Marriage & Divorce - 9 November 2007

Me and my ex were together for 2 years when we split up for about a year. In that time he got married and she is about 6 months pregnant. About a month ago we decided to give it one more chance. It didnt work out and he went back to her. The only problem is now im pregnant. No one knows but my bff. I know that i should tell him and my family as well but im not sure how. Any advice?

2007-11-09 05:46:04 · 19 answers · asked by diana s 1

I mean, we are socially required that we should put the seat down EVERY time we pee, but if a woman uses the same toilet she is NEVER required to put it up?

This is the point that my new wife brought up to me when we bought our house. I might start doing it out of curtasy for my wife because I lover her. but .... doesent really seem fare.

wat yall think?

2007-11-09 05:43:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

not all but may be few

2007-11-09 05:39:23 · 9 answers · asked by protege 3

Lets say that an exgirlfriend can create the scenario like exboyfriend calling, she has a friend with her at the time of taking the call, she and her friend work together with a lie and take the boyfriend to court saying the guy was harassing and saying things enough to put a restriction order (even when this wasn't true), could a restriction order being put to the guy unfarily? (Is not fair, but can the exgirlfriend and friend create all the scenario and make the life of the guy as difficult a s they can working as a complot)

2007-11-09 05:35:08 · 10 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3

me and my girl have been together for 1 year in december...
we always talk about marriage and it is a definite in our future...
we also talk about a baby...
i beleive we should be married before we have a baby...
should i pop the question on christmas...
a ring for christmas...
i know that's what she wants...
i feel that i'm ready...
advice?

2007-11-09 05:34:30 · 19 answers · asked by segato7 1

I danced at a club when I turned 18 to pay off my drug debts so I wouldn't keep on being stalked by my dealer (I know I used to be a bad girl :( ) Now it was a tasteful club meaning we didn't show any boobs or anything... just erotic lap dances. Now I have been drug and strip free for 7 years and married for 2. My husband "kind of" knows about my history. He knows that I danced but didn't know I was a hard core drug user. Well my problem is that he has a long lost cousin I just was told about that went away for a while because of his drug use and come to find out that was one of my exes. He gets out in about 6 months and my husband is soo excited about me meeting him. Everythings going to come out so how should I tell him about all this?! I know he's already going to be mad I wasn't straight up about my past but I am not proud of what I used to do! Help!

2007-11-09 04:55:58 · 32 answers · asked by Y!A P0int5 Wh0r3 5

My husband and I are in the last threads. He wants his freedom and I was tired of his going back and forth. He would say one day, that I was a bad person, a bad mom, a ***** etc... and the next tell me he loves me and I deserve better than him etc... So I am giving him his freedom and I helped him to make the choice. He wasnt happy with me and our kids. So I am going to let him go. I am being left without a home, money and a vehicle though, so that has me really stressed and upset. My whole marriage I have given him everything he wanted. I love him deeply and will miss him, but that doesnt matter to him. I wanted to get him something for Christmas even though I know he doesnt deserve it after the things he does. Should I get him something at least from the kids? And if so, what should I get him? I cant afford to spend all that much obviously. He is 25 years old and a movie and game nerd.. Thanks for your help.

2007-11-09 04:44:16 · 21 answers · asked by Rene D 1

It is not my fault that my husband is verbally abusive towards with. I have not cheated on him with my first love .I only chat with my first love on-line. I am unhappy because My husband is belittling me. It is not my fault that he is doing so. I do everything in my power to make him happy,but he keeps on putting me down and verbally abusing me. I don't want to stay in this situation if he keeps it up. I have talked to him about it,but that has not helped. He says that noone can change him and that he will not change for anyone.Please disregard my first question.This one here will doWhat should I do about this situation that I am in?My husband does know that I have been in contact with my first love and he is ok with it. He is in contact with his ex girlfriend as well.The reason I said that I wanted to wait until April is to give him a chance to change and also so that I can save up some money and be able to rent my own place. What would you do now?And how would you go about it?

2007-11-09 03:59:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Had an affair with my boss..it is over now. I live in LosAngeles,CA and was offered a job with a competitor who is willing to pay me $500 more a month to move to Houston,TX. All of my family is here in Cali..but people found out about the affair. I am not sure what to do; a part of me says go to start over with a clean slate. The other part of me says stay cause of the fear of starting all over.

2007-11-09 03:59:20 · 12 answers · asked by R 1

My husband and I live in California, and his mom lives in New Jersey. But he always remember her birthday and flight over there to celebrate her birthday. It makes me feel uncomfortable and little jealous. I need advice.

2007-11-09 03:53:44 · 22 answers · asked by TRINI n 1

My parents are giving us a hard time.he wants come here for me,but my mom doesnt want him to stay w/ us. (temporary) so he has no where else to go. and she wont let me marry him till im 18. he wants to go to rio w. me cuz he knows some1 there. should i run away with him there???

2007-11-09 03:43:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a full time-student and he works full time- we have 2 girls, (8 yr. old & a 9 month old) I have no income- other than the $50 he gives me a week to cover my gas etc for school or whatever. 4 Weeks ago- i had $300 left from money i had for school tuition and he was $200 short on the car he wanted- so i gave it to him and he said, "ill pay you back next week"... well that never happened. In the meantime - he claims he keeps bouncing checks and that his checking account is negative- so his checks are going to cover that. So for example. last week he gave me $50- and out of the $50 I had to pay for the daycare while i'm in school- buy diapers and put gas into my car. It's a miracle i made it to class all week w/out running out of gas. So yesterday was payday and when i asked if I could have my money- (i was leaving for my night class and didnt even think the car would make it to the gas station) and he gave me 20 bucks and said , "here thats all i have". So i asked, "can you

2007-11-09 03:06:38 · 17 answers · asked by Amy Clark 5

I still don't understand why people want to get married. Because their in love? Puleease... you don't have to get married to show love. To please their parents? Hah! ridiculous.
To fit in the group? another ridiculous idea. What do you think is the reason why people get married? And if you are already settled down, what was the reason behind it?

2007-11-09 03:01:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anthony C 4

I have a grand daughter who is going to be married shortly. She wants my blessings and advices reagrding her mariage. I do not know many things in present days life of a young 21 years girl's . How and what can I bless and give her proper advice. I am totally out of knowldge and sight. Can anybody help me, please.

2007-11-09 02:44:35 · 12 answers · asked by Raghavendra R 5

The last year and half my husband has only wanted to have sex when he finally comes to bed 1 or 2 in the morning Or when he wakes up in the middle of the night. He don't want the lights on either We have two kids 3 and 1 I have gained a lot of weight from when we frist met due to pregnancy120 and now 204 I've asked him when the kids go to bed why we can't have sex and he always says he's not in the mood. I even got his mom to pick up the kids all day and tryed to get in the mood. All he says is he wants his friends over now that the kids are not home. I notice he snaps at me a lot more never kisses me anymore and hardly says I love you in less he is saying it back after I do. We married after high school and have been married for 5 years now I don't know what to think anymore I give him sex in the middle of the night but I wounder if he is thinking of someone else, and that would be why he do it when I'm asleep and in the dark So I'm not talking or very little and sees someone else

2007-11-09 02:41:32 · 21 answers · asked by Tara Elaine 4

I am 43, recently married, no children or dependents. I am redrafting a will and since I have only been married a short time most of my $$$ and property will be go to my parents.
The longer I am married, or should we have a child then most of my assets will go to my wife. My wife has been all over me lately about planning for "her" retirement or a career change where she probably would make less money. I love what I do and make multiple six figures annually. Part of her retirement plan is bugging me about my WILL. She wants to see it. I am hesitant to show it to her or let her influence my redrafting. We have been married for 4 months. Any thoughts?

2007-11-09 02:31:27 · 13 answers · asked by Kyle V 1

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2007-11-09 02:23:50 · 6 answers · asked by subhash_2000 2

My partner and I been together 8 years as we are family friends from decades friends & in love.Since he had issue getting married we tried separating then get back together.He wants to get married now.So what im saying is even if i try to move on be with someone else theres noone else who wants to date me or him.It doesnt happen since we are soulmates destined fate is together.Ive only been with this man all my life.In such a situation do u think we should be married to eachother instead of living alone due to being in love with eachother soulmates destined fate being together.Please serious answers only.

2007-11-09 02:02:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I will be married 4 years in Dec. My husband travels all over the usa for his job. I just started going with him. When I used to stay at home I got our cell bill and he had used over 300 text messages and all of them to this girl that works with him.
Well, we got into it then when I brought it up and he said that she was just a friend that he talked to.
Well, time went by and that job was over with and he hadn't talk to her in months. Well, now I am here on this job with him and she just showed up here to work also. And now it starts again. They text message each other all the time I looked at his phone and I asked him about it. He got all upset and said they were friends. I know for a fact that she was messing with someones husband before. He goes on to the myspace website and looks at her pic. Not only that our sex life is down hill, like 2 times a month and that is it.
I want my husband back. I miss him. We are fine till she shows up. If I say something he gets all upset?

2007-11-09 01:39:29 · 25 answers · asked by happy one 1

Married over 20 years, but the last year has been without any sex. I have tried dating her again, flowers, dinner, walks, hand holding, the works. She loves me dearly and I love her but am not ready to put the sexually side of my life away into a box. What can I do to reawaken her sexual side, or should I just be happy with love and look for sex outside with someone else.

2007-11-09 01:38:33 · 23 answers · asked by Wang Delot 1

Are they too young?

How long do you think they should have been together before marriage?

Should they get there own house first?

All opinions welcome!

2007-11-09 01:32:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm in a theatre production with a guy and the flirtation has been very direct from him.Hes very attractive (and without being vain, so am I.)I enquired as to his status and found out that he is married though never refers to her and also has a girlfriend!
I have cooled off my flirtation since I heard this and honestly I am surprised as he is acting 100% like a single guy!
I said to another male actor'have you seen how flirtatious he is with me' and the other actor said 'its ok to flirt with an attractive woman, theres no harm in that'.
Well there is harm in that in my opinion!
I may be attractive and fun but I'm not a toy! Its confusing to get that attention and married men shouldnt behave like that!
What are your thoughts?

2007-11-09 01:30:24 · 14 answers · asked by Sunshine Girl 3

I am the type of guy who expresses his feelings whether its compassion or I am mad about something. However, in a recent relationship, it has caused a lot of drama for me.

We "broke up" and she said she hated me but she still emails me back telling me she is doing ok. Why would she do that if she hates me?

2007-11-09 01:23:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

seriously i hate my ex wife for the mess she made and the abuse she lowered on me and my children before i finally had enough and kicked her out. now she's totally forgotten us like most narcissists like we don't exist. what is the best way to treat a narcissist? ignore them totally even if i see her around town? should i show no anger and no emotion? they say narcissists thrive on any emotion you give them like i know i hate her but if i show it she'll feel special even for being hated like she's all powerful to get that type of emotion out of me. any therapist care to take a stab at this?

2007-11-09 01:16:26 · 7 answers · asked by survivor 1

2007-11-09 01:06:28 · 15 answers · asked by bimalsharmma 1

I'm 22 he's 25 and i'm not on about kids now im too young but when im 28 maybe but he says he never wants kids ever so im not sure if i should stay will he ever change his mind im very confused i thought we were very happy together and were working for the same things

2007-11-09 00:48:21 · 20 answers · asked by emma2107 2

2007-11-09 00:44:54 · 6 answers · asked by 2much2do 1

I want to know the problem with my husband. Has he totally lost it?

He has recently become exceedingly over-protective, stupidly jealous and very intefering. HE asks me a thousand times the whole bio of my male friends when I go to meet them. He insits on taking me out all the time, even when I don't want to [i mean hey, u can't stay out all day long], he will share everything ... which is ok. But he expects me to do the same. I mean isn't it my wish as to what I share? He keeps calling when I am late, even though I already told him I would be late.

I don't give him any directions, only advices and I don't mind if he doesn't follow them. Coz I believe everyone has their own reasning and independence. I don't query abt his female friends, I don't nag him to be home more often. And I expect the same space, freedom, privacy and the right to make my own decisions.

HE KNEW THESE THINGS BEFORE HE MARRIED ME. SO WHY IS HE ACTING SO STUPID AFTER MARRIAGE. I FEEL SUFFOCATED. ARGH ...

2007-11-09 00:28:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous