Marriage & Divorce - 9 November 2007

I need to know if my in-laws( that have Parental Custody of my new husbands son-right now) can refuse my husbands wishes that I ( as step-mom) pick my step-son ou and bring him with me to my home. /my husband is a Long Distance Truck Dirver, that is why they have Partenal Custody.. They told my husband that he does'nt have to right to have any say.We have filed the papers to get Custody of the boy.

2007-11-09 15:41:20 · 3 answers · asked by patricia t 1

Do you ever regret your decision?

2007-11-09 15:13:29 · 9 answers · asked by Apple Tart 5

This is a little weird, but here goes:
If there is a gay marriage and one of the spouses dies, is the remaining one a widow or a widower?
I'm just a little confused . This question is NOT meant to be funny, and I have nothing against gay people. I was just wondering. (p.s. I'm only 12)

2007-11-09 15:12:24 · 28 answers · asked by *Jules_is_ _Meshugana!* 3

2007-11-09 14:56:28 · 7 answers · asked by cplott1012 1

Husband went out for a smoke 4 hours ago. He is actually drinking with his brother beside our house. I asked him for five weeks to stop this behavior-it makes me sad. I told him last week it was the last time I was going to say anything. Still alone...I can't help but be mad. Should I let this behavior go even though it makes me feel like I am crap? He certainly doesn't care.

2007-11-09 14:53:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband makes me feel like I want to be 10 ft. under. When I try to talk about it, he shrugs me off and tells me to go away. That makes it so much worse, how do I cope, without being pathetic?

2007-11-09 14:53:31 · 28 answers · asked by unsureofme 1

Okay I do not hate my husbands exgirlfriend/mother of his other 2 kids (we have one together). I just dont care about her at all. LIke her house is not in the best shape. I am concerned for the kids but I dont feel sorry for her not even a little bit. I never feel sorry for her tha she is a single mom of my husbands 2 kids plus trhe baby she has now with another man. (they are not together). She always seems sad that on holidays my husband is with me and our (his and our son) kids not her and i dont ever feel the least bit sympathy. I didnt even feel sorry for her when she found out she has a hernia in her stomach. Usually I am a very loving person. I know its his ex but why do i feel so cold hearted toward her? its like if someone says "Pam isnt feeling good today because of whatever" I'm like who gives a f***. whats wrong with me and why am I like this toward this woman even though i have no actual animosity toward her? Its like I want to care and like her but I just cant why?

2007-11-09 14:46:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've always worn pantyhose with my skirt suits for work each day at the office. For some reason, my hubby developed a pretty intense fascination about it. So as I was getting ready for work one day, I asked him about it and he told me that he found it alluring and sensual when I wear pantyhose and that he was curious to experience that feeling. So I hiked up my skirt, eased out of my sheers, handed them to him, and told him to slip them on. I wasn't sure if he would actually do it, but with a little encouragement, he did. I let him keep them on for a few minutes and he went absolutely crazy over the way they felt, which I thought was kind of neat.
Now hes asked a few more times recently for me to let him wear them again. I don't want to deny it to him because of how fascinated he is and how much he liked it that one time. Plus he was so honest about sharing his feelings with me about his curiousity. Is there any harm to letting him do it again? Has anyone else encountered this?

2007-11-09 14:36:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

For the past 6 years ( 2 boys later) my wife and i have had sex maybe 10 times in 6 yrs. she is just never in the mood. we do both work like other families and kids in school and stuff but find that is no excusses for our lack of sex.
if i really bug her about it then i get the "lets just do it" sex and stop bothering me. no emotion or nothing, no kissing just me on top, put it in and finish. before kids, (3 yrs) we had get and wild sex3 or 4 times a week. but now i am going on 10 months with no sex and the last time was "would you hurry and ***".
she tells me she still thiniks i am sexy and loves me but just doesn not feel the need for sex anymore. she has been checked out by a DR and they said everything is ok with her, so tell me, what am i suppose to do. i will not leave and be a weekend dad. i could not bear to not see my kids everyday and choose to suffer but feel the need to talk. 6 yrs of bottle this up isnt working.
so much more to say, but who should i talk to, MC or ST?

2007-11-09 14:36:19 · 21 answers · asked by Paul M 1

2007-11-09 14:35:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I got married and moved 8 hours from my hometown a year ago. I miss my family at home soooo terribly much. We just opened a business here (in our new location), and on top of doing all of that, I teach dance at night and am going to school. I am miserable with my husband, away from my family, and I'm so stressed out. Should I drop everything and just leave? I don't know what to do, but I know I don't want to spend the rest of my life unhappy.

2007-11-09 14:32:59 · 33 answers · asked by Jenny L 2

Please help. I am a full time college student and I work part time. I am not an unfit Mother. I don't drink or smoke and I am always here with my kids. My goal is to open up my own Beauty and Barber Salon one day soon. Serious answers only.

2007-11-09 14:32:34 · 8 answers · asked by Lisa 2

I am a grown man, and I get reamed out for buying my 10 year old daughter a trac-phone. My ex sits there and tells me my daughter will be busy with projects this weekend and that weekend, and I will hardly get to see her. I am already having a hard time connecting with my daughter as it is becuase her mom has slandered me so much she doesn't respect me. Mom has control of everything. So I buy a trac phone to help me keep connected with my daughter, and her mom get's all self-rightous on me as if they are "Amish" and don't beleive in material possesions or luxerious items, and that I should have bought clothes with and new shoes with the money... what the???? I plan I buying all of that too!... what the frick? This custodial parent playing the trump card of shame and the court system on the non-custodial parent is bull crap. I am getting sick and tired of having my "intelligence" and "maturity" level being challenged all the time. To all u smart alecks who reply: bite me!

2007-11-09 14:31:53 · 12 answers · asked by What the heck 1

My guy wants me to do thing sexually that I do not want to do. He tells me if I want to marry him (knowing he is a good man) I should submit to him. What does that have to do with us getting married?

2007-11-09 14:30:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I got married and moved 8 hours from my hometown a year ago. I miss my family at home soooo terribly much. We just opened a business here (in our new location), and on top of doing all of that, I teach dance at night and am going to school. I am miserable with my husband, away from my family, and I'm so stressed out. Should I drop everything and just leave? I don't know what to do, but I know I don't want to spend the rest of my life unhappy.

2007-11-09 14:27:42 · 20 answers · asked by Jenny L 2

my mom's thinking of getting a divorce with my dad whom beats me up, yells at me with curse words and to my mom. he gambles and lost +$1000 and my mom cant take it anymore. but he buys me food to keep me alive and sometimes have some good times but not really. so why am i not sad?

2007-11-09 14:22:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-09 14:18:59 · 25 answers · asked by Kenny G 1

is it true once a cheater always a cheater?

2007-11-09 14:17:50 · 8 answers · asked by Conteplative 3

My husband has 2 young kids with his ex girlfriend and we have a 2 year old son together also. Well my mother in law has a relationship with all the mothers of her grandkids including his ex although they never married (she still calls her "daughter in law" along with me and my brother in laws wife). Anyway she still has the ex's picture on the wall along with a picture of my hubsand and her together...right beside OUR pics together. My husband and I tried to be subtle by only taking the one of them together down first when she wasnt around but she just put it back up without saying anything. How can I/he/we nicely ask her to take the pictures down without offending her?

2007-11-09 14:17:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just got married to a wonderful woman 3 months ago. Her behaviour for the past few months has been a bit odd. For one, she will get mad about small things and hold a grudge forever. She leaves the house instead of helping resolve any issues. It makes things so much worse, and she just doesn't get it. Tonight, she got mad at me for giving her old cell phone to a friend who needed it after she told me it was okay. The phone was two years old and unused. She then left and won't answer her phone. This behaviour tears my heart out because I try so hard for her and she doesn't see it.

We are doing counselling next week, be she hates to be judged or criticized. I'm afraid she just won't listen and will hate every second of it.

I don't have a clue on how to get through to her about this. It's tearing us apart. What do I do in a situation like this?

2007-11-09 14:09:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are split up now as he drove down to cali from oregon and took his things with him and unpacked at his moms and has been there for 3days now and has decided not to come home. We have had a lot of stress in our lives for different reasons one is we moved my dad in because he has cancer and needs some help and support and we both love him. Anyhow his mom came to visit for a week and decided to run to a hotel when i hurt her feelings about driving down early, I was nervous about our uninsured vehicle and we needed to talk and she heard us arguing and said she didnt want us to argue about her so she was going to a hotel and finding her own way home and I said that I was sorry, I did not mean it, it was a misunderstanding to please stay but she wouldnt and he decided that he couldnt stand how i treated his mom so he was leaving too and bam he was gone. He called, I said come home, work it out, but he went then called to work it out I said it was too late but it hurts so ..

2007-11-09 14:08:01 · 27 answers · asked by scsspace 3

it is what the title says are you selfish be truthful about your answers!

2007-11-09 14:01:50 · 9 answers · asked by david t 1

I've been with the same company for 9 years. My husband is being transferred, so I must go with him to another state. I'm just wondering, is there anything I should do for my last day? This was my first job right out of high school and it's going to be really strange to leave. My co-workers are having a party for me, but is there anything I should do?

2007-11-09 13:51:08 · 11 answers · asked by CherBear 3

My husband and I have a 2 year old son together but her also has a 5 and 3 year old with his ex-girlfriend. Some of my inlaws complain that I "come between" the parental relationship of my husband and his ex because he is never around her without me. However my husband always tells me he doesnt like being around her without me and I even have to force him to call her instead of me calling most of the times. He has told his family once or twice that he doesnt want to be close to her or deal with her if he doesnt have to. How can I make them understand that this is not just me being an overbearing wife?

2007-11-09 13:49:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-09 13:48:24 · 13 answers · asked by toocool4you 2

2007-11-09 13:39:50 · 23 answers · asked by jamiedoll77 1

For the first 4 weeks after my son was born, my relationship w/ my husband was very strong, but over the last few months things have become very bad and our relationship is really strained. I have been home w/ my son for almost 4 months and return to work soon. He feels that I am a control freak w/ our son and that whatever I say goes...his opinions or suggestions don't matter. He feels that I am unbearable to be around. Anything I do regarding our son angers him. Tonight he fed him a 6 oz bottle of expressed milk and my husband felt he wanted more. After a big burp I thought my son was content. He was put down and woke 2x. We gave him another ounce finally and he fell asleep. Because I did not even consider his suggestion he feels that I do whatever I want and his thoughts don't matter. I don't mean to be this way and I don't want to continue to push him away, but I don't know how to change when I am with my son 24 hours a day! Any suggestions.

2007-11-09 13:34:39 · 15 answers · asked by STort 1

I feel like my marriage of 12 years is falling apart. I married my first love at 20 and we now have 3 children. I don't know if I have the 12 year itch, or what. I have been struggling with a decision to end this marriage but I hesitate for the obvious reason...my children. My husband does not cheat on me, has a steady job, does not drink (just social, on occasion), and seems like a good guy from the outside. Now that I have been thinking of ending this marriage, my family admits they do not like him because he is unfriendly and anti-social. My husband's faults do not end there. He is overly cranky and crabby with the kids (my 7 year old recently asked my why I had to marry him), he is not involved with them outside of sitting next to them on the couch (not to say he has never interacted with them...he is just lazy most of the time), he does little work around the house (I mow the yard 50% of the time, I do all of the painting, hanging of fans/lights), he is consumed with things

2007-11-09 13:32:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do i say "id like to ask your permission to marry your daughter?

Or something like that

2007-11-09 13:26:16 · 27 answers · asked by slumlordo 1

A college professor had us list 5 things..The question read "If it weren't so selfish, I'd love to.....

Thanks for answering

2007-11-09 13:22:45 · 14 answers · asked by Tonya R 4