Should I be concerned or am I over reacting? He doesn't know that I know about him talking to these other women. I don't understand I ask him if hes happy or do I need to do more or less I don't know what to do.We have been married for 5 yrs and we have 3 kids he tells them he has 1 I had 2 from a previous relationship and he said he accepted them as his own.Now he is denying them and that hurts. It took me awhile to let him in and get close because I was a single parent for so long.To hear about this hurts really bad. The daughter that he claims is our 3 yr old we have together. I don't like being lied to and I wonder if he might take the flirting to anothe level and actually cheat. I've asked him has he cheated on me he said no but isn't his actions on-line a form of cheatin wanting to talk nasty on the computer ? I don't even kmow him anymore I've asked him over and over if he wants out and he says no. I don't know what to do.
2007-11-06 12:23:08 · 10 answers · asked by mammissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry for your delimia, but heres what my sister did!! She didn't react, she just took some time, moved $$$ fom their account to hers, let the bills get way behind, and kept them hid!! And then 1 day while he was at the beach!!!! She packed the best stuff,her stuff,kidss things, and left!! Now thats RESPONDING!! She called the utilities, and had everthing shut off, canceled his truck insuaance, and printed alot of his e-mails form the women, and left them on the table.. And left for Cali., started a new life, andis loving it!! I guess I should tell you the truth, I encouraged her to do this stuff to that wonderful man!!!!
2007-11-06 14:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do think it is wrong and I think that if you love someone enough you should respect the fact it hurts them and stop. My husband did the same thing. He would do it in front me and he just said "honey you know that I have always liked to mess around with people on the computer. I don't know them and will never meet them it is just a joke and fun to do." But the thing is you never know if he will actually go and meet them. Yeah it could just be harmless fun. That is something a lot of guys do. But you don't actually know. And the fact that he is not claiming your kids as his now and acting differ would make me think. My ex did that he told me he loved me and I was the only one at the same time he was cheating on me telling his ex the same thing. I made up a screen name and started talking to him pretending to be another woman and later asked him if he wanted to meet. That way I knew he was cheating. I had a friend call him acting like the girl he was talking to (which was really me.) That was the only way I knew to prove it and not have doubts. And I was right. Of course he pulled that whole I knew it was you that is why I did what I did. But I am not dumb. I can't say yes your husband is cheating just because mine did. But what he is doing is still wrong. Talk to him and tell him things need to change or it is not going to work. And go from there. Or do what I did. lol good luck.
2007-11-06 13:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by jennie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my question to u is what do u want out of this -- to me he knew u had kids he accepted now he denys them and i hope not in front of those kids that can really scar a child -- think u and the kids especially those kids -- as per the flirting smells really funny -- if i were happy and fulfilled personally my time would rather be spent with the man of my life and my kids then be online flirting -- but that is me , i cannot judge either/or the decision all comes down to u and those kids and him only u all know the real thing behind those closed doors .... good luck to all of u hope this helps
2007-11-06 14:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by brandy d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy.... hide the keyboard and say its broken .. hehe..seriously,.. anyone married and juicin' it up with others online is considered cheatin' no ifs ands or butts.. marriage is marriage... and that other part of life before should be completely expired.. fantasies and dreams can and do become reality very easily..be positive, focus, and your answer is closer to the door than you might think.
2007-11-06 14:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by blueyes_of_italy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well his actions on the computer are out of order. The guy obviously doesnt respect you or women in general. You deserve somebody who will treat you alot better!!
2007-11-06 12:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him you know. You have been single & independent before you could do it again. If he is saying things like that on the internet then I think there is something wrong with him.
2007-11-06 12:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behavior is unacceptable to say the least....You definitely should be concerned....and if he is willing to talk "nasty" to these women...I am willing to bet that he would take it to the next level....demand that he stop talking with women on the computer...and that if he really wants to talk nasty to talk nasty with you....
2007-11-06 12:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you show him the proved that you know, unless you check his email without his permission.
if you think he is cheating on you with these women online, you should confront him, and see if you need to move on with your life by yourself again.
2007-11-06 12:29:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kristine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking dirty to other women online IS cheating if you ask me. I do not think you are overreacting, I don't think you are reacting enough.
2007-11-06 12:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by andmic510 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how it makes you feel , straight up.
2007-11-06 15:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Duncan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋