Please help me? Her parents are not agree.?

Question

I am 24 years old and my girlfriend is of 21 year old. My parents will be happy with our marriage, but her parents are not agreeing. I am employed in a MNC and she is studding engineering in a reputated institute, she will get employed after one year when she will be of 22 year old. Her parents are not agree, they called me to talk and they told me that do not talk to my daughter. She loves me and I love her very much. Both of us can not live without each other. She can leave her parents for our marriage. My parents will accept her very happily. Her parents have a problem with my cast, I belong to an upper cast and she also belongs to an upper cast, but our cast is not the same. They also have a problem with my family’s living standards. As both of us belong to different places so our living style will be different. I and she both will adjust. I belong to Bihar so; they have a problem that I am a Bihary. Give me some legal suggestion if we will get married then Indian law will protect us? What we can do if after marriage they will threat us or they will commit suicide. Will it affect us legally? If they will try to take some action then what we will do to protect us legally?

If my parents say not to go against her parent’s opinion, they can be emotional for her parents. Because my father told me that first make them agree for your marriage. They will not agree then don’t do this. So he can be emotional. I think at the time of marriage he will not help us but after few time my parents will accept me and my wife. Right now they are just thinking to make them agree. But the attitude of her parents does not shows that they will agree ever. Right now she is studding and we have to wait for at least 1.5 years so, what should I do?

Answer 1

Legally there is no barrier in your marriage as you both are of marriageable age, not related to each other by any degree of prohibition relationship, are both unmarried & are of fit mental status. These are the four main issues on the basis of which any legal objection can be taken by any one in your marriage whether you marry her according to the Hindu form of marriage under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 or before the Marriage officer under the Special Marriage Act, 1954. As far what will be the legal implication after your marriage, you both get legally recognized as husband & wife so no one can interfere in your personal life or force you to live separately, if her parents commit suicide, which I'm sure they won't there is no legal impediment on your part for this illegal act by them. You cannot be held liable for any abetment of their suicide just because you both married against their wishes. So just keep cool on this account & just prepare for this marriage. Rather I will suggest go ahead with this marriage according to the Special Marriage Act before the Marriage officer & even if they object for this marriage let them come before the marriage officer & say so, let them say that you being Bihary & of different caste that’s why they object to this marriage. It will be the marriage officer who will then file criminal complaint against them for such remarks & make a way for their jail yatra. Just in the lighter sense, write a personal letter to Laloo Prasad Yadav telling him this is how a Bihary educated man is being treated by these people, just because he is a Bihary, I'm sure Laloo has arms to deal with such people both officially & unofficially.

Answer 2

Both of you are legally old enough to get married. You cam get married in Arya Samaji way, they will provide you with a marriagr certificate. Then go & getb your marriage registered with the registrar of marriages.

Do not worry, no one will commit suicide. And as the time passes, parents of the girl will come around, especially after the birth of your first born.

Just do not worry, your parents are on your side that is a big plus for you both.

Answer 3

No problem Friend, you can come out from this problem.

You once talked to her parents. Try to convince them. If they are not ready to accept your marriage, tell her to come out from her home.

Before coming try to spoil your photos if any and tell her bring original certificates and marks cards (SSLC is must) which is required for Age proof.

You mentioned, your parents can accept your marriage. Then inform to your parents make arrangements immediately for registered marriage.

Better you get marriage in any of the temple and go to registration office. It is called registration after marriage.

This is because, registered marriage may take so much time like 15-30 days. Don't wait up to that because it may create problems to both of you.

Don't forget to take photos during your marriage. Have a sample wedding card with complete details like original, this is required for registration. (Don't hesitate to give bribes to officers).

After getting registration, inform to her parents that you already got married and today onwards you are going to her home. Don't tell about your parents and their acceptance. Because her parents may think bad on your parents.

Reaction on this action will purely depend upon her parents. No problem, they will accept. Don't try get acceptance now itself. After some days only they can accept.

Don't worry about their suicide and all. Nobody will take such decisions.

Answer 4

When we got married, 41 yrs ago, neither her parents nor my parents approved. We were both 25 yr old, same race, same religion, same education (we went to college together but did not date in college) same core values about life, family, children. We do not know why my parents did not approve. They have not spoken to us since our wedding. We have made several trials to reestablish a relationship. Her parents objected to me because they were Slovak and I was not. Her parents fought with us until the day they died. If we could do it all over again, we would do it all over again. You must follow your heart, but be prepared for the possibility of her parents being as stubborn as mine were. I consider myself a very lucky man to have had such a wonderful woman for my wife for all these years. Good luck to you both.

Answer 5

self-discipline is between the toughest issues approximately elevating young ones. It takes numerous staying power. not all young ones may be disciplined the comparable way. the suitable component to do is sit down with your husband and agree on something. you will the two could elect what it rather is, and you will in all threat the two could provide in slightly approximately your very own disciplining convictions. My husband and that i don't agree on numerous concerns. There are books on sturdy the style to self-discipline. the traditional thread is "be consistent". in case you tell your toddler that X will take place if he does Y ... then you definately could do X. in case you do not persist with by using on your word, then you definately at the instant are not in basic terms not disciplining, you're actively education your toddler that your words do not recommend something and that they gained't do what you assert. The project is for you and your husband to take a seat and flow during the possible "what if" eventualities. "What if our daughter comes domicile at 1am?" then you definately the two elect on what the self-discipline would be. then you definately would be arranged. formerly slapping down a sentence, talk with your husband approximately what the self-discipline could be so as which you're the two firmly dedicated to enforcing your determination. My husband and that i are nonetheless dealing with some lower back-and-forth talk on the thank you to self-discipline our young little ones. We talk approximately it lots. we normally do not agree. yet we the two be responsive to the magnitude of consistency so we help one yet another's self-discipline efforts. "If daddy pronounced NO then I say NO. era." i'm hoping this enables.

Answer 6

As both are having good education back ground, you will have no problem financially. You are already mature enough to marry and no body can take any action as per Indian law.But my advice for her to wait for her Prent's approval and refuse to marry any one time being, and let her say she like you that is all. Wait and watch !!!! Time solve many problems itself.

Answer 7

Legally she is old enough to do as she pleases. It sounds like her parents are going to put her in the position of having to choose between you or them. That's her choice. If you marry her and they are dumb enough to kill themselves over it then that is not on your shoulders and you aren't responsible. Legally or morally. Legally I do not think there is anything they can do to stop or end your marriage.

Answer 8

Don't worry both of you reach the mature age,
you can decide who you want to marry.As long
as you love each other god will give you his blessing.
Parents thinking is already outdated,they can decide
for you, but they can't follow you for life.
All the best to the two of you and best of luck.

Answer 9

if her parents are that messed up over your marriage that they commit suicide, then that's sad. in America, we marry for love. I'm glad you are doing that, since arranged marriages stink. she's an adult, so they need to back off.

Answer 10

If you two love each other, get married; you deserve to be happy.