I'm 30ish, and I have a boyfriend 20ish, we talk on the phone alot, and maybe see each other like twice a week. We don't live together, but lately he's been asking to spend a week at a time with me at my home. he said he wanted to bring a weeks worth of clothes, and doesn't plan to go to his home at all during that time, just to work, and right back to my house. What would be the reason for this ? do you think he is trying to slowly move in, or does he just want to be with me all day everyday . I'm wondering why he doesn't want to spend time with his friends..??
2007-11-09 07:17:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's getting attached to you. I'm in a relationship with a guy who's 21 and I'm 34. We live together and when we first started seeing each other it was like he couldn't get enough of seeing me. Younger guys tend to attach themselves quick, especially when it comes down to an older women. we make them feel different then what a girl would.
2007-11-10 14:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by irishpr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing really wrong with the age difference if it works for you but it does seem that he is trying to move in. Do you socialize outside of the house at all and how does he act then? Where is he living now that he doesn't want to go there after work? Is he going to help you with money if he moves in or live there free? Where is he and what is he doing the other 5 days a week when he is not with you? These are all things to consider I would be cautious about this until i knew the answers to those questions and perhaps even go to handwriting wizard to learn the basics of that to see what his handwriting shows you. without those answers, I would say to not let him move in. Good luck whatever you decide.
2007-11-09 15:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a 23 year old male who's dating a 30 year old woman, the answer to your questions lies strictly with whether or not he lives at home. I live on my own, and I have spent an entire week at my girlfriend's house because I wanted to see her. It is possible he feels the same way as I do but I've found that many of my friends that live at home and date women with their own place, want to spend time away from their own home. I like my apartment but I like my girlfriend more. He might feel the same but be careful if he doesn't have his own place. Guys who have their own place won't want to move in because it limits their freedom.
2007-11-09 15:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all i would not be dating a young man in his twenties to began with he has nothing to foffer me in the first place. he wants to bring clothes house this is his way of trying to move in your home he wouldnt be bringing any clothes into my home, your wondering why he doesnt want to spend time with his friends maybe his friends are tired of hearing about the relationshijp he has going on with older woman.
best of luck
2007-11-09 19:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sure sounds like he is trying to invade the castle one soldier at a time. Let him stay for a week and then charge him for 1/2 that weeks rent. That should set some boundaries.
Good luck.
2007-11-09 15:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is in the infatuation stage so he wants to be with you as much as he can. A much younger man getting an older woman is a ego booster and something to brag about to his young friends. He could even think he loves you, I wouldn't count on that if i were you. He is to young to know what he wants plus he still has alot of skirt chasing ahead of him.
2007-11-09 16:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You two are a couple, he wants to be there to see you more. If you don't want him moving in, let him know that. It sounds like he wants to see you more than twice a week... or he hates talking on the phone haha.
2007-11-09 15:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by jim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe he just wants to spend more time with you but it's up to you to set the ground rules. He's wide open being with someone older. You must've put it on him, you go girl. I ended marrying mine so anything is possible. I'm an older female with a younger man.
2007-11-09 15:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He wants to spent time with you because he likes you!
Of course he wants to be with you every day, you're his girl friend, unless you have a different interpretation of your relationship with him, in that case you need to tell him, he's just a piece of A to you.
2007-11-09 15:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by Sean C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know....dont focus on the age. i have always dated younger guys and you shouldnt eeven think because he is 20ish he might act a certain way. my husband is 40 and believe me, more immature than any 20something i have ever dated.
2007-11-09 15:43:16 · answer #10 · answered by not this way 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋