me and my girl have been together for 1 year in december...
we always talk about marriage and it is a definite in our future...
we also talk about a baby...
i beleive we should be married before we have a baby...
should i pop the question on christmas...
a ring for christmas...
i know that's what she wants...
i feel that i'm ready...
advice?
2007-11-09 05:34:30 · 19 answers · asked by segato7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we already have our own apt...
i work full time for the national guard...
she still has a lot of college left...
2007-11-09 05:48:53 · update #1
Being a person who strongly believes in the the Bible, I would hope that the two of you do get married very soon since you are already living as man and wife.
2007-11-10 23:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're ready, you're ready, and it's just a matter of timing.
Me, I wouldn't Ask on Christmas, as that day is already packed to the gills with goodness, but if you want to, fine and go do it.
To set it up thematically, wrap Ye Engagement Ring in standard holiday fanfare and hide it inside the tree. As the gifts dwindle to a mere few, "notice" that there's a small gift in the tree. Retrieve it and "accidentally" drop it while bringing it to her; this gives you the excuse to be kneeling, as is traditional (not required, but traditional). Unwrap box before her, hold it forth, and mention that she should open it (make sure you're holding it aligned toward her). She opens. You ask. Heavenly choir and messianic lights appear (though you may have to arrange this with a special effects place to be certain). Hugs, kisses, tears of joy, and you go make the hot chocolate (with just a nip of peppermint Schnapps) while she starts calling Mom, sisters, and all her friends.
(You might consider packing the ring box inside a somewhat larger box, that will still fit inside the tree, to make it not so obviously a ring box. Or, dump it way down in the toe of your stocking, and while digging down for this very last item, pull it out and mention "dear, I think this one is for you..." and take it from there. Many ways to approach this, really. Make it something that fits your style.)
2007-11-09 13:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone is not sure, I ask if they've taken "the test." I wrote a book for my kids about relationships as they were beginning to date. (the book I wish I had when I was 19 or 20) When they were ready to commit, they took the 101 question test and it brought up issues that they hadn't thought about before and were deciding factors on whether to continue or not. It was always an interesting exercise and helped them feel more sure.
2007-11-09 13:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by Virginia G. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't give adequate information to give a definative answer to your question. How old are the two of you? Have you completed your education? Do you have a job with benefits? All of these should be considered before you think about taking the next step.
Frankly, I feel that if you have to ask for advice on this matter....it's a sign you're not truely ready....if you were, you'd know without a doubt.
2007-11-09 13:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by wild_angel_greeneyes_f44 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's too soon.
A year is NOT enough time to know everything about someone. After a year, you haven't even really gotten over the "chemical high" at the beginning of a relationship.
Wait a couple more years at least. The reason the divorce rate is over 50% is because people jump into marriage too soon. There is no rush.
2007-11-09 13:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it if you feel inside of you that she is the women you want to be with for the rest of your life then go for it be a man and pop the big question I think you should try traditional ask the parents for her hand first I mean it does not really matter what they say but show them that you respect them and there opinion that is major brownie points for you. So do it.
2007-11-09 13:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are both ready for it, dont be nervous. Ive been married for 10 years, and it has been the best thing. Not that there are not hard spots, but with communication you can work through them. Good Luck!
2007-11-09 13:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are ready, then why are you even questioning and asking for advise? Seems to me that if you really are ready, then you wouldn't need a review.
2007-11-09 13:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by T 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you need to ask others if you are ready, you aren't.
If you are asking for ideas to pop it to her, then ask others.
This is too huge to ask strangers, we have to vested interest in it. So don't take these answers too seriously.
2007-11-09 14:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by Queenie` 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered the question yourself...You feel like your ready, so go for it!
2007-11-09 13:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by Laura Duck 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋