Are they too young?
How long do you think they should have been together before marriage?
Should they get there own house first?
All opinions welcome!
2007-11-09 01:32:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
like i always say, if these 18 year olds are financially set and emotionally mature enough to make a marriage committment, then i think it's A-OK
2007-11-09 01:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty young. So many things can happen at 18. I'm not really one to talk, My husband and I got married at 21 (right out of college). But, we both had Bachelor's degrees in hand, and good careers ahead of us. We don't own a home yet (we are saving money), but we rent a very nice townhouse and don't have any financial issues.
Marrying someone ties you to them. I know between 21 and 18 isn't a big difference, but those 3 years are. You know longer have parents taking care of you, you have lived a life alone for a while, you've grown up some more. We were engaged in college, but I told him I would not marry him until I had finished my degree. So many things could have happened before we got out of college, but they didn't. Now, we are together, and have no regrets. No wondering about what could have been. All roads led here, and we love it.
I'd say that if things are really going to work out, you need to live in the adult world for a while first. The adult world is much more different that high school.
2007-11-09 09:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 is to young. Go to college and graduate first. If you are still together after that, go ahead and get married. You should not live with someone before marriage because it is just playing house and destroys the relationship.
2007-11-09 09:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most couples that young don't make it...They start having children and feel later down the road they missed out on something. That being said, there are exceptions to this. Just make sure you both are in it for the long haul. Marriage that's two people to make it work. Communication, unconditional love, putting the other first.
Backing each others dreams....
2007-11-09 09:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that at 18 the couple believes that love can conquer all. However, at 18 how prepared are you to make a living? How can you compete with college grads or people with years of experience? Not only must you be sure that you have found the right mate, but you must be sure that you can afford to be on your own and pay for a mortgage, utilities, food, cars, insurance, etc.
Living with mom and dad is just playing house. Be sure that you have your finances in order too!
The 3 things couples fight most about are money, sex and kids. Not necessarily in that order. Don't set yourself up for failure. Cover all the bases!
2007-11-09 09:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by Elt 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think they're too young to get marry and this will create a lot of marriage problem in the future.I believe both should finish school first and maybe get a steady job first.When you marry young as 18 yrs old both of them will regret in their later lives.
2007-11-09 09:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by rootbeer_118 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they're not too young if they really love each other = ]
they maybe should have been together for like since they were in 9th grade to get married because then they will have been through a whole lot together...
um no they don't need a house they could get married and then get an apartment and once they're pretty well off, they could get a condo or a cute house = ]
p.s : it would be a lotta hard work to get married and go to college. you should deff go to college & then get married...
2007-11-09 09:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by LeightonR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 18 and divorced by 25 and in hindsight I now know I was much to young to get married then.
2007-11-09 09:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might sound unusual for 18 year olds to marry in such early age. However, it really isn't a problem. As long as they know they found the right one to be with for the rest of their life. They need to know how to handle such relationship and isn't just playing around.
But if they themselves think it's fine, it will be fine.
2007-11-09 09:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stupid. I can tell that you are not educated and come from an uneducated family. An 18 year old woman should be first thinking about her lifestyle and her career, not how fast she can go to bed with other men, get pregnant, get married and live in some trailor park somewhere.
2007-11-09 10:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋