my mom's thinking of getting a divorce with my dad whom beats me up, yells at me with curse words and to my mom. he gambles and lost +$1000 and my mom cant take it anymore. but he buys me food to keep me alive and sometimes have some good times but not really. so why am i not sad?
2007-11-09 14:22:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im just scared that when he's gone, who will take care of me while my mom works? i think i will feel empty without him too
2007-11-09 14:24:19 · update #1
Bunny, I mean honey, you should be leaping with joy that your mom is going to divorce your dad, and you should be doing everything you can to encourage her. Just because your mom and dad are getting a divorce doesn't mean you won't be able to see your dad. In fact, when you do see your dad, he will probably be in a really good mood to see you and won't hit you or curse at you, and wouldn't that be great?
And don't worry, no one is going to let you starve.
The reason you are not sad is because you know that your dad is hurting your mother and you. It is fine not to be sad. Now, go help your mom with some packing.
2007-11-09 14:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lady S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what the circumstances, divorce is never easy on the kids. As long as your dad is abusive, he does not need to be around you or your mother. Maybe right now it's a relief to know that he won't be there to abuse you, but you may miss the good times later. If and when you do, grieve the loss and remember that you still have your mother who loves you and will take care of you. Hopefully, your dad will get counseling to discover why he is so abusive towards you and you can have a better relationship with him in the future. I encourage you to seek an adult you can talk to also, like a school counselor or a pastor of your church if you belong to one. But, find somebody, a professional, you can talk to.
2007-11-09 22:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie May 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon... your father certainly doesn't treat you with care much of the time, does he? you don't deserve to be beaten and yelled at... and your mom doesn't need to be cursed at either.
Sometimes divorce is the best thing, and in your parents' case, maybe a blessing.
When parents get divorced, it doesn't mean you can't spend time with both. However, i think you dad has some anger issues... i sure hope he will get some help.
take care.
2007-11-09 22:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I wasn't sad when my parents got divorced either. That was seventeen years ago now, and everything turned out OK.
Your dad sounds a bit like mine was, and having a dad like that kind of explains not being sad, don't you think? You'll be alright, don't worry.
2007-11-09 22:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not sad because deep down you know it will be a better situation. You don't need someone to buy you food to keep you alive, you need someone to take care of you, emotionally and physically. You and your mother will be better off without him and that is why you are not sad.
2007-11-09 23:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he abuses you and your mum (physically or verbally doesn't matter), then I think your mum is making the right decision and you are being smart by supporting her instead of crying about losing a dad like that.
:)
2007-11-09 22:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋