I want to know the problem with my husband. Has he totally lost it?
He has recently become exceedingly over-protective, stupidly jealous and very intefering. HE asks me a thousand times the whole bio of my male friends when I go to meet them. He insits on taking me out all the time, even when I don't want to [i mean hey, u can't stay out all day long], he will share everything ... which is ok. But he expects me to do the same. I mean isn't it my wish as to what I share? He keeps calling when I am late, even though I already told him I would be late.
I don't give him any directions, only advices and I don't mind if he doesn't follow them. Coz I believe everyone has their own reasning and independence. I don't query abt his female friends, I don't nag him to be home more often. And I expect the same space, freedom, privacy and the right to make my own decisions.
HE KNEW THESE THINGS BEFORE HE MARRIED ME. SO WHY IS HE ACTING SO STUPID AFTER MARRIAGE. I FEEL SUFFOCATED. ARGH ...
2007-11-09 00:28:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is feeling insecure and is also suffering from depression. It's not only women that get moody or have these problems.
2007-11-09 00:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by =42 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why did you get married?
Sounds like your husband is looking for a wife, soul mate, friend and lover and you don't get it.
Perhaps you should look at your relationships with both your friends and husband. How much effort do you put into your marriage as opposed to your friendships.
Something is causing this jealously and over-protective behavior by your husband. If you can't figure it out seek help with a marriage counselor.
Otherwise get a divorce and you can continue your friendships with all your male friends and have only yourself to answer to.
2007-11-09 00:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously feeling insecure about something. It could also be that something happened with one of his female friends and so now he's worried about your male friends. I'm not saying anything crazy but maybe someone hit on him or something and he's worried that your male friends are doing the same. It is up to you how much you share but he is making an effort to communicate with you which is important. He wants to take you out alot, another plus in my book. If he's overly jealous and controlling I would address it flat out and tell him to tone it down, otherwise it could be ALOT worse than your husband showing MAJOR interest in you...
2007-11-09 00:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound mean but what you just described is not a marriage. It sounded more like a single gal with some annoying guy trying to ruin her good time. Maybe you need to spend more time with your hubby and less with the male friends...
2007-11-09 00:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it's your husband I think it's you. You are married now and you need to learn how to respect him. Soon or later he is going to get tried of you and find a good wife and it's going to be all over for you.
2007-11-09 00:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's no sense in me dumping on you too. I think you got told , but not what you wanted to hear.
2007-11-09 01:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically, you should not be meeting any male friends, ever... the vow was to forsake all others... I don't blame him for being the way he is! I don't meet any male friends, ever... my marraige means everything to me... and so does my husband...
2007-11-09 00:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋