Between 2001-2004 was one of the toughest hardest times in my life I got laid off after 10 years at my job, I could not have children, my best friend moved to England, my beloved pastor who was one of my best friends passed away, I went through the worst financial time in my live ever and I was doing everything I could and things still went wrong, my landlady basically evicted my husband and I and only gave us 3 months to move and we always paid our rent on time, my father had a stroke, 9 days after I was given notice of being laid off my husband got a vascetomy because of all the medicines I take just to function I was advised never to conceive.
My question is how can I go forward and heal and enjoy the blessings of today? I just feel so hurt and wonder why this all had to happen. The incidents that Happened that I listed above still at times enter my mind. What is a good godly way to deal with hurt feelings of the past b/c there are times the wounds feel fresh and raw?
2007-11-06 16:44:35 · 8 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Use the Serenity Prayer...and really pray it. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
You have been through some truly difficult things that most people never encounter...and if they do, not at the same time like you have. Just keep your faith strong and keep praying. Get involved in a women's group at church. Start a support group for women in the community. Start looking outside yourself to help others in need and slowly your own problems will begin to fade away. God Bless.
2007-11-06 16:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by ¤¤Je§§ica¤¤ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The past happens because it needs to put us to where we are today. It is through the tough times we grow. When have you ever heard someone who is happy ask "god, please give me strength to get through another happy day in my life"? It never happens!
What have you learnt? Seriously search yourself and in there you will find something that you learnt about yourself and also things that have helped you grow. Things don't happen for no reason, there is always a reason. Thank God for the lessons and the courage that he gave you to get to where you are now, then put it behind you and never forget how rough life can be at times. Whenever something bad happens, you will have experiences to draw on. Maybe you could use your experiences to help others that are having the same struggles?
2007-11-07 00:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Shazela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always know that Our Lord has something better in store for you.
Don't worry about the past, it's gone.
Concentrate on today and do your duties as a christian being to continue on doing what God would want you to do.
Let the past go. Hurts are around everyday, and staying on the past is not going to help them or make what happened go away.
Go on and live life for today!!
2007-11-07 00:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by THEMrsMinLa&Momof2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may be suffering from depression. Are you seeing a psychologist or a psychiatrist? Cognitive behavioral therapy has the same success rate in treating mild to moderate episodes of depression that antidepressants too and it's a short term therapy usually covered by insurance. You may also want to consider medications in addition to therapy. Good luck!
2007-11-07 00:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound weird... but FORGIVE.
John 10:10 The thief (devil) comes only in order to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come in order that you might have life---life in all its fullness.
When the devil brings up hurts - search your heart... deal with your grief and pray to God to release it from you. Forgive the ones who hurt you. Forgive the ones who left you - whether they could help it or not. Forgive your former employers. Forgive your doctors. Forgive your husband. Forgive those who left you by dying.
A Christian Counselor is very helpful in guiding you through this process.
You may not think that you need to forgive them - like folks for dying, etc., but you'll be surprised when you go to God to perform the act of forgiveness - all the feelings that will come up.
Don't repress them - EXpress them.
Remember the man in Mark 9?
"Lord! I believe! Help my unbelief!"
Do not recount the wrongs.
Do not justify in your own mind your "right" to be angry or hurt.
Do not repress your feelings - and then take out your unresolved pain on others around you.
Pray - in the moment it comes to your heart -
"Father, I forgive them... help me release my unforgiveness."
It may take one time - it may take 100... but God heals you each and every time. Remember - He wants to return to you what the devil has stolen, what he has killed, and what he has destroyed so that you may have an abundant life in Christ.
Joel 2:25 And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten...
Note: Not the crops... the YEARS.
God will restore you.
Just trust Him and the work He does through his Christian workers. Forgiveness... it works.
Peace.
2007-11-07 12:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by Depoetic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through worse.
I say , dont look back. Worry about the future and start living . Forget those things you cant change. Its done. Move on. Start getting excited about things you are going to do to make life better.
2007-11-07 02:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by purplewaterhorse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so 2001-2004 were bad. This is now 2007. When do you plan to put those ugly years behind you?
Your wounds feel fresh and raw, because you allow them to.
There is NOTHING you can do to fix the past.
PLEASE try to put all your effort into each new day NOW!
2007-11-07 00:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(how did u manage up 2 now?)
ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR THE GOOD OF THEM THAT LOVE THE LOVE!!there is no situation that God cannot heal, tell him!!
2007-11-07 00:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by bravo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋