I meet a girl and after a few months I tell her that we should learn to know each other more better before actually moving and living together. If her answer is "well if i dont live here with you, I cant guarantee you that i won't see other guys. What does that mean ??
2007-11-06 12:17:13 · 43 answers · asked by Deeee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would say.... she is pry just saying that because she wants you to give in and move in with her. From personal experience... DONT move in yet!!! You need more time to know each other. When you live with a significant other you get to know all there is to know-- good and bad in a HUGE hurry! Sometimes you just arent ready to know that much ao fast! You guys are still in the newer part of your relationship... the dreamy phase,thats always the best. You dont wanna ruin things before they even become something!!! If she insists on this crap of her way or no way, just leave her because shes only thinking of herself and thats not fair to you! This is a woman's perspective.
2007-11-06 12:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by kylie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know 4 sure, but she almost seems desperate to move in with u. And if u don't know her really well already, and she said something like that, i couldn't guarantee that she wouldn't see other people even if she is living with u. Are u going out? If not don't have her move in with u. But if u are, then she probably would cheat on u anyway.
2007-11-06 12:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Boy. She's manipulating you! If you don't do what she wants, then you're threatened!
Stand up for what you believe in, and stay strong.
If she goes ahead with the dating others, then she surely doesn't love you, she's just looking for a place to stay!
It sounds like she can't be trusted and she isn't even in your house yet. Can you imagine what will happen once she gets in? And, worst of all, in most states, once someone lives somewhere for a period of time it becomes their home also! You will have a very hard time getting her out. By that I mean eviction notice, court appearances, and all the stress no one needs.
Think about this before you allow it in your life.
2007-11-06 12:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by latebreakfast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure she means that if you guys aren't guaranteed to live together, she's not guaranteed to only see you. I think she wants to know whether you guys will live together or not right away. It also may depend on the way she said it.
2007-11-06 12:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by Madeline H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. well it sounds like she's saying she either wants proof of a comitment or she's out. Although I agree with you, you should know her really well before making a move like that.
In my opinion, she's not worth it, she sounds like she's just trying to scare you. Chances are, you'll find someone better who won't try to pressure you into things.
I mean, maybe you can try talking to her about it, if she's going to make you sound like a bad person for not being ready for the move, move on.
2007-11-06 12:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by Demonica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just means she's trying to convince you to let her move in by threatening you with seeing other guys. Tell her to do it , if that's whats gonna make her happy. Ask her what does living apart have to do with being commited to each other. Tell her even if you guys were to live together whats to guarentee that she wouldnt still see other guys since she's so quick to do it when you guys live apart..
2007-11-06 12:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by that hot chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means she is putting the pressure on you!
Time to figure out how you feel, and what ou want. It sucks, but you need to weigh your options. Are you ok with her sleeping with other guys? And are you ok with being pushed into living with someone????
Need to think these things through and have a real conversation with her. You may try saying that you are not ok with her being with someone else, but that you arent quite ready to move in, etc. and you dont want to rush in ans screw things up. See where she stands if you say you cant be ok with either.
2007-11-06 12:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want a committed relationship.
You should not be moving in together after a few months anyway. Just marriage.
2007-11-06 12:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are right. She wants you to commit. Girls have the misconception that making a man jealous will make you both grow closer. You're supposed to realize how much you DON'T want her with other guys. Instead she seems "loose". Tell her that you're okay with that and see what she does. I believe calling her bluff will stop all of that nonsense.
2007-11-06 12:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means just what she says. If she doesn't live with you and have that commitment then she is still free basically. If shes not with you all the time there is still going to be the temptation and sooner or later she is going to give in
2007-11-06 12:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by xxvacantsmilexx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋