If your significant other were cheating, would you want your friends or family to tell you and would you believe them?
2007-11-06 18:51:31 · 16 answers · asked by mojo52 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes i would want to be told, and yes i would believe them, because i would know that they had my best interest at heart. often times the spouse who is cheated on is last to know because people just won't get involved, and don't want to cause problems and be the cause of a divorce. but it is always better to know what your up against so u can make a plan and be prepared.
2007-11-06 22:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question isn't clear. Cheating is only cheating if the relationship is marriage, or at least an engagement. Only married or engaged couples have entered into a truly committed relationship, one that requires both members to be faithful. A couple "playing house", or or "shacking up" isn't in such a relationship. So, IF you are married, then and only then can you cheated on. A dating couple where one sees other people is merely "playing around", and may well be dishonest, but they aren't cheating. But, yes, IF I was being cheated on, I'd want to be told. As to IF I'd believe, that would depend on if I found reason to believe- but I'd certainly look to find the truth.
2007-11-06 20:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me. And so many knew (I didn't) but not one person had the courage to tell me. I really wish they had. When I found out, I felt like the whole world was laughing at me, and I wasn't let in on the joke. By the way, he would never have owned up, until there was incontrovertible proof. The one person who did tell me in the end, was his mistress.
2007-11-06 19:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes tell them. Even if they are mad at you for a time period you and that person will know in the end you are a true friend!
2007-11-06 18:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by musket83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd only want to know if they had solid proof and then they'd need to back off and let me deal with it my way and be supportive of the decision I made.
2007-11-06 19:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friends/family had better tell me. I'd be more hurt by my family not telling me than i would be about the spouse cheating on me. family is blood....husbands/wives are not.
2007-11-06 19:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by bullcity25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course. But I see how some people choose not to believe because they are so "in love." At least its good to get it in their heads.
2007-11-06 18:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if it were me i would want them to tell me. and i would believe them b/c they wouldn't have a reason to make it up. and if they knew for sure and didn't tell me i would be upset for sure..b/c who are they choosing me or the cheater?
2007-11-06 18:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only believe it with proof and from the horses mouth ( be either one of them)
2007-11-06 18:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by Keebler 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if nobody knew but your other and the cheater then i wouldnt want to know but if people knew i would because i wouldnt want to be the person everybody whispered about
2007-11-06 18:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by NobodyMan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋