Ok so my partner and I have been together for quite a while now and in the past years we have never experienced any isuues in the bedroom. However lately I just dont feel into it. Not that I do not want it just that there is always something to do or im tired from a long day. Do you have any suggestions to help spice up our "physical love life"? Or to get me there in the frst place?
2007-11-06 12:39:53 · 12 answers · asked by dee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are experiencing the same married situation that most do. Yes like the others have said do something different, fresh clean bedding (spritz the bedding with a favorite scent he wears that you really like) the candlelit bath for 2, after a nice dinner. Or if possible cook dinner together in the nude (and hands off each other and follow the plan), share the meal, then bathe together, hit the sack in something sexy. Have the p-nut butter, whipped cream, jelly or ??? ready as the dessert. This will surely make a difference, but not an every night thing. For the most part if your relationship, has stress, or financial, or family problems, these all make a mental difference for sex with your partner. If you are ticked off with him, then no you won't want sex. Look and talk about the living conditions and what is really bothering you. Then tell him but not the night you are surprising him with this nice evening. Good Luck..
2007-11-06 13:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by Toffy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy clearly has anger management problems and doesn't know how to process them correctly and takes it out on you verbally which is wrong to do. The best thing for both of you is to sit down and talk about his temper when he is in a receptive mood..you of all people know when that is. He needs therapy/counseling for this condition as it could be something he learned from childhood possibly watching his parents do this and thinking this is how it should be, this is how it's done and he only knows it to be this way if he doesn't get what he wants or things going on outside the relationship work, school or what ever isn't up to par. It is not healthy for the relationship to continue like this. If there is alcohol or drugs involved that is something to look closely at as it could be a trigger or a catalyst if you will to his behavior problem. If this subject matter causes him to strip a gear then turns very ugly when talking about it then perhaps the best thing to do is to cut the relationship off and walk away while you can. More often than not this is a precursor to physical domestic violence which you definitely don't want!
2016-05-28 05:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by juliette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok, most couples who are in serious relationships have this situation that they've gone through. It would be probably because of long work days like you said, both are very busy, something's always going on...that type of thing. I would mentally try and put yourself in a mood that would entice you. Things like this sometimes you have to make time for, you know? One thing that always works for me is lingerie, even if it's just a skimpy bra, it gets me in the mood and I get attacked! =) Good luck !
2007-11-06 12:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Purchase a Kama Sutra Book
Go to a sex store together
Watch adult movies together
Wear sexy lingerie - meet him at the door with your " birthday suit " on
Plan a special night, wine candles and a nice dinner, maybe some romantic music also.
Cook together- its very romantic
Bathe together-super romantic
Hope this helps.
2007-11-06 12:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by Tru_New Orleanian 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I own a online sex toy shop and let me tell you I sale a lot of products for just that problem!! Look in to it spice things up
2007-11-06 14:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for your sex interest to wear off after being with the same person for years, try something new with him, what do you like? Take a trip to a sex shop or buy a book!
2007-11-06 12:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by some female 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can depend on your situation and your age. If you are a young mother. Your hormones could be out of balance and you definately will be fatiged from taking care of children.
If you are older you maybe coming into pre menopause.
Talk to your doctor, he/she maybe able to help.
2007-11-06 18:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all too common phase that many have gone through and are going through, do not worry about it...nor make a major issue of it. Believe me it will past
2007-11-06 14:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by babegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your partner to help with your load if at all possible.
2007-11-06 12:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some romantic music, candles, wine, sexy lingerie, champagne, chocolate, toys, fantasy roleplay, foreplay,
2007-11-06 12:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by ♪♫Tweedle Dee♪♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋