We got married last march, we were together for two years. when we got married Two months ago i found out that he was with another girl, for almost ten months, he broke my heart because i love him so much. I left my house when i found out about the other girl, and now he wants me to go back with him. Is been two months with out him, i know that i was always busy either school or work. Im confused i do not know what to do.
2007-11-06 12:51:59 · 12 answers · asked by Vloky86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, he cheated on you. While "once a cheater, always a cheater" doesn't apply to a guy cheating on some other girl. It does apply to a guy cheating on you. Besides, it's only been two months and do you really believe he broke it off with the other girl or are they just laying low?
Blaming it on you being busy with school and work is not an excuse. A loving man would be patient, understanding and supportive of your educational and career aspirations, this guy is a bum. He doesn't love you and never did. He loved you for what you did for him and when that was put on hold, he went off to use someone else.
2007-11-06 12:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can appreciate your confusion. It's hard when you love someone you know in your heart is not good for you. A two month marriage is way too short to have to suffer this type of trauma. It is clear that he deceived you completely. There is no excuse for this. Had you known he was with another girl, you would have never married him. This is called "fraud" and can be used as a basis for you to get an annulment, instead of divorce. I recommend that you ask an attorney about this as it will be in your best interest in the long run. I do not recommend that you get back with this person, especially considering the level of deceptiveness. Make no mistake about this-----his affair was well planned out and intentional and caused you to make a marital decision which you would not have made had you known the truth. Please try to seek some legal advice and move on.
2007-11-06 23:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, the way I look at that is if they cheat once, they'll cheat again. But I say this because I've seen it happen with my friends =( You can always be busy with work and school, but one can ALWAYS make time for emotions and feelings. If someone wants to be with you, they WILL make time and so will you. You're feeling hurt right now and rightfully so. I would give it a lot of time to think about things and talk about things. There was a reason why he cheated and that's what you want to find out. Men don't cheat "just because". Good luck and best wishes!
2007-11-06 21:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with the "once a cheater always a cheater", even though he was with her for a while, you were at work and it was probably hard for him not to see you so he took someone else. I think you should hear his sie of the story then if it is good enough, you stay, but you don't trust him as much. If the story is not good enough you should leave him, you will fid many other men to support your needs and not break your heart. You will make the right disission, so don't worry about it.
2007-11-06 21:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by fblsgrl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
remember he has a mind of his own and should have known what it ment when he married you. He married you, not you and all the other hoochie mommas out there. He's not worth it, yes it hurts and yes you will love him because you have a history. Take it from someone that kept giving her EX chance after chance, it doesn't work. They still scerw around on you behind your back.
2007-11-06 22:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, go back but sort of on a trial period. Men are not naturally monogamous. Put the past behind you and try to forget how much pain your suffered. Those were yesterdays. What's really important to you and all of us is TODAY and a better tomorrow. Good question, good luck.
2007-11-06 21:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by FRANsuFU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can go back But It Will Never Be The Same! Save yourself a lot of time and heart ache and go on with your life without him. Good Luck
2007-11-06 21:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by carmey1173 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he was with her before AND after your wedding? That doesn't sound good. You were only married part of one year. Marriage goes on for decades and if he can't remain faithful for part of one year, what are the chances he'll go 30yrs or more? On the other hand, young guys fall more into this than middle agers, but still, I wouldn't risk it. Start over.
2007-11-06 20:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Johan W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO, DO NOT go back. He should have thought about how much he wanted you before he went to the other girl. And so soon after getting married? Please, stay where you are, away from him.
2007-11-06 20:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. You could give it another round but don't be surprised if it happens again. Has he admitted he made a mistake? Have you truly forgiven him?
2007-11-06 20:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by slave2art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋