Marriage & Divorce - 6 November 2007

i have been seeing a married man for one year.i ended it ,but he finds it hard to let me go or even tell me the truth about why he wont leave his wife ,he still calls when i say no ,i change my number ,he shows up at my door , he secretly drives by my work and house,point blank he finds it hard to leave me and he tries to make me feel guilty for leaving him .so all wives out there have you ever thought tha your husbands are the ones that are making the other woman feel like they are not happy and that they want to be with them.i think people should stop blaming the other woman nad blame the looser married men that cant be honest with anyone.I was a mistress but i ended it ,but the married man made me feel like i should hold on, he lied to keep me longer ,told me he loved me ,he told me he was leaving her , he was begging me to have his kids,.So stop blaming the other woman because like you , they hurt us too even when you leave them to help save your marriage .

2007-11-06 14:03:09 · 44 answers · asked by kim27 2

I am 24 years old and my girlfriend is of 21 year old. My parents will be happy with our marriage, but her parents are not agreeing. I am employed in a MNC and she is studding engineering in a reputated institute, she will get employed after one year when she will be of 22 year old. Her parents are not agree, they called me to talk and they told me that do not talk to my daughter. She loves me and I love her very much. Both of us can not live without each other. She can leave her parents for our marriage. My parents will accept her very happily. Her parents have a problem with my cast, I belong to an upper cast and she also belongs to an upper cast, but our cast is not the same. They also have a problem with my family’s living standards. As both of us belong to different places so our living style will be different. I and she both will adjust. I belong to Bihar so; they have a problem that I am a Bihary. Give me some legal suggestion if we will get married then Indian law will protect us? What we can do if after marriage they will threat us or they will commit suicide. Will it affect us legally? If they will try to take some action then what we will do to protect us legally?

2007-11-06 13:57:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

punishment. I went over the limit on the credit card. He doesnt know yet. I could pay it off with my spending money but how am i gonna hide it from him? Or should i tell him and take my spanking?

2007-11-06 13:52:03 · 72 answers · asked by Anonymous

In a relationship, i always seek for a chinese guy... no matter if he's from singapore, malaysia, china, or anywhere in this world. As long as he's a chinese. I can't make my self to like a western, or indian, or african. Though when i look at around me, i find out many of asian women or men have cross marriage. I am happy for them, really, from my heart. But i just can't imagine if i were one of them. Is this what you call, racial?

2007-11-06 13:42:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last week when I was really angry with my husband I wrote my mother in law an email telling her that I thought my husband was a jerk, liar, etc. and that I feel she has always hated me. I'm certain she has received and read the letter but she hasn't spoken to either of us so I want advice on how to talk to my husband about this before he gets a call from his mom. I don't feel that anything I wrote was untrue but it wasn't the best way to get out my feelings. I'm am worried this may cause our marriage to end, he is always on the verge of walking out. Any mature ways to deal with this?

2007-11-06 13:35:52 · 14 answers · asked by ginnyp82 2

are you ever afraid of your marriage might not work and you end up spliting up.

2007-11-06 13:35:37 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have posted some questions regarding whom my ex should work on the relationship? Some answers said that he should work on the relationship with his ex spouse instead of the new partner because they have make a marriage vows, and they have been through the good and bad times together. How about if a person whom married few times, which ex he would work on the relationship? Does each ex means same in God's eyes? Then, how about his current partner whom this person also make a commitment with? Does it mean nothing at all because we have not got that piece of paper yet?

2007-11-06 13:31:24 · 5 answers · asked by Kim J 1

Someone just called me barbaric for believing in them...what do you think?

2007-11-06 13:27:48 · 10 answers · asked by Lexy 6

2007-11-06 13:23:48 · 11 answers · asked by red dogg 1

I have about 50K in bonds and a home with a mortgage in my name. My wife is a graduate student and has not earned any income during this 18 month period. Is she entitled to any of my money or assets?

2007-11-06 13:19:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Because we are moms it can become so easy to try and make everything prefect for our families, feeling that we have some "magical" control over things, so that when something happens we feel its all our fault; that we did something to make it happen.

So as a mom with a spiritual nature which is more important to be prefect or to seek prefection.

2007-11-06 13:19:06 · 10 answers · asked by Spiritual_Director_4_Women 2

2007-11-06 13:13:30 · 8 answers · asked by behindthescene 1

I can't figure this out. He went from being attentive and loving to acting like a jerk over a one year period. It started just before he proposed and just got worse over time. He began hanging out with his friends, never made plans with me and neglected me and when I complained, he didn't seem to get it nor care or did anything about it. Then he rented a house next door to his friends and it got progressively worse. He never wants sex and when I initiate he says it's a weak way of initiating and turns me down and says sex is too much work or gives no foreplay. He doesn't call me when he gets home from work anymore and just goes next door and parties. (There aren't any women there I know of either. It's so bad, I have contemplated maybe he's gay - but I doubt it- who knows!) Today, he worked over time, didn't call to let me know, I made dinner. I nicely asked why he didn't call - he said 'so what?' Like it's no big deal! We don't kiss anymore. (No wed plans yet-of course!)What happ?

2007-11-06 13:05:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

We got married last march, we were together for two years. when we got married Two months ago i found out that he was with another girl, for almost ten months, he broke my heart because i love him so much. I left my house when i found out about the other girl, and now he wants me to go back with him. Is been two months with out him, i know that i was always busy either school or work. Im confused i do not know what to do.

2007-11-06 12:51:59 · 12 answers · asked by Vloky86 1

I am married happy or at least I thought. Seven years ago my hubby created our emails. We both have the same password and i've never changed mine. Well we pay some bill's on the net and I needed the password sent to me because i forgot the password for the site to which we pay the bill. They sent the password to my hubby's account since that was the one we used when we opened it. That's when I found out he'd changed his password. No big deal i told him to get the infor and give it to me, he did. Several weeks pass and i sat down at the computer his email was open. I see a email from AFF a sex site. This is word for word what he wrote for his profile "I'm the type who's always looking to improve on what I have. Hello! I'm not a tame puppy or a pit bull. Put me somewhere in between. Hey there! I'm an easy going, nonjudgmental guy who's looking for new things to try out. I want to build a stable life with the love of my life. What do I do?

2007-11-06 12:50:12 · 30 answers · asked by Nasra 2

2007-11-06 12:49:24 · 42 answers · asked by JWalker 1

I am one of them. I am 19 and won't be getting married ever. I just don't want to live with some one else I am getting an apartment next year and want to live on my own. YA YA people change, but my mind is made up on this one. Also why do people say your not grown up untill ur married. Cuz I get comments like "when you grow up and get married and have a wife", Im like uhhh not getting married and I am grown up. Why you gotta be married to be grown up doesn't make sense. So ur saying people who never get married never grow up. Well that is dumb and has no back to it. I guess people think there is something wrong if you don't go with the mainstream and do what everyone else does. But I have been going up the stream my whole life and thats how I like it don't care what people think.

2007-11-06 12:43:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a husband who treats me great. He does things around the house and is always respectful. I have a few problems though. He is in major debt (yes i knew before we married) and it has taken me 5 years to get him to call a consolidation place. I don't nag, just mention it every once and awhile. He also has talked me into going to the casino every weekend for the past 2 years. I told him no this weekend and he just watched tv all day and didn't want to do anything. I don't feel we have any fun together anymore. He also has talked me into getting money from my credit card for gambling. I don't know why I have let him do it but it stops now. I am just not feeling great about my marriage. I am going to be screwed finacially for the rest of my life. I know I should have known. Is our marriage doomed? Anybody ever have the same problems? I just don't know if I can handle this for the rest of my life.

2007-11-06 12:42:34 · 9 answers · asked by Amanda E 2

I started it I still love her
my wife and I have little in common 2 kids

2007-11-06 12:40:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok so my partner and I have been together for quite a while now and in the past years we have never experienced any isuues in the bedroom. However lately I just dont feel into it. Not that I do not want it just that there is always something to do or im tired from a long day. Do you have any suggestions to help spice up our "physical love life"? Or to get me there in the frst place?

2007-11-06 12:39:53 · 12 answers · asked by dee 1

2007-11-06 12:31:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Should I be concerned or am I over reacting? He doesn't know that I know about him talking to these other women. I don't understand I ask him if hes happy or do I need to do more or less I don't know what to do.We have been married for 5 yrs and we have 3 kids he tells them he has 1 I had 2 from a previous relationship and he said he accepted them as his own.Now he is denying them and that hurts. It took me awhile to let him in and get close because I was a single parent for so long.To hear about this hurts really bad. The daughter that he claims is our 3 yr old we have together. I don't like being lied to and I wonder if he might take the flirting to anothe level and actually cheat. I've asked him has he cheated on me he said no but isn't his actions on-line a form of cheatin wanting to talk nasty on the computer ? I don't even kmow him anymore I've asked him over and over if he wants out and he says no. I don't know what to do.

2007-11-06 12:23:08 · 10 answers · asked by mammissy 1

out of the house.

Look, both have married before, but she was not speaking very good English at the time..he fooled her into signing a pre-nup and called it a paper conditional towards buying their condo...she signed it, not knowing better and trusting her new husband...

now he took their daughter to his mother's house and told the cops that he wanted her out of the house...now..he has persuaded the leaders of our church that he is right and they are not willing to help her at all..

I can't help to think that HE has kidnapped his own daughter and LIED to the cops about her being dangerous in order to validate his decision...

my wife and I know her REAL well and have NO problem having her babysit our kids...she has looked over them SEVERAL times without any problems

the "dangerous" thing is a BS excuse..

Does SHE have ANY rights at all??? What can she take this ahole for??

2007-11-06 12:20:09 · 8 answers · asked by juanes addicion 6

I share things with my husband. He is the one person I can trust and sometimes I blab about things my friends tell me. I can 100% trust him, but now when I mention I am going out with a specific person he often says "oh - that cheating whore". He constantly does this! How can I get him to stop after telling him it bothers me?

2007-11-06 12:19:05 · 19 answers · asked by Cassandra C 4

He was controlling,emotionally and verbally abusive and he assualted me

2007-11-06 12:18:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I meet a girl and after a few months I tell her that we should learn to know each other more better before actually moving and living together. If her answer is "well if i dont live here with you, I cant guarantee you that i won't see other guys. What does that mean ??

2007-11-06 12:17:13 · 43 answers · asked by Deeee 2

How long would you let it go on before you went through w/ it?

2007-11-06 12:14:36 · 18 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6

I am in my mid 20's, and he is about 5 years older than I am. I have a 6 year old son, and have never been married. He, however, has been married and divorced. They never had children, but she had an abortion that he did not really want her to have about 6 years ago. They divorced a little over 2 years ago, and I know that is still bothers him. I think he is over her, but not being divorced (his family is very catholic, and they split only because she was cheating on him). I met his family for the forst time a few weeks ago, and REALLY liked them. It was ALL his idea, but now he seems a bit freaked out that we are getting close. I think he just doesn't want to go through what he went through before.
Also, he is a bar manager, and I don't mind it, but also don't love it. I know his parents really dont like it, or that he is out, LATE, all the time. I know that he wants out of that life, and will quit soon enough.

2007-11-06 12:07:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-06 11:34:54 · 16 answers · asked by BUTTHEAD 2

we are not married. hes my boyfriend and i have come upon my dilemma............... a lot of anniversary gifts are for people who are married..... help. and if you need relationship advise I'm your girl. :)

2007-11-06 11:28:36 · 17 answers · asked by maddy 2