Ok if you havent read the first part please do, so you understand this. Ok I wasnt 100% truthful. The reason I found out about all the other girls is because when we were dating we had each others passwords to our emails. I changed mine after we broke up, but he didnt. When I found out all this stuff, I checked it out and confirmed that hes messing around on his fiance. She knows about me, so if I tell her she will NEVER believe me. They are getting married tomorrow! I really feel that if I dont tell her, karma will kick my butt. However I feel like if I do she wont beleive a word. Im so confused!
2007-11-09 17:02:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some of you didnt understand. I didnt find out by "spying" on him. I found out because 2 of my co workers are sleeping with him. I looked once after I found out because I was going to tell his fiance. I dont want him back. But I have decided not to say anything. It is not my place. Even though he still calls me and sends me texts, maybe he will stop after he gets married. If not, im sure she will find out eventually.
2007-11-10 05:30:53 · update #1
I can understand how you feel about stepping in or stepping back. I think you should ask yourself, how deep do you want to be in the drama that will unfold? The risk of being accused of lying and having to prove that you were only being helpful, may cause you to be dragged into a relationship already built on lies. I believe in karma, but definately take a look at what you will be getting into.
2007-11-09 17:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by ryhmer06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no ethical matter involved here. You are his EX and his actions are no longer any business of yours at all. The only ethical wrong is the fact that you spied on his computer mail which is disgusting and would have been so even if you were still together.
Stop using Karma as an excuse to take your nasty, vindictive revenge - grow up and learn that throwing your toys out of the pram just because you have not got what YOU want (I think you do still want him or why would you still be taking any interest at all) is stupid and infantile.
Keep your nose out.
2007-11-09 23:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by U.K.Export 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you have the information, I think you are obligated to find some way to pass it on. But I think more importantly you need to figure out why if you have a husband you are still devoting so much time and energy to what is going on in your exes life. I understand that when you have friends in common your are bound to hear stories, but it should have been sufficient to tell the gossips to tell his new woman not you. Yet, instead of doing this you accessed his e-mail to check up on him. Y?
2007-11-09 17:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go into his email and forward all of the emails to hers. If you don't know hers, call her and ask if you can send her an email card for the wedding because you can't make it. Or send the emails to someone close to her that will show her the emails. This would be the easiest way. This way it will look like he forwarded the emails himself.
2007-11-09 17:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
print them out and take them to her/leave them at her house or at her parents house-or someone who will a.)show her and b.)be there to support her
ALSO: give her the email user id & password so she can confirm it herself.
i would really want to know if it was me.
2007-11-09 17:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her show her the e-mails if she doesnt believe you then let her pay the consequences at LEAST you will have tried.
2007-11-09 17:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO
2007-11-09 18:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by aangelhasbrowneyez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋