My husband and I got married and moved 8 hours from my hometown a year ago. I miss my family at home soooo terribly much. We just opened a business here (in our new location), and on top of doing all of that, I teach dance at night and am going to school. I am miserable with my husband, away from my family, and I'm so stressed out. Should I drop everything and just leave? I don't know what to do, but I know I don't want to spend the rest of my life unhappy.
2007-11-09 14:27:42 · 20 answers · asked by Jenny L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want to live in "the nest" with my parents....I just hate living 8 hours away from them....my family is too important to me. I feel like now that we have opened a business we have laid down roots here and I am just really worried I will never be able to see my family on a regular basis again.
2007-11-09 14:37:51 · update #1
Maybe you weren't ready to get married. Perhaps you should still be living with your parents. I left home when I was 17 and joined the military. Maybe you weren't prepared to move away. If your husband is a jerk or you just don't love him anymore then tell him and move on. If you're not happy but love your husband try marriage counseling. You can't live in the nest forever.
2007-11-09 14:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not need to leave your husband because you miss home. You may not be able to go home every day or even every weekend, you can call home, and maybe even plan on a visit once a month. You can also get involved with church. Do you enjoy teaching dance? It does seem that you have an awful lot going on. The question is are you really miserable with your husband or are you just homesick. Talk with him, plan on doing things together. To be honest a marriage is never easy, because you can't be selfish, you have another person to think about, and it requires you to work together to work out all of your problems. You can't just run when things get a little tough. Like a said find you a good church and get involved in it, I am sure once you get to know some of the older ladies they wouldn't mind being a surrogate mom.
2007-11-09 14:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by thismomisgreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are totally overwhelmed and not really thinking this through. Just because you started a business there doesn't mean you have to stay forever....let your husband know that you want to head back towards your family in the next couple of years. I bet if you know that in the future you will be moving back towards them things won't seem so down. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate and I understand it can be stressful, but remember, you and your husband are starting a life together, your starting "your family" and you need to do it together, which not only means he needs your support, but you should also make sure you are putting your needs out there too. If you need a monthly visit home, tell him that, if you want to be living back near your family in 2 years tell him. If you don't communicate with him you'll never know what the two of you could accomplish together. Good Luck!!
2007-11-09 15:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you miserable with your husband? Is he mean? Maybe you guys need to take a weekend home to visit or something. It's ok to be close with your family but you have to move on with your own life sometime. I suggest that you be more open to the new experiences around you. Dont be so negative about where you are until you give it a fair chance.
2007-11-09 14:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you didn't say your husband did anything wrong! So stay with him unless he's a cheater or abusive. Help your husband do well in the business so you can take frequent vacations to see the family.
You need to adjust to your new marriage, the new location, new business - you are probably just overstressed.
Joy to you.
2007-11-09 14:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-08 04:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I think you should talk to your husband. Don't make any rash decisions-they tend to be regreted. You dont want to have a feeling of regret for the rest of your life either. Tell your husband how you feel (lonely, stressed out, miserable), dont make him feel responsible, but try to help him to understand you. Have you talked to your family? webcam might help loneliness as well.
2007-11-09 14:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by NYgirl09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should I leave my husband?
2014-12-13 00:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy, then weigh your options... is it worth trying to talk to your husband to ask him if he'd like to work it out? do you even want to work it out, or try? would you two be willing to go to counseling, or do you think that is hopeless too?
Ask yourself what is best for YOU. Happiness comes from the inside of a person, not from someone else.
2007-11-09 14:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, and maybe he will look to move the business back to your hometown or nearby. You need to express yourself now early in the marriage. Apparently you did not make it clear to him you did not want to move away from your family before you married. Make it clear to him now, and try to help him move the business or sell it and start one in your old place. Give it a chance, try to help him work it out with you. There is a way to make you both happy. If all else fails or if he does not want to listen to you then leave on your terms.
2007-11-09 14:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by FILE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋