Confused married lady?

Question

am in a marriage of 6years and got a 3yr old daughter, last week but one i met this guy from the net n till now we keep in touch. My husband has no idea about this guy and i think am falling in love with this guy, he is ready to marry me and also ready to look after my daughter as his own, now the problem is i dnt knw wat to do as am already married???? Pliz advise if u were in my position wat wud u do? My husband is a nice guy but i fear he'll be like his father (4 wives) so am confused? as the other guy from the net is willing to speak to my mom about us and is ready to do anything to have me in his life but he is from egypt, pliz help.

Answer 1

first off u cant think ur husband is gonna be like his father was with wives.

cause if that was the case u should never have married him.

u have something for him u al have a kid.

and this thing on the net it nothing major u think this now but if u really think about it take some time and sit down and think about what it would do to your husband and ur little girl. and think about what if it does not work with the new guy and all that kinda things and see if u think it is all good anymore.

this is just something ur going through and the guy on the net it making u feel all great and all cause he is telling u all the right things u wanna hear and all ur must just be having a rough time with ur hubby now and that is why.

trust me i know i am married and went through this kinda crap when my wife wanted to divorce me i was talking to someone online and thought it was gonna be all great and all then i realized it was nto what i really wanted.

tell ur hubby about it or just drop the idea and fix what u have now

Answer 2

You are concerned that your husband will be like his father, well he's not the one messing around, you are. Why would you listen to some guy on the net that doesn't know you, you have never met, and could ruin your life. Break this now, and chalk it up to the seven year itch. Concentrate on your marriage, and think what is best for your child, after all she has the right to be with both her parents, or are you willing to leave her behind when you run off with someone? Time to get the stars out of your eyes and put your feet back on the ground.
Try to put the romance back in your marriage, after all there had to be something that made you fall in love with your husband. Put a call into Dr. Laura, and see what she has to say about all this.

Answer 3

Listen, don't look for reasons if you want to break your marriage down. Have ever heard of people -men/women- who's aim is to jus break marriages ? They seduce you, promise evrything you want to hear, once you're separated from your spouse, they lose interest.
As for your husband, you knew his family history, those concerns aren't new, you might have talked about it before getting married with your husband. So please, don't bring it as an excuse to get laid- sorry- to fall freely in love ( is love or lust ? the attraction of knew things. It woks like fire on the butterfly).
Moreover, why would you complicate your life with a guy you don't even know the background (cultural, sexual, emotional, health, financial, spiritual, etc.).
Are you sure this guy hasn't got an hidden agenda; his rapidity in wanting to marry you knowing that you're already amrried with a child is rather suspect; plus i find it so selfish. Has he told you he'll treat you better than your husband ? Yes of course.
I'm pretty sure he's the one who's putting all these doubts and concerns about your husband in your head, and you're drinking it like a goat in the desert...
Before doing anything, consider this: you know what you have and not what you 've been promised. What do you really get out of this relationship which is real, not simple words or false actions that don't engage really as talking to your mum, since he doesn't know her properly ? Cheick his life, something's dodggy.

Answer 4

Back away, no, run away. My dear, I belive you are headed down the path to heartbreak and disaster. Chances are, your "net "friend is a fraud trying to scam his way into your pocketbook. I have heard several stories of people in your situataion, some married, most not, that have been scammed by these people who prey on unsatisfied folks. If I were in your shoes, I would distance myself from this guy and work on my marriage. Sounds like you and hubby are in a relationship rut that just needs a little revitalizing. Don't assume that he'll be like his father and have 4 wives. Try talking to him and see where he stands in your relationship, you may be surprised. Everybody goes theough it. Try and focus on making a family for you 3 year old and forget the man from another land. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

He wants you so he can get a Greencard/citizenship. Keep your family together, stay off the net if it helps you NOT stray from your husband. This may sound harsh, but focus on what you have, not what you THINK you can have. Following through with this guy will only hurt you, your husband, and your daughter. Not to mention the rest of your family. You haven't even met him, what are you thinking? If you spent the effort you spend on this guy from egypt with your husband, you would be improving the marriage you have, not sabotaging it. Cut of all contact from this man. He clearly has motivations you aren't aware of.

Answer 6

In a chat room or on line you can be anyone you want to be, right? SOOOO how do you know this guy is who he says he is. Be practical, your child needs a family and you should not rip it away just to go chasing a man who may or may not be the real deal. If he is sooo great why is he still single? And you are not the picture of perfection seeking outside emotional reinforcement. If you are hearing sweet things from this guy and thats whats giving you doubts in your marriage then maybe you should seek the help of a professional.

Answer 7

first off, how dare you.
second off, think about it, I mean really.

You're husband has been with you for 6years of his life (just in marriage)
He's obviously happy with you, unlike his father.

Just because his father was like that doesn't mean he will be.
that's you being paranoid. If your husband found emails, ims or pictures sent back and forth from you and this mystery egyptian man what do you think would happen?

you're being really heartless.

you and this man have a child, thats the only person your daughter has saw as her father. and been their as that person for her.

you leaving your husband for this guy would not only make a big impact in the worse way with your husband but also your daughter.

think it through first is all I'm saying.
you may think you've found love on the internet
but i hope you wake up oneday and realize it's been right smack dab in your face for six years, and given you the greatest gift imaginable along with it.

good luck, bye

Answer 8

you dont even know this guy on the internet and the grass isnt always greener on the other side you need to quit this and use the time you do on the computer with this other guy and use it toward youre marriage and child ! and just because his father was married 4 times dont mean that he will be ! you need to consider his feelings and youre childs feelings about this would you like it if youre husband was doing this to you ? no you wouldnt so focus on youre marriage before its too late and he finds out about this and takes the daughter from you and gets a divorce from you ! nothing good will come out of this so put a stop to it please dont destroy youre child and husband

Answer 9

Dont leave your husband if he is nice. His fathers fault is not his. What if this man is a maniac?? Stop talking to this man on net if he has respect to a family he will never try to win ur heart esp. u have a great husband he's just a home breaker

Answer 10

stop talking to this man from egypt now! just because your husband's father had 4 wives does not mean your husband will! good grief, quit worrying about nothing! stop talking to this man in egypt now before your husband finds out and takes custody of that child!