Marriage & Divorce - 6 November 2007

I've been w/ my hubby 4 13yrs married 7yrs,started dating at 17 I am now 31. He cheated 7yrs ago I took him back I 4 gave him. The sex is great & vry vry frequent but he has this obsession of jealousy cuz as once said b4 he probably thinks I'm gonna cheat cuz he did. I'm so tired of the arguing. He makes me wanna go out there & cheat its like he wants me to & omg it so tempts me cuz I think he did why can't I. I know 2 wrongs don't make a right & I know he's not cheating on me but I just don't know how much more I can handle. I get to the point becuz he starts on me that I just wanna leave but how do u leave some1 u've been w/ 4ever & that u do still love? He's a great guy but I can't handle the jealousy & the fighting. Why can't he realize just cuz I'm not up his butt the sec he walks thru the door doesn't mean theres some1 else? Should I just cheat & have that be it? Would it help if I did cuz then he won't feel so guilty of what he did? Plz Plz help I don't know what else to do.

2007-11-06 17:03:12 · 14 answers · asked by NONAME 4

wasn't the same thing happening this summer

2007-11-06 17:03:11 · 8 answers · asked by martin c 1

What would be the best remedy for separation and moving on? We have signed a year lease and we are only in the second month. Niether of us can afford to take on the bills alone if one of us moved out. But we are not getting along and he is being disrespectful and somewhat violent - breaking our photo frames and punching marks into the walls. This isn't how I pictured it and I don't know if I can stay.

2007-11-06 16:50:10 · 22 answers · asked by Kellie 1

Between 2001-2004 was one of the toughest hardest times in my life I got laid off after 10 years at my job, I could not have children, my best friend moved to England, my beloved pastor who was one of my best friends passed away, I went through the worst financial time in my live ever and I was doing everything I could and things still went wrong, my landlady basically evicted my husband and I and only gave us 3 months to move and we always paid our rent on time, my father had a stroke, 9 days after I was given notice of being laid off my husband got a vascetomy because of all the medicines I take just to function I was advised never to conceive.

My question is how can I go forward and heal and enjoy the blessings of today? I just feel so hurt and wonder why this all had to happen. The incidents that Happened that I listed above still at times enter my mind. What is a good godly way to deal with hurt feelings of the past b/c there are times the wounds feel fresh and raw?

2007-11-06 16:44:35 · 8 answers · asked by encourager4God 5

I've been telling my husband that my mother in law didn't like me for some reason for a while now. He said I was looking for reasons when I would say she was ignoring me and bating me with hurtful words out of his presence. Then finallyshe snapped one day and yelled I hate your sugar sweetness and I don't want your thanks and your appreciativeness! He had a front row seat and saw her true colors and stuck up for me right then. Well she felt bad and in front of him cried and hugged me but nothing has changed. when he is around she is nice but behind his back things are the same. Plus his sister told lies to the family saying she thinks I will cheat on him with her sisters husband! The lies finally caught up with her and noone believes her but his mom wants me and my husband to forgive her too! Help! All I do is forgive but these too are determined to ruin my family and I don't want my husband to disown his mom and sis. He says dont be nice and don't talk to them. but its worse too tense

2007-11-06 16:30:23 · 21 answers · asked by just bored 3

The follwing is a letter I want to send to my ex...

I just want to tell you this. After much thinking, I have come to conclusion as to why I got so out of control, and no doctor or person could help me understand but it was me that had to figure it out.

That night when I was sick in the hospital, you left me there, and you didnt care how sick I was, what was happening to me or if I lived or died. I dont think ever in my life any person that I knew could ever do something to me like what you did to me, especially after how I helped you. I talked to you every night until you fell asleep and made sure you were around another day.

Everyday that I get up, I think you left me sick in a hospital, and you did not care. While my mother was holding my hair back in while I was getting sick in the ER, you were having good time with "Jenna". And everyday after that thought, I think to myself, I am free of you, and I got away from you, because things could have been so much worst.

2007-11-06 16:29:25 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

And, YES, it is wrong to have an affair with someone who is married?

I know I've asked this before, but I still just don't understand why some people just don't get it!!!

2007-11-06 16:26:57 · 26 answers · asked by ncgirl 3

2007-11-06 16:25:40 · 21 answers · asked by theinsaneprofessor 1

2007-11-06 16:24:11 · 10 answers · asked by denia b 1

percent marriage/divorce rate. do you just keep going, anyway? thanks

2007-11-06 16:14:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

my fiances ex wife is 3 years older than him and i'm 10 years younger than him...but i'm still feeling insecured by her now and than..if she was going to steal him away from me again...am i rushing into marriage ?or am i just being paranoid..he keeps reminding me that we are going to be together soon..but this is just isnt enough with me..i dont even know what is that i want?please help..

2007-11-06 16:08:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

the son is with the ex wife and they live far away(another country) so they usually come over to the city to visit so my husband feels that it's a must for the 3 of em to hang out for the sake of the kid. The husband's present wife is very welcome to join also but if she does not go, its ok with the husband as well. oh yeah, the husband was never there for the kid most of the time when the kid was growin up...and i guess its his way of making up for what he did...

2007-11-06 15:40:52 · 8 answers · asked by ohyeah 2

She is always finding something wrong, when we talk on the phone and she is driving, she is mad at other drivers, at grocery store if someone is speaking over the intercom she'll call the corporate office and complain, anything that I do that is not right I hear about it and she is in a bad mood. What can I do? she is unhappy about something,

2007-11-06 15:37:46 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2

I need help on this guys! I am still on my first marriage of 15 yrs and counting! I am unhappy in that I married the wrong woman in my life! My wife is closed minded, old fashion, has her priorities in life all screw up, I am a negleted husband [always left out], still does not know how to cook, cannot manage finances and expenses, does not like to go out with me, does not like to go out period, is a home body person and I am an outdoor person, takes advantage of me, does not care when I get sick [I always end up going to clinic by myself when I get sick], does not have any reasoning at all, always forgets what I tell her, does not understand me at all, does not listen to me at all, very stubborn, selfish, only thinks about others, does not listen to me, when I talk to her, etc,etc. I am only happy because of my kiddos. If it wouldn't be for my damm kiddos I wouldn't left her a long time ago. Sex is still great 2 to 3 times a week, but everything else sucks!

2007-11-06 15:31:15 · 20 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2

I just want to know how important this thing is in your relationship... is it a good reason for break up?

2007-11-06 15:28:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

All i've seen are unhappy people who hate being married and hate themselves for getting married. there are nothing but unhappy people out there. why is it so forced in the USA?

2007-11-06 15:26:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our semi's friday, and we're going as friends and i asked if she felt awkward that it was ok that she could tell me, and she was saiid "no, we (her and her friends are all going as friiends...but I was hoping it would bring us back together after not being together for so long....we have not hung out. I just feel that since school started she did not really get to see me the way i was out of school mode than in school mode, which was a huge difference this fall compared to when we first dated last spring.....when we hung out more off campus.

2007-11-06 15:23:31 · 4 answers · asked by Prudential Intern 1

try to spice it up? OR.... call it quits, so that each of us can be in a real relationship with someone else? thanks

2007-11-06 15:22:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-06 15:13:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister who is a 26 year old alcohoilc is living with my mother and I in our home. She is married and her husband is also an alcoholic. They have been married and living together for almost a year, in that time the cops have been to their house numerous times for domestic disputes. She tried to kill herself 2 weeks ago and realized she didn't want to be with her husband anymore and wanted to get help for her alcoholism. Today she went back to her apartment with her husband to clean it up because he is moving out also. She is staying the night over at the apartment with him. If she comes home hungover tomorrow what should I do? She came to stay with my mohter and I to stop drinking and get out of that enviornment. If she is going to continue drinking we told her she can't stay with us. She has already relapsed twice in the last 2 weeks. How many more times before I say "get out"?

2007-11-06 15:13:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

So my boyfriends proposed to me and I absolutely had to tell, but I'm also here for advice and your thoughts.

When should we get married, and where do you recomend? I've always wanted a Disneyworld wedding, but we want to do it right after I graduate..so should we wait longer, and save the money, or get married and have our vows renewed there in the future..what do y'all think?

2007-11-06 15:12:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do I do with my husband?? All he ever wants to do is hump. He says he don't ask for anything else in our marriage and that's all that makes him happy. What should I do?

2007-11-06 15:11:14 · 19 answers · asked by cgswifey 3

2007-11-06 15:07:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

If your wife says she likes sex with you but she shows very little interest in having sex, what would you think?

2007-11-06 15:00:23 · 14 answers · asked by cgswifey 3

The prolem also is his rrealtives, she can't even defend me what would I do..>

2007-11-06 14:37:16 · 9 answers · asked by erickson d 1

Two weeks ago my boyfriend of 18months went to stay with his mother in the town right next to us. He said it would be easier until he got his DL back. I was driving him to work everyday and picking him up. 60 miles for on trip everyday. I thought at first that it would be okay because it would be easier for a while. I also thought that he would stay with her a few days and then come home for a few days. He has only come home for 2 days in that last 2 weeks. I asked him to come home this past weekend to spend time with me even though he had to work. Thursday is my birthday and I just thought it would be nice. He told me sat that he was unsure what time he would get off but that he would call. He never did. I found out he got off fairly early and went and stayed at his cousins house. I went over to his cousins house on sunday and it was not pretty. As he walked away I told him if he did i would have my anser and it was over. I don't want to lose him but what should i do

2007-11-06 14:28:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

This lady was older for more than six years, she has a daughter fromher first husband before they separate.If i will marry the what do you think the people will say to me?

2007-11-06 14:11:41 · 14 answers · asked by erickson d 1

from the first court appearance to the last ?

2007-11-06 14:10:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife and I have been together 5 years. Over the last year her sex drive has really gone down. She is in her early 30's I heard that women in their 30 had a excelled sex drive but this hasn't happened for her. Any suggestions to bring the spark back???

2007-11-06 14:07:41 · 13 answers · asked by andrew c 2

am looking for men to contribute their experiences for case studies in a book that I am writing about the imbalances in the judicial system regarding custody, support and parental alienation...among other things. These case studies will be anonymously presented. If you feel that you have suffered, that you would like to help others find solutions so that in the future maybe equality will be more firmly established...please contact me. I am a woman married to a man who suffers repeatedly at the hands of his ex because of the love he holds for his children. I think I can help make a difference. PLEASE RESPOND TO PIEDMONTCONCERN@YAHOO.COM for additional information. Thank you in advance and know that you are not alone

2007-11-06 14:07:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous