his messengers, and all email accounts except for one that he will use for his family and friends and to keep in contact with me when he goes out on deployment. He was willing to do this and did it all so I know he was truely into me, but just had a bump in the road. This girl is still in the picture to some extent but I confront him on anything I feel funny and we seem to be working it out. I would confront him about all of this face to face. See what he says.

Answer 8

Honey, you don't need to hear anything from this woman and you don't need to say anything, either. Any woman who gets involved with a married man will get what she so richly deserves -- rejected and dumped and used.

You need to stop concentrating on this other woman and start concentrating on you and this baby. Is this what you signed up for, a man who cheats on you and lies and then tries to make you feel like it's somehow your fault that he's a louse? Do you want this baby growing up to believe that Daddies cheat on Mommies and it's okay because Mommy put up with it? It's time for you to see the truth. He's unreliable and immoral and not deserving of you and this baby. Let him have his boss. Watch that burst into flames as soon as you're gone from his life. He'll be just as true to her as he was to you. Guaranteed!

Answer 9

sure, say something to the other woman, but, if I were you, I would also kick this man to the curb! he sticks around only because he won't have to pay child support and alimony... this is cheating... even if there is no sex yet... cheating is cheating! if I were you I'd kick him to the curb right now... there is no reason a married man should be acting this way...none! you are right about that, but, the problem is, he thinks you are only full of words so he is going to keep doing what he is doing because he knows he will get away w/ it! kick him to the curb... pregnant or not...you don't want your child around this man, or the child will end up just like him!... this baby knows something is wrong! the stress will affect this child! my space is trouble, hubby and I will not make a page on that sight, ever...!!! you have a right to leave...or kick him out, do it!

Answer 10

when they disappear to work at odd hours and sneak into the bathroom to talk on their cell, it isn't good. a man who has nothing to hide won't be doing those things. the same thing happened to me only i didn't pick up on it at all. just too trusting i guess. there isn't too much u can do but divorce him and move on when this happens. it will be painful, but he sounds like he isn't capable of doing right and being loyal. if he left chances are he knows u know and he doesn't want to answer to anything or be confronted.