i got divorced about 4 years ago. during that time i thought i met a wonderful woman and married again. she was never married and after i married her she turned into a horrible human being. i'm not joking folks.....affairs, insecure, and the worst foul language i can't even repeat. i never even heard a woman talk like that before. she was always the victim in her previous engagements. i tried my best to work with her but she refused to admit she was handed down a very disfunctioinal way of dealing with things (saw it first hand from her parents). now i'm just devastated. i gave her my all after my first marriage failed. everything i had. now i'm broke, lonely and have lost faith in women. some nice ladies please tell me there are more than narcissistic selfish women still out there! i am lonely but right now i don't trust myself as i might end up with someone worse. i think a crazy woman can see my vulnerability right now. i'm broke inside. I thought my second wife was it for me
2007-11-09 08:55:44 · 8 answers · asked by surviving 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I remember the day I walked out of court a free woman.. it was incredibly liberating. I, too, was broke, faced with being a single mother, and emotionally scarred... But darlin, there is life after divorce, It just takes a little bit to find it. Take some time to heal, find out who YOU are... If you need to talk about it, possibly a support group? I'm not sure if your open to that or not. If not, a good friend, but it does get better. I believe that people come into our lives for a reason... and when they've served their purpose it's time to move on :) Good luck to you, it will get better!!
2007-11-09 09:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough situation to be going through, sorry. There is not much that someone can say at a time like this that will really convince you that things will get better -- but there really are nice people out there, men and women both. I didn't find MY wonderful husband until I'd hit bottom with bad relationships and thought all men were -- well, I can't say, they'll delete me.
But we've been married 20 years now -- and its been wonderful. It can still happen. My youngest brother didn't get married until 45! And he is just thrilled with it, now.
2007-11-09 17:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I believe it's all about who we choose in the first place. Learning to stay away from emotional vampires is something you do by really getting to know the person. The bright side and the IMPORTANT thing is now, you've seen what you DON"T want. Look for what is truly good and kind and has no history of drug addiction or alcoholism, prostitution etc. There are so many good women. I know many of them. Loving and kind, servants to their friends and family (I know men like this too) They're a joy to be around.
Some people are really messed up and it is in our best interest not to "rescue" them. It only brings their chaos and turmoil into our lives, and only end in disaster and pain.
And, I don't have to tell you how miserable that can be.
Don't give up. Love abounds in the hearts of many deserving women. Look for these kind of women. And, YES, they are beautiful young women deserving of a good husband.
Take your time, and guard your heart. For who so ever you give it to has the power to pound it to hamburger meat! Choose the one that will nurture and love you.
2007-11-09 21:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by latebreakfast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are!! You just married the "rebound". Need to date for a while, without the desperation of "needing" to get married. Wait it out, meet some people, and when you feel the time it right, you will meet the right one and go from there. It's all in the attitude. I learned that the hard way, myself. I haven't met "The One" yet, but I now know the time is right. Just be patient and enjoy yourself. Not all of us care Crazy, or are we:)
2007-11-09 17:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by anniepoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have married the wrong person.Since you don't have children you need to get out of that marriage fast.All women are not like that and if you are more careful about getting to know a person ,you may be luckier.I don't suppose she would go to counseling,sounds like her life is like this always(how sad) If you want to be happy again then you must leave and start over.You will be glad you did.Why stay there if you are unhappy anyway.You won't hear the swearing ,lies and more lies.Life is to short to live in misery
2007-11-09 17:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is perfect. What you need is what is perfect for you. You shouldn't rely on a woman to make you happy and when you are happy with your self you will find the woman you can be happy with. I maybe crazy at times and can seem conceited but I am definitely not selfish. The world is harder for us today and we do what we need to. Best of luck finding Ms Right. Some people search their whole life.
2007-11-09 17:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by hellrazor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are still nice women out there. after my ex husband i didn't really trust men at all. after him i met someone ever worst he took me for every thing i had. there for a while i would even talk to a man at all. i just took alot of time for myself and my friends and family. then i might a really sweet man he take care of me and i take care of him we help each other out. I'm just saying that one woman will come along hang in there
2007-11-09 17:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Irish Crash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to spend it miserable. Cut your loses and run like h***. Don't be so quick to hook back up. Chill out and do nice things for yourself. Surround yourself with good people.
2007-11-09 17:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by maewest131 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋