How do you stop a woman from trying to get child support?

Question

Especially if you were used by her to get pregnant ( I have proof).
I have nothing to do with her or her kid

Hmmm Triple 6, you're giving me an idea... hehe

Answer 1

Dude, I feel your pain. I've met very few people who agree with me on child support issues, but I'll say this yet again- Ultimately the woman makes the decision whether or not to have a child, so ultimately she should be the responsible party in the eyes of the law. That's my opinion, and I'm sticking to it. (Of course, I'm referring to the U.S., as I'm not familiar enough with other countries regarding this issue to speak on it.) Unfortunately, our law makers don't share my views. Sadly, you are most likely stuck. If she decides to sick CSE (Child Support Enforcement) on you, there's nothing you can do about it. And, chances are, any judge is probably going to grant an order no matter what proof you offer that she "trapped" you. The general attitude of the courts is that, regardless of what happened, you now have a child who needs care.

I could offer suggestions, but you haven't given much information. Also, I'm reluctant to post certain things in a public forum. I wish you luck. Ignore the negativity that you're receiving.

Answer 2

You knew you weren't married to this woman, and you knew you didn't want a child; so you should have taken responsibility for yourself and used protection. She may have lied about using birth control, but you're a grown man and you should have trusted yourself, not her. Since you didn't do this, the fault is yours--not hers. If the "kid" is yours, you need to step up and be a man. And if this woman is as manipulative as you say, you need to stay close to your child; so she doesn't raise him (or her) to be that way.

If you turn your back on this child, you may put him in harm's way. Watch the news and read the paper. See how many children are being molested or killed because foolish women expose their kids to unscrupulous men who prey on children. You're angry now, because you're stuck. But the child is innocent. Don't punish him for your mistake. If you don't want anything more to do with the mother, that's fine. But if you're a man, find it in your heart to love your child. Maintain a relationship with him and make sure he's being properly cared for. Be a loving father to this child, instead of a stranger in his life. The day will come when he'll wrap his arms around your neck and whisper in your ear, "I love you, Daddy." That's when being a father really pays off!

Answer 3

Don't have children with her.

Once you do, you sir, are on the hook.

If you sire a child willingly outside of the marriage contract without a written agreement you are either extremely stupid or extremely callous regarding people and YOUR child.
Maybe both.
The shotgun approach of distributing your genetic material is not appropriate in today's world.
If you are having children, you deserve to pay for them.
I really do not want my tax money being used to raise your child.
Sorry, no sympathy here.

On another even less flattering note. If you have a child out there that you know about, WHY ARE YOU NOT INVOLVED?
A huge part of being a man involves taking care of your children.

Answer 4

Well, like it or not it is your kid too. Even though you say she used you the child is yours too. Why don't you be a man and live up to your responsibilities? It may not be easy to do, I'm not sure but I think you could go to the child support office and tell them you want to sign off all rights to your child. Which means in the future if you ever wanted to see your child you would not be able to do so but you would not have to pay child support.

Answer 5

I know someone who got pregnant on purpose by putting holes in the condoms... the father still has to pay child support... proof or not, basically, if you slept w/ a woman, and she got pregnant, you have to pay child support... this is the risk you take when you have sex w/ someone, even if they told you they are on the pill, etc... no contraceptive is 100 percent proven to not prevent pregnancy, anyway...

Answer 6

How can a person denie his child and not want this child.Do you have any idea how this child is going to feel when he or she gets older and finds out her daddy didn't want her ?How would you feel?This is an innocent little person and you helped bring her into this world.Maybe you should have protected yourself before having sex.This baby is probably better off not to have you in its life,but still you should've kept your dck in your pants or should've protected yourself.

Answer 7

You have proof what exact proof do you have. It doesn't really matter anyways unless she raped you(highly unlikely). Other than that if it yours the court will still make you pay even if you have nothing to do with the child.

Answer 8

That is horrible that you want nothing to do with this child. Whether she used you or not, this child is the "innocent" in all of this bullsh*t. How dare you abandon an innocent child... that child will need a future, need a father, need support.... I hope she nails your as*.

Answer 9

Prove that it isn't your child---that's the only way to stop her. You were used by her to get pregnant------you've never heard of a condom? If you are going to have sex it is up to you to protect yourself both from disease and from impregnating the woman. If you don't do that----welcome to the reality of paying a price for your behavior.

Answer 10

the only way to stop her is not to get her pregnant in the fist place!

if you have the child then the child has the right under international law to be supported by both parents. so your stuck with it