He always tells me he misses me when he's by himself for a few hours. It was sweet when we were dating but now its just obnoxious. I don't say it back. Am I a bad wife?
2007-11-06 21:46:27 · 22 answers · asked by Rosella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you are bad.
2007-11-07 00:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a bad person for not saying back something which you don't mean; But you're a bit harsh for saying that he's annoying for expressing his love to you regularly.
Having said that, I can appreciate that, probably you are feeling a bit smothered by his love, which is something that does happen unfortunatey.
Too much of it or not enough of it.
The thing is, your husband appears to be an incurrable romantic, if he was like that when you were dating and still hasn't changed.
So, it wouldn't be a good idea to just rebuke him or tell him coldly to stop.
What you need is to make sure that you have time for yourself and are doing activities on your own, so you can enjoy you"me time".
You should also encourage him to do the same, so that you have a lot to talk about, and the fact that you'd meet more people will help him get a little bit less in your space.
However, you may realize that too much of it can be too much, but if it were to stop, you might be the first to regret it.
So, go easy on him.
Try and go out more as a couple to socialize more.
Good luck.
2007-11-06 22:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, learn to be a good wife in taught, action, character, and behaviour. Whenever your husband says I missed you, replied him by saying I miss you too, and hug him.
Learn to care to your husband's need and want. You can as well get a copy of the book called, "The Praying Wife" and "Answer to your Marriage". Always show him that you love him by telling him and in your action.
Please let is sweet as it was when you were dating, don't allow him to start having an affair with lady outside your marriage, Because if you keep on ignoring him, there are thousand of lady looking for who to say such a word to them but they can not find, and you have one, you did not know how to appreciate your husband.
Always remember what the bible says, that wivesbe submissive to your husband.
2007-11-06 22:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by Nike O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO i don't think your a bad wife, just a lucky one. Would you rather think that he didn't miss you when he wasn't with you? Or would you like it if when he came home he acted like you were a ghost and he couldn't even see you there and ignored you? Honey I think you actually need to enjoy the attention your getting... you got a good man, I think you are being obnoxious and a bit petty. Just the way i see it.
2007-11-06 22:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, being a bad wife is not measure by just getting annoyed with your husband's behavior. So long as you are doing your duties as a wife and a mother, you are okay. It is but normal to feel annoyed with your husband's behavior. As you go along, there are more things which he does which will annoy you. But that's natural.
2007-11-06 22:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, youre not a bad wife. Try to understand him, looks like he love you so much. Maybe you guys just got married, maybe that's why he is saying that, after a while he has to get used to being alone for a few hours or so.
Give him some time and see what happens
2007-11-06 21:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, communicate with him and tell him not to say it so much.
Men are not mindreaders, so you have to talk to him and communicate with him, tell him that you do miss him during the day, and you look forward to seeing him when he gets home.
It sounds like he has some other issues there, that you left out, like he really needs to know that you are there, and he has some serious personal issues, that probably came up from his childhood, where no one was there for most of his life for him?? I know I am just guessing here, but let him know the best way you can that you love him and you miss him too, but you need your space also during the day, and you will be there for him when he gets home.
He should know that you are there for him, and that you miss him also, but he needs to stop telling you so much he misses you during the day, I would talk to him about this, and maby he needs some counseling to talk to someone about some underlying issues he may have possibly from his childhood.
2007-11-06 21:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he's clingy. Sounds like he doesn't have a personality outside your marriage, boring. Of course, he was the same way when you were dating and you married him anyways. That is the guy you married. Are you a bad wife? No more than he is a bad husband.
2007-11-06 21:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should value your husband telling you that he misses you.There could come a day where he may never come home to say those caring words to you.I have a girlfriend who her husband was killed in a accident at work and to this day she misses those sort of words he would say to her everyday.
2007-11-06 21:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
u r not bad, but still there are some questions arising within ur self. dont urself down
actually u r tooooooo used to with this obsession of ur husband, u want to listen something very new, n romantic.
but pls, dont mind on this issue, rather u must b satisfied with ur hubby,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,until n unless, , he will start saying "I MISS U" to other woman.
bye
2007-11-07 01:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by fuad_enjoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. .. what is the problem. .. why do you get annoyed for him telling you that?
I guess it would really suck to be your husband.
You don't sound like a good wife at all.
2007-11-07 07:13:08 · answer #11 · answered by smurfee68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋