I am married happy or at least I thought. Seven years ago my hubby created our emails. We both have the same password and i've never changed mine. Well we pay some bill's on the net and I needed the password sent to me because i forgot the password for the site to which we pay the bill. They sent the password to my hubby's account since that was the one we used when we opened it. That's when I found out he'd changed his password. No big deal i told him to get the infor and give it to me, he did. Several weeks pass and i sat down at the computer his email was open. I see a email from AFF a sex site. This is word for word what he wrote for his profile "I'm the type who's always looking to improve on what I have. Hello! I'm not a tame puppy or a pit bull. Put me somewhere in between. Hey there! I'm an easy going, nonjudgmental guy who's looking for new things to try out. I want to build a stable life with the love of my life. What do I do?
2007-11-06 12:50:12 · 30 answers · asked by Nasra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
create a profile.....
respond to him.
play it up, and see if he is for real.
either way...you know he is true to you,
OR
you have all the emails from him to the profile you created...to take his lousy butt to court, and clean him out, IF he is cheating.
2007-11-06 12:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by Rudy J 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My husband was into that stuff for a while. He met a woman and had an online "friendship". I know that they never met, but it was a killer for me anyway. I could not believe that he wanted to pursue the company of another woman, friend or otherwise. That was a couple of years ago and we have worked thru it and things are going great between us. In my case I knew he was messaging months before I was able to break into his account. He was getting up at night after he thought I was alseep and be out on the computer. If I got up out of bed and walk out in the living room he would say that he "couldn't sleep" so decided to do some computer work. That was balogna because it was out of his norm. I chose not to confront him until I figured out his password. He had profiles on several sites so it was difficult for me to figure it all out and by the time I had all my "evidence" the friendship had fizzled out. I confronted him months later when I saw from the history that he had been on a site called milfseeker. I came completely unglued and sh#t really hit the fan then and he has been a good boy ever since. I can't tell you to wait so long to confront him as I did. I was just lucky because he made the choice not pursue the relationship. Good luck with whatever you decide to do. But whatever you do, print out copies of all the profiles and whatever you can. Besides the history you can also check out the cookies and see where else he has been checking out. He is likely deleting the history because that is easy to do and he probably thinks you won't go to the effort to look elsewhere on the computer.
2007-11-06 22:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the type who's always looking to improve on what I have. Hello! I'm not a tame puppy or a pit bull. Put me somewhere in between. Hey there! I'm an easy going, nonjudgmental guy who's looking for new things to try out. I want to build a stable life with the love of my life. For me a perfect date is a night on the town with a fascinating companion. When I'm at home alone, I'm working out and exercising a lot. On Sunday afternoons I like to get out of the house and go for a walk or a drive. My friends call me a charmer who's always dependable. Experience-wise, I've done a few things, but I want to do a lot more. I'm not changing my life, but I want to explore a few new options and see how it works out. I look forward to screwing your brains out. If you contact me remember that emails with a naked photo get special consideration. This what the whole statement it wouldn't let me post it all. He cried and begged and swore he wasn't looking too and has not cheated. Every since Iraq he's been a different guy.....he he was my best friend now i don't know him and i don't know what to do.
2007-11-06 21:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by N N 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you would have bought that crap if he wasn't on a sex chat site. there are plenty of sites that arn't sex related.
Sounds like he isn't a smooth player as he didn't come up with a very good excuse. So he's still wet behind the ears and not tainted yet in that area.
Something obviously is missing from his point of view even though you feel all is fine in that department.. Also could be some men dont' wish to talk or do certain things with there wives . They see you in a different light . So they go else where for the different things there thinking of doing.
Some just like the thrill and the chase and others its a validation for themselves that they still can catch a honey.
what ever it is good luck to ya
2007-11-07 04:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AFF is purley a sex site, trying to find others who just wanna f@ck. That is the only reason to have an ad on that site. You could say a friend found his profile and discuss it with him, or just be truthful and tell him what U saw and work it out. Don't play games. Not worth it.
2007-11-06 21:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by puriena_puppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but if he's on AFF, you might as well pack your bags and leave. He is NOT looking for "just friends" on AFF. If that is the case, why did he change the password on his account? Because he doesn't want you reading the messages he's writing back and forth to other women.
2007-11-06 21:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is cheating and he does not need to be on a sex site and have a profile. Even if its ten years old it should have been deleted. I think that he is playing you and you have to confront him. If he starts out by saying why are you going into my site then you know he is fooling around or looking. He sure has a lot of explaining to do. If you don't like his answers to your questions then you need to decide what you want to do.
2007-11-06 21:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Fergy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you already know the answer to your question! You know its cheating don't you? I think the pain of dealing with the reality of what you found is almost to much to bare! I completlely understand! But this is what I call the moment of truth. The truth is what it is! But the question is what are you going to do about it? Are you gonna believe that lame as-s excuse about just looking for a friend or are you gonna confront the situation head on? If your going for the head on approach, tell him how much this hurt you, tell him how much that just destroyed alot of the trust you once had! Tell him what he needs to do to repair it, and make the relationship work! If he can't or won't do that the again you got another moment of truth! Are you going to stay and continue to disrespected and devalued or are you going to confront the situation head on and seperate?
Good Luck! and I hope you can work it out, but if you can't count your blessings learn your lesson and keep it moving
2007-11-06 21:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adult Friend Finder is NOT a site where you find friends to chat; it's a site where people find sex partners where they live...as in the same neighborhood. Maybe he had this profile before you two got married and completely forgot to delete it?
2007-11-06 21:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the saying" Watch what you look for you might find something you don't like" Well to start off with he is stupid for leaving his e-mail openn not unless he wanted you to find it either way his a stupid idiot and the best thing to do is have a good talk with hima dn find out what's going on in your marriage that he went and put an ad in a sex site.
2007-11-06 20:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
AFF is not a user friendly site for a marriage, trust me I know this first hand. Obviously there is something going on in his mind (your relationship) that is lacking. This nine out of ten times is not sex. In my case was the thrill of the hunt. nothing more nothing less
2007-11-06 20:57:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋