We love each other very much and want to live together. But the strong opposition from our parents is forcing us to sacrifice. How is it possible that we stay together. We dont want to elop and marry as these would bring a bad name. Please provide us help so that we can stay together.
2007-11-09 17:46:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 29 yrs old. Have my my own business which is running well. Its not new in my or in her community to have these sort of marriage. But my and her family members are very orthodox. Thats where the problem lies.
2007-11-09 18:06:44 · update #1
If youre still worried about what your parents and everyone else thinks then youre not old enough to marry anyway. Youre still a child.
2007-11-09 17:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not easy to make your parents understand and a time will come your girlfriend will be forced to marry, bcoz even if she is adamant and refuses to get married to anyone else than you, she would be emotionally blackmailed and have to bow down. Its better you elope and marry and come back. I am dam sure in certain period of time your parents will agree to accept her and her parents you.To Gain Something you have to sacrifice something. Its either ways so decide you are quite big enough to take decisions . Or you should have asked your parents whether I can fall in love with which girl.so dont act as immatured person and just elope.
2007-11-09 18:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by kamal m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is your decision, who you marry. you will be stuck with this person until death do you part, and you can't love 2, only 1. and why marry someone else if you love this one. Just do what all the rebel parents do--have a family of their own and raise their children the way they wish they were raised(the exact opposite of how they were raised) About your family--in mine, we are supposed to wait until we get married to have sex, and children. Many in my family ignored that law, and became single parents, and got thrown out. but the moment the family saw the precious babies, they went soft, and took them back into the family. the above happened 4 generations ago, and the single parents began taking it easy on their young ones. generation after generation, the children kept immitating their parents. because the parent's would have been hippocrits otherwise. My families example is just to tell you what might happen with yours. If you abandon the tradition, so will your children, and the rebel parenting cycle will continue. SO CHOSE: Tradition, or 1 big happy couple? +have you spoken to her about the life style your future children will have. just something to think about.
2016-05-29 01:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to think long and hard about where you are going and what you are trying to achieve. But you are not in a mood for formulating strategy. Too much seems to be pressing and urgent. you have to decide whether to run around fighting fires or allow a few to smoulder, while you track down and extinguish the spark that keeps setting them alight. That won't be easy, for many forces are now goading and antagonising you. Just rise above them and think about the long-term.
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2007-11-12 06:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by Oh My God! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U love the girl, not ur parents. If u love ur parents more than ur gf then u can forget about marrying her but if u want to live together u have to ignore earning bad name and revolt against ur parents. I think u r afraid of ur position in the society of ur own community. In that case be bold enough and set example to make ur parents and others feel that love is above all. I think u will be appreciated by ppl of all community who respect love.
2007-11-09 18:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by nazbak 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 29 years old have your own business self made for gods sake you fell in love want to marry this girl do it how can you leave her after promising to be her soulmate marry her when its come to marriage stand up to your parents and do it soon.propose marriage to your gf say you love her and get married elope if they dont accept when you have children they will accept it.
2007-11-09 18:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by aangelhasbrowneyez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Romeo and Juliette. You don't say what your ages are. Do you have jobs? If so take a little time and get to know each other some before you look for a place to rent. It gets really tangled up when you have bills to deal with. Are you ready for this? Enjoy each other now and talk a lot.
2007-11-09 17:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear I dont know how old are you. If you love the girl so much then please try to convince your parents. You cannot just elope and get married. You will end up facing hell a lot of problems. It is better to listen to your parents.
2007-11-09 17:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell u what pal, just create a stage drama, hire some frens who will act like goons, ur a bus. man so u can afford it...
let them come one day and snatch her mothers purse or eve tease her or somethng and u come like superman out from nowhere and save the day with some artificial fighting...
that will surely put more confidence in her parents,,,,,
Reminisce this, ''dont sacrifice on love, sacrifice for love''....
i.e after u guys get married... all the best....
2007-11-12 22:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by franCster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to stay together without wedding, that too will bring a bad name to your family. If you do marry her, your kids will never be accepted in your community. They will bear their childhood with a sense of isolation. When they grow up, they will find it difficult to wed within the community members.You should take all these aspects in view and then decide yourself, what is best for you in the long run.
2007-11-09 18:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋