punishment. I went over the limit on the credit card. He doesnt know yet. I could pay it off with my spending money but how am i gonna hide it from him? Or should i tell him and take my spanking?
2007-11-06 13:52:03 · 72 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate when he is mad at me:(
2007-11-06 14:06:48 · update #1
You really need to be honest with him...I am sure he will be more understanding than you think. Oh and a little crying never hurts.
2007-11-06 13:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by fuzeber 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Since he's your husband you should probably tell him.
The major key to successful marriage is communication, communication, communication!
He's obviously not going to like it, but if he ever did anything wrong I'm sure you wouldn't want him to hide it from you. Fair is fair.
Here is an interesting idea I've heard before when it comes to credit cards. Try it if you wish:
Take your credit card and put in a jar full of water and put it in the freezer. This will ensure that you won't be able to use it for impulsive spending. If you try to microwave it to thaw it out you'll end up warping the card. If you really need to use the card for an emergency or something, you can take it out and let it thaw naturally in the sink. If you have an impulse about buying something, the impulse will probably wear off by the time it thaws out.
Anyway, good luck!
2007-11-06 13:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to keep the trust with your husband, don't break that as it is generally what keeps a relationship strong and the bond close. Tell him that you are sorry for going over the limit and that you'll return the card to its normal limits by organising to pay it back in installments to where it was before you used it and that this occurance doesn't happen all the time so you presumed going over the limit was "justified".
2007-11-06 14:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by PigonPoppers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh thats a tough one. I'd say fess up to but def be sure to make it up by coming up with the money to cover the costs. One prob is that the credit card companies could raise your rates. Better keep an eye on that. You should never hide or lie about anything in a relationship!!
2007-11-06 13:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Dirty Lil Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not hide it from him. Go to him and tell him before the statement comes in the mail. Then tell him you will pay it all off from your spending money.
In the future, keep an eye on the amount you spend and don't go over the limits.
2007-11-06 13:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him the truth and why would you be getting a spanking that is called abuse and no one should have to go through that he should find some other way of you not spending that much like take the card away for a certain amount of time.
2007-11-06 13:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by kayeann l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hide it from him. That's ridiculous, and NOT good for your marriage... Unless of course you are looking to get that spanking... ;o)
Just tell him... Hey, Honey, I messed up and lost track of my balance. I am going to pay it off with my spending money. I'll try to be more cautious.
Honesty is the best policy.
2007-11-06 13:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by sarlha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take your spanking if your into that sort of thing. :) Honestly, relationships don't work unless you are completely honest with each other. Did you purposefully go over the limit? More importantly, did you do it because you knew it would piss him off? Hopefully not. Tell him, give him a hummer, and he'll probably forgive you.
2007-11-06 14:17:18 · answer #8 · answered by Zam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never hide anythign from your spouse. Its not a good start. Learn to not use your credit card as much. And things will end up good in the end. Just be honest and tell him. If you dont then things would be much worse because your not telling him the truth..
2007-11-06 13:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by Cameron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him and get it over with. It will go easier coming straight from you instead of letting him find out some other way. Plus if you use your spending money to pay it then he'll just be wondering why you're spending money is gone. Bite the bullet and get it over with.
2007-11-06 13:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by MISS H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He will understand but you shouldn't pile up a bill on a credit card that is being irresponsible and then expecting him to pay for it. then asking us to make you feel that you are okay and he is the villian. He will spank you? Or will he just have to work over time to pay your bills?
You sound like a very selfish person. Grown up.
2007-11-06 13:56:35 · answer #11 · answered by cloud 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋