2007-11-06 15:13:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi! I am doing it right now and it is hard but I really think that it's worth it. It jsut depends on the person, the situation and how you feel about each other. My boyfriend and I have been friends since junior high and we even dated right out of high school but we lost contact. Not sure what we broke up over but it must have been nothing major. Anywho, his wife served him with papers when she was like 6 months pregnant and they were only married for 6 months! She is now playing games with him seeing his son so the situation is very sticky. Long story short he really makes me happy and we get along way better then him and his wife ever did. I say go for it but just keep in mind the emotional roller coasters that you can go through and remember that communication is key! Just also dont expect to get married with that person anytime soon. In situations like this time is definetly your friend! I hope this helps and good luck from a person who is going through it.
Update: My boyfriend is seperated from his soon to be ex and they have been seperated since February. They have filed for divorce but she hasnt done anything to make it go further or speed up the process. I agree that the person should be seperated and without a doubt want to get the divorce...no wishy washy I dont know stuff!
2007-11-06 15:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience,,,,I am married and dating. My divorce is STILL dragging out because it's more complex than a simple cut n' dry, you sign here, he signs there then BAM you're divorced. Anyone else on here that's been divorced knows what I'm talking about. I have child custody issues to deal with that have now stretched my marriage out another 6 months. My husband is dating someone else as well. What are people like us suppose to do, stay single and celibate until the issue clears? My opinion is that once the divorce papers have been served, you two aren't living together or even communicating, and there is NO CHANCE IN HELL for reconciliation, then it's all fair game to date. It's just a piece of paper now that's gonna be torn up anyway and the whole marriage vows went out the window once the divorce papers were drawn up.
Had I not been through this myself, I would probably not think too highly of the person you're describing. But I know firsthand what the situation consists of.
2007-11-06 15:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
not appropriate for several reasons...
1 you're not divorced yet
2 figure out what went wrong in the marriage before you start dating again. Or you will make the same mistake again. Guaranteed.
3. Learn how to be independent.
4 you're not divorced yet. It's not right to be going out with some one til the strings are cut . you are not a free agent
2007-11-06 15:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by teritaur 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My opinion is....If divorce has been filed and one has moved out,then maybe I would.But I think I would need time before I started another relationship while I had a divorce going on.
Same as if I wasnt married and going to date a guy who was.He'd have to have filed for divorce and moved out before I'd do anything with him.
2007-11-06 15:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by ...Tammy... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how long ago the decision was made to divorce. i think that you need a little bit of time before you start dating but if the divorce is dragging on and you are ready to move on then i think it is ok to date.
2007-11-06 15:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by avalon552 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the person has been begging the spouse to give her a divorce -for the longest time- and the spouse doesn't want to give it to her? So, she starts dating anyways since she's been separated for a long time.
2007-11-06 15:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the dating is not leading to a relarionship with a third person...it is alright. It is, however, not fair to bring a 3rd party to your broken relationship and expect them to deal with you and your see/saw emotions of getting a divorce. EVERYONE SHOULD GO THROUGH THEIR DIVORCE WITH OUT THE BENEFIT OF A 3RD PARTY WAITING IN THE WINGS. GOOD LUCK.
2007-11-06 15:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce before start dating if the reason divorce is adultery.
2007-11-06 15:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i believe u made an oath, a vowe, and a promise in gods eyes, soul, heart and that you should honer those vowels becouse unless there is phisical abuse it is the strongest promise u will ever give to someone else
2007-11-06 15:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by chris.martinez58 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is a great idea. Why deal with your problems when you can just continue to thrust them on someone else!
Good luck.
2007-11-06 15:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋