Me and my ex were together for 2 years when we split up for about a year. In that time he got married and she is about 6 months pregnant. About a month ago we decided to give it one more chance. It didnt work out and he went back to her. The only problem is now im pregnant. No one knows but my bff. I know that i should tell him and my family as well but im not sure how. Any advice?
2007-11-09 05:46:04 · 19 answers · asked by diana s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow. That sucks. All you can do is tell him. He doesn't sound like the most stable reliable person in the world. Just have your baby and do the best that you can
2007-11-09 05:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by natasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, wheres the Trojan man when you need him?
Well, you must tell him. Just be prepared to know that he can only choose one of you. If you want him back be extra kind to him. As soon as the other chick finds this out she'll blow a hole and probably give him a hard time with child support and what not. Patience is a virtue and condoms remain my best friend thnaks to your story :) good luck
2007-11-09 14:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you shouldnt sleep with a married man no matter if he's seperated from his wife or if he is your ex, and this is exactly why. Now you are bringing a baby into this mess and might screw up your ex's marriage because of it. You have to tell him and your family, just be honest I guess. But shame on you for doing this.
2007-11-09 13:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Duck 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before saying anything to anyone, ask your self if you want to keep the baby. Once you decide that it will be easier to announce it to the others. Of course the first to know should be the father, I would quess that he will not react well but you must tell him and he will get used to it over time. If you are ready to raise a child, propably on your own, Congradulations!! you will have a baby soon!
2007-11-09 13:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by Glukia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! another baby who has to suffer because "grown-ups" make bad decisions. That's great. I really hope that for the sake of the child and children that you all can work things out so that both children aren't without a father.
When will we learn to be more responsible and less selfish? Shame on you and him for cheating on his wife. Please do what is best for the children. That may be adoption as you are obviously not as concerned for them as you are for yourself.
Of course they must know if you intend to keep the child. He is the father and needs to be a part of it's life. He needs to support it so that the rest of us don't have to.
2007-11-09 13:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Yoda 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What the heck? How can he make it work with you if he is still married? What a dumb@ss. You need to tell him that he has TWO kids on the way and not just one. You need to sit him down in a public place and tell him. Seriously. You need to do it sooner or later. Not to mention, I am sure that his wife would like to know that info too seeing that he cheated on her with YOU.
2007-11-09 13:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by moon&stars 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. You need to sit down and talk to both of them so you can discuss the future parenting obligations as well as custody and child support. I guarantee he will make you get a paternity test though.
2007-11-09 13:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by Toni O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"About a month ago we decided to give it one more chance"
Here is some advice for the future-
When a man is married to someone else, there is no "WE" between the two of you...Him and HIS WIFE are a "WE", your an intruder- no matter if he is an ex boyfriend, ex husband or whatever else he is to you!
2007-11-09 14:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you mean you screwed him behind his new wifes back and now you are out of the loop with him but knocked up. too bad for you! there are many ways to deal with an unwanted unplanned pregnancy, but i guess you know what they are, and you did not care enuf about them to prevent this. you can do certain things now, you know what it is, otherwise, i predict lots of drama!
2007-11-09 13:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by jaded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm - young, dumb and pregnant. You've hit the trifecta! So, you wanted to screw up this girl's marriage for what - revenge? Well, you're on your own for this one. Painful lessons make the best learning experiences, but it doesn't sound like you're much of a deep thinker.
2007-11-09 13:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by John R 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋