I just want to know how important this thing is in your relationship... is it a good reason for break up?
2007-11-06 15:28:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I tried to, I talked to him. he just wouldn't listen! I was really feeling unwanted! I was married for 4 years...
2007-11-06 15:47:40 · update #1
any reason if it gets under your skin enough can be bonafide.
2007-11-06 15:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by CHARLES R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you try counseling? Together or apart, it might help. Only you can answer if you made the right choice in leaving. It doesn't really matter in the end if he was a hugger or not. You told him repeatedly that you needed this and he ignored you. In a marriage the partner must put the other ahead of themself sometimes. If you kept asking for warmth and hugs and he refused, that shows he didn't really care for your well being. It isn't like you asked for the impossible.
Have you considered he may have a psychological problem? Or it may be neurological. Some people dislike being touched. Is it possible he has Aspergers? You can look it up online and read the characteristics. People with Aspergers sometimes dislike touch and also they often lack empathy. Meaning, if he could not see why you needed it, then to him it was unnecessary.
Bottom line if you were unhappy and he refused to meet you halfway that wasn't much to write home about was it...People rush into commitments sometimes without thinking enough. If you made a mistake on this, try and get counseling to make sure you don't make the same one again later. You were drawn to him for a reason. Find out what it was or you may end up with the same person again in a different way. Good luck.
2007-11-09 05:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Buzzy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people need their space ..especially in bed at night! There has to be more of a reason than just the fact that he didn't cuddle with you!??! If you felt unloved..the lack of cuddling may have just been a small part or something that set you off to feel the way you did and end you relationship. I think that if you just left because of something like that ..I'd hate to see what you'd do when real problems arise in any relationship you have. A lack of cuddling is so MINOR compared to what some men/women do to their significant others!
2007-11-06 15:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by simplymel78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong. however you will get two sets of answers to your question . As there are touchy feely people and then there are others who dont' need the affection or touching.
Just different folks. everyone has needs for you , you prefer touching hugs etc...
Other may not express there feelings yet show by cleaning the house or cooking or other things.
And im sure you felt alone and not loved this way. and empty.
another analagy would be your like a flower you need to be watered and you need sunlight and good soil.
Or you could be a cactus you dont need much of anything and your fine.
you see the two differences?
Well I hope that answered your question.
and in your future relationships I hope you will find a warm fuzzy that treats you well . and you can make up for lost time. lol
2007-11-06 19:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really crappy reason to break a vow of marriage. Sounds like you should have never been married in the first place. He will probably be better off with out you and you will be better off with out him.
2007-11-06 15:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is very important coz this is also a kind of affirmation for one another, love acceptance, that u need each other and if the touch is gone then his mind is definitely somewhere not necessarily loving some1 but maybe he just doesnt feel the same as he did about you! the love cud be gone and might not find u attrictve.(not necessarily fizical
2007-11-06 15:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by bravo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were there any other ways in which your ex showed some affection to you, at all? Maybe he didn't know how to and you didn't have the patience to show him? It just seems a bit extreme to get a divorce over "not cuddling." I don't know...
2007-11-06 15:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was me i would of left him allso. I like being cuddled buy my man. It makes you feel wanted and loved. Hope you find some one that will cuddle you. Good Luck.
2007-11-06 15:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by patches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the type of thing that happens when people do not look into the personalitity of who they marry.
i do cuddle with my wife. though its not a good reason to brake up
2007-11-06 15:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married? Is his family affectionate? Maybe he is not use toit. You need to talk to him and find out why he is this way. There must of been some good in him.. you married him.
2007-11-06 15:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by bella s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seriously divorced your spouse because he wouldn't cuddle with you? Now I have heard it all.
All I can tell you is that one day you will ultimately be judged not on the commitments you make, but rather the commitments you keep.
Good luck.
2007-11-06 15:35:14 · answer #11 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋