the son is with the ex wife and they live far away(another country) so they usually come over to the city to visit so my husband feels that it's a must for the 3 of em to hang out for the sake of the kid. The husband's present wife is very welcome to join also but if she does not go, its ok with the husband as well. oh yeah, the husband was never there for the kid most of the time when the kid was growin up...and i guess its his way of making up for what he did...
2007-11-06 15:40:52 · 8 answers · asked by ohyeah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to box of rain...to me it's not ok. and i told my husband in a good way that it is uncomfy for me. but he just got mad...he said that it was for his son...what do you guys think? im confused..
2007-11-06 15:45:37 · update #1
he said the kid is young and he wants to do everything to make his kid happy and that he knows his boundaries and that I, as his wife...i have to support him since it's about his kid's happiness
2007-11-06 15:47:10 · update #2
the present wife is invited, but the husband would not take it against her if she doesnt go
2007-11-06 15:48:51 · update #3
hello my opinion is the husband is so right that child didnt' ask for this to happen and that child needs his dad as much as his mom i find it great if as separated parents they can hold this bond for the sake of the child makes a huge difference i see it with my kids (divorced and lived this to both of us vice versa) -- the kids are so much happier not to feel like they have to choose and part , and i also feel he is being fully sincere and just the fact that he doesn't mind his present wife to join goes to show he truly values her and is doing all he can to show her how much he cares and loves her despite it all -- u know there is a saying (better late than never ) well i'm truly proud and have great respect for this gentleman , he will make of this child a winner just by such actions and she is a very lucky woman to have a man so sincere and good as that by her side -- this goes to show her what a fine responsible caring husband and father this gentleman will make in her life -- i wish his present wife will fully understand where he is coming from in all this and participate with him (its not easy true) but this brings the man she loves joy and he wants to share this joy with her and that wonderful child not selfishly good luck and god bless
2007-11-06 16:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by brandy d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband had a child with his ex...I would not be very comfortable with him hanging out with that b*tch....but I am a little confused about the situation you are presenting...Is this man your husband? If all players are ok with it....then I see no problem with him hanging out with the ex...If you are invited to go along...then why don't you? Then you can see for sure if it really is for the kid...
2007-11-06 23:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as his wife is invited along too. There is no "make up" time that will patch the big time lost this child has to live with.
Personally I would never get involved with a man who had a child out of wedlock.
2007-11-06 23:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't see a problem here. It is very obvious there is nothing going on with the ex. If he doesn't see his child that often then it is not surprising the child's mother would go along as well, as the child wouldn't feel that comfortable going off alone with Dad. Surely you are not asking your husband to choose between you and his child? Why not build a relationship with the stepchild?
2007-11-14 18:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by N L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thnk its ok for them to be present for their son! suggest that at times all of you guys hang out for a meall or something ,that may ease yo fears and that wont give the son the false hope that mom n dad r back 2gether again
2007-11-06 23:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by bravo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hub doesnt need to hang with ex...his child yes,but her NO.
2007-11-06 23:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is good but you have to have trust. What is your instinct worried about? Tell your hubby how you feel.
2007-11-06 23:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Renesme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it ok with whom? You or us?
2007-11-06 23:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋