for those who are married...?

Question

are you ever afraid of your marriage might not work and you end up spliting up.

Answer 1

there is always that chance it could happen, but you cant worry about it or spend emotional 'petrol' on it. Focus on the now, have fun with your partner and the rest will take care of itself. The worst thing that could happen is you worry about it and your partner picks up on this and negativity can creep in

Answer 2

I am going to answer your question, since I am an old pro at this. I am Married for 49 years, going into our 50th. next year, God willing. I am a 65 year old Lady, but young at Heart, If I wrote down all that happened during my Married Life, I would not be able to write it all down here. When I got Married to my Husband, I was 16, and he was 18 years old, we were Young but very much in Love, it was during the 50's when a girl that age knew how to cook, wash clothes in a tub, and knew what to do when she decided to have a Baby. I am not going to lie and say that my Marriage was a bed of Roses, because i would be lying. But we passed through a lot of illness and having our Kids, Seven in all, and some Marital problems too. But we peseveered and whenever we had a fight or discussion, we always talked it out and we never slept in separate Beds. Did we separat, during our Marriage, I would say No! because we took our vows seriously, for better or Worse, and we are happy being together, Our kids are married and each have been Married for 16,14,18,20,12,10,7,years each and have family of their own. This is my advice to whoever is single and have decided to get Married to your one and only.When two people are planning to get Married they should have a long talk about the step they are going to take, and decide, what Marriage means to them, because Marriage is 50/50, and if you find out that the mate you chose does not conform with your sentiments, then do not get Married. becaue it is not going to last.

Answer 3

I'm not married, just a 16 year old with parents who don't have the greatest relationship lately.... and I can't help but think I'm responsible for the conversation my Mom is going to start up with my Dad tonight =S And I didn't do anything for it to happen on purpose...... I feel like I betrayed my Dad or something... and I am afraid he will hate me.

I wish I believed marriage could last forever, I really honestly, truly do. But how can I when my Mom was going to divorce my Birth Dad even if he didn't pass away, and how things are going with my Mom and Dad right now.

Answer 4

Sometimes, yes. Because you are human, it's okay to have human concerns. Nothing is really forever so why not worry? What you have to remember is that a marriage takes daily work from both parties. Never assume everything is great and always work hard to make your marriage the most important thing.

Answer 5

Yes , i worry about it from time to time usually when things arent going so great between us.. ive already been hurt before and im very much aware that nothing is a guarantee.. but sometimes u have to let go and chalk it up to faith because u can live everyday being scared out of your mind and stressful or u can be happy until theres a reason not to be.. my first husband left me after 5 years and 2 kids (we were young and he cheated) , and it took me 8 years to even get to a point that i could even think of trusting another man to get married, so i do have my insecurities.. but i can have 5 minutes of complete happiness by letting my life be good and not living in fear, or i can waste years of my life always living in fear and waiting for the next bubble to burst and waste years of my life not being totally happy at all..

You trusted him enough to say i do.. now trust him enough to let him love you ...

Answer 6

Yeah, sometimes when things get tough or a bit stressful. But we always works together as a really good team. We are both going to give our marriage the best shot we can !

Answer 7

divorced after 13 years of marriage

I never thought that in the beginning. the first time he cheated on me i knew it was over but i just stuck around anyway like a fool. The divorce was the best thing i ever did to keep me sane.

He was a crack user, alcohol user who cheated on me almost the entire marriage. He physically, emotionally and mentally abused me. I guess when he started strangling me on several occassions i said enough is enough. I want to live. He sat on me and held my mouth and nose closed several times. i am 5'5 tiny, and he is 6'3 and muscular, i had no chance

Answer 8

flip a coin
head you win
tails you lose
it's a 50/50 proposition
these are the real odds of divorce
the only difference is what you make of your marriage
if you have fears of it not working out
then you either fight got it and see what you are doing wrong ( and this assumes your spouse is a good person and you are the one who is failing the marriage )
or you realize you have chosen the wrong spouse and a divorce is inevitable anyways
but you have to look at the marriage to see why you would think it would fail in the 1st place, it's either him or you that makes you feel uncomfortable

Answer 9

Back when my hubby and I had been married 5 yrs, we went through a really tough time when we were sure we'd get a divorce. I accused him one day that he was trying to treat me like his father treated his mother. (H. was always telling E. to shut up; treated her like dirt.) I told him I wasn't going to take it! We went to see a marriage psychologist who helped us learn how to interact with each other.

It took quite a while, but you can say we had a happy ending as we have stayed married now for 29 yrs.

Answer 10

Sure at times, but if you really love that person remember that a relationship is another job it takes years and years of work to get things just right.