have been married for so long, & we love each other, but seems like we have no time for one another....do we?

Question

try to spice it up? OR.... call it quits, so that each of us can be in a real relationship with someone else? thanks

Answer 1

A a divorce attorney I would like to strongly encourage you to call it quits and send me gobs of your money. Thank you.

Answer 2

time to get aback into the relationship game. I'd say spice it up. Especially if you have kids. Figure out a way to start talking to each other again. There are many many books on how to do this. And websites too.
Dr Phil s Relationship Rescue is a good one to start with.

You won't be successful in another relationship if you can't get this one working. That's a statistical fact. You'll fall back into patterns and blow the next one too. So instead... work at it.

Good luck

Answer 3

MAKE time. Seriously; where does your marriage rank in your life's priorities? If it's no longer in your personal top ten, maybe it's time to bail -- but if it is still important, give it commensurate attention.

Few relationships run purely on cruise control; they require some work, input from both parties. If you both want it, start acting like it; something else must be less important, so figure out what (for each of you) and push that aside.

Answer 4

How long? Go to counseling: Therapy will open your communication again. Definitely spice it up, do romantic things for each other, plan date night like you did in the beginning of the relationship.

Answer 5

Marriage is like a bank account - the more you put in the more you can get out. If you don't put anything in you can't get anything out. Hey, we all get busy even when married. Look, plan a date night even if once every other week. At least try to eat dinner at the table most nights. Find a way to RECONNECT or it's over baby! I've been married 15 years and we both put plenty in- I get a lot out- but it's an effort. Lucky me ey.

Answer 6

If you are asking this question, I'm guessing you don' t really feel the relationship is worth the try. Consider the amount of time in, anything in common, like children, and what you are looking for from the other person. Try to communicate. That is the biggest relationship killer, communication. Good luck to both of you.

Answer 7

A lil spice can go along way.
I know how you feel, I'm like limited with time
with our kids, but we share our love with them.
We are together all day most days, so we don't have time to miss each other.
Just try meeting some new friends.
Or make a day for just you and your partner together all day.

Answer 8

Calling it quits is the easy way out and do you really want to do that? You need to make time, you made time for eachother when u were dating.You are in a real relationship.

Answer 9

If you dont have time for each other...how are you going to have time for anyone else?


Ive been married 18 yrs...I got married at 16 and we MAKE time.Theres no excuse when you're married and live together.I wouldnt put my husband off cause Im tired (we have 4 kids) or anything like that.I mean come on...even if I didnt want to ...whats 4 more mins...lol

Answer 10

spice it up. don't be so quick to quit a marriage. Marriage is suppose to last till the day you die not until you run into a rut. work it out. find some time to spend together. make love for cryin' out loud.

Answer 11

loving each other does not mean you have to be married or together...right? well...be away from each other...separate for a while...and then see if you still need each other so much....if your marriage does not work out...i do agree with you...Quit!! rather than hurting each other later...