How long did it take you to get divorced in an ugly divorce ?

Question

from the first court appearance to the last ?

Answer 1

5 1/2 yrs, it was very ugly with a custody battle that was out of this world

Answer 2

The best way to handle an "ugly" divorce is exactly what the other poster said -- don't let it get ugly.

It's hard - and sometimes getting back at the other person is the only thing you can think of, but the only people hurt in the end are any children involved and you. When I divorced my first husband he wanted to make it ugly and I refused to be baited. We fought out the custody and when it came to "stuff" I didn't argue. Stuff can be replaced eventually ---- now I am ten times better off than the miserable bastard will ever be.

Answer 3

about 2 years and for me: 10, 000 bucks. Even though we can't stand each other now, both of us wish we had never made it that ugly. We totally let our anger, frustration and emotions get in the way. I had no job either as he wanted me to be a stay at home mom for ten years, but when the divorce came I got a lot of ugly letters from him saying that I needed to develop a backbone and support myself and the two little children who suddenly it was fine to throw them in daycare and for me to work so he didn't have to pay...he also said that if I didn't want to be married, he wasn't going to pay me anymore because "when you quit your job they don't pay you anymore" , let's see, two years of ugly yep that's it! By the way, I did manage to make ends meet on a part time job for a few more years until the kids were older then I went back to school for a year, and got a great job now! I'm doing fine and I get a week and half off at Christmas to spend with the kids because my work shuts down......wheeeee, I did good.

Answer 4

I've heard of one or two divorces that weren't ugly, but I don't know of any personally.

I was divorced twice. My first wife divorced me after 9 years. From the first filing to the final decree signed by the judge, it took about four months. I basically rolled over and played dead on that one, since I thought that she'd come to her senses eventually if I did and I could move back into the house that I had mostly paid for and live once again in our home with our son. Playing dead didn't work. But, I agree with others who say that the only winners in divorce are the lawyers. Our best chance to win in a divorce is if our kids grow up to be happy and healthy (my son is a healthy 19-year-old, now -- he was 6 when his mother kicked me out of our home).

I divorced my second wife. I got into that one too soon after my first divorce, but had no idea that I might be rebounding. After eight months of ups and downs, I finally realized that I'd never make it with her when she asked me on Christmas Day for a separation. I told her I could move out the next day -- and I did.

I filed in January and the divorce was final in June. (On several occasions during the divorce, she pleaded with me to return. But, she was married again to husband #4 in August.)

In both cases, my wives made out better than I did, whether or not they care to admit that. And in both cases, the divorces were ugly, no matter how much we tried to be nice to each other along the way.

So, in my case, the divorces took four months and five months, respectively...and they were ugly. Divorce is Hell.

Answer 5

Hint: Don't make the divorce ugly. Use a mediating attorney, have him help you with issues you have pre-agreed upon. The only guy who wins in an ugly divorce are the two attorneys..... about $12,000+ buckos of your money. The only way to divorce is civily. Accept that your marriage is over, and stop fighting over silly stuff... translation: It is ALL silly stuff.

Answer 6

I don't understand you question because all divorces are ugly.

Answer 7

my friend got in an ugly divorced and it took about2 years befor it was offical