Marriage & Divorce - 12 November 2007

My husband has horrible language. I used my son's cell the other day to listen to music and there was a text message from a girl asking "Why did you cal me a slut" I can not think of any reason a 11 year old would talk like that other than hearing it at home. My husband would just be angry if I brought it up. How do I approach my son on the subject?

2007-11-12 05:57:28 · 18 answers · asked by Destini H 1

Let me start out by saying my parents got divorced a couple years ago I am 23 and have a younger brother of 18. My brother lives with my mom and is going to school. My dad makes a six figure income which will be relavent here in a moment. My dad does not have to pay child support anymore for my brother because he is 18. My brother lives with my mom and she takes care of all his living expenses while he is in school such as, food, clothes, household stuff, gas, tuition, spending money, doctors bills etc.... My dad does not pay anything and refuses to take care of my brothers living expenses. My mom is requesting that he helps out because he is his son as well and pay half but he refuses and it is making my mom really financial unstable. What is your input on this please. By the reason they divorced is because he cheated on her a couple times after 25yrs of marraige.

2007-11-12 05:56:51 · 25 answers · asked by texman03 1

Me and my partner are spiritual, but not religious. We both come from religious families. Her family goes to church much more than mine does. I have expressed opinions about publicly funded education in a blog, to the demise of my sister-in-law. She accused me of being a hippocrate because I went to a faith-based school when I was a kid. She now ignores me and refuses to acknowledge my existence. I have emailed her comments where I apologized for possibly offending her, but they were my opinions. I have removed the comments, but I made a mistake and compared their struggle to get funding for faith schools to homosexuals fighting for the right to get married. This was clearly not acceptable to them and I would not include it, if I had to do it over.

The Question: How do I remedy the situation so that I can get along at family functions and such without sacrificing my ideals and dignity.

2007-11-12 05:53:39 · 18 answers · asked by Charles M 2

he is an ex husband( divorced twice ) of a friend of mine. do you think that he is using her because he is broke ?

2007-11-12 05:52:53 · 9 answers · asked by rodriguez m 3

or will they just laugh. He tells everyone we are seperated because he left to his brothers a month before he joined military but he also begged me not to divorce him while we lived apart. Every since he went in the military he has become a jerk as they will finish helping him become a citizen i just paid for greencard so he could join now they will give him citizenship after one yr i wrote immigration and want him deported as i was used it seems like he is seperated because it is convient for him since he rents hotels and puts money on whores.

2007-11-12 05:51:38 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

she is not accepting that i no longer love her the way i used to and i have moved out but still wont accept it as over i dont want to be hard on her but i need her to understand any suggestions please

2007-11-12 05:51:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have always said if I had a son I would name him after his father. Well my husband has a son with his exgirlfriend and he is named after my husband. I dont care for the ex naturally and in the past AI felt insecurities about her because she was my husbands first love and had his first 2 kids and his family always used to make such a big deal out of her and the fact that she had his first child which is the son. (the younger one is a girl) So we are having a son due in 3 months and been trying to come up with a name. Of course I wanted to name him after his father and I felt very hurt that I couldnt because his first son already carries his name. He got mad at me and said that he can have 2 sons with his name. I told him that it didnt matter if he had 2 sons with his name but if we named our son that it would only make me more insecure and feel even more second best to his ex girlfriend. He is still mad. I dont know why he cant understand. What should I do?

2007-11-12 05:40:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you think if the process to get a marraige license was harder that people would take marriage more seriously? (Like a 3 month marriage course before hand) What do you think? Something needs to change no one take marriage seriously anymore and divorce is too easy!

2007-11-12 05:37:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had an affair with a married man 17 years ago and left the state shortly after that. 2 months later, I found out I was pregnant. I contacted the father after I had my son and told him but I'm not sure he believed me. There has been NO contact since then, he is not on the birth certificate and my son was given my then divorced last name with no name listed under the father's info. My son has always gone by my maiden name and now it has become a problem since he has tried to get his drivers licence and his name was never legally changed. What steps do I need to go through to get his last name legally changed?? I can't afford to pay an attorney and would like to take care of this myself.

2007-11-12 05:37:32 · 17 answers · asked by Mauri 1

i am married for a second time for 8 years. my oldest daughter is 16 and my youngest is 13 all from my previous marriage on thursday last wk my husband and oldest daughter got into an argument which went very verbal with my daughter cussing my husband and telling him he isnt her f*ing dad and then my husband got verbal then he got physicall like he was going to get the belt and spank her well i got in the middle and he got mad and left and has not been back since he says i do not decipline the girls enough and he demands respect which in my beleif it doesnt matter your age if you dont earn respcet you dont gt it in return.anyhow i do love my husband with all of my heart but i am torn in the middle by my kids telling me that if he comes back they are going to live with my mother and by him telling me that i need to make the kids respect him. other than the issue with my kids we have a pretty good mariage. should i just let him stay gone

2007-11-12 05:37:10 · 12 answers · asked by Scorpio_sting 2

I think in the long run my son will be let down and disappointed with broken promises and no visits. He hasn't come to visit once in a year. What is the right thing to do?

2007-11-12 05:31:37 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

What can I do to make my wife KNOW that I want her. In her mind, I should want sex everyday, that's how she thinks guys think/act. So if I don't want sex that day (even if we've made love the past four days), then she thinks it's saying I don't want her. FAR from it, she is everything that I've looked for in a woman and more. I'm 46 and she's 41 with the body of a 25 year old.

2007-11-12 05:27:36 · 6 answers · asked by Motivated 2

They have been married for 6 years prior to filing for divorce. However, now (11 months into a year manadatory separation) they are thinking of getting back together. Are there any statistics on the success rates of this reconciliation? Does dating other people during the separation impact the success rate?

2007-11-12 05:21:09 · 13 answers · asked by CuriousGeorge 1

He wants to write up his own agreement and sign it.

2007-11-12 05:15:20 · 13 answers · asked by Child Of God 1

instead of worrying about what they missed out on?

Don't people constantly buy new cars even though the one they have runs perfectly fine?

Or buy a new house even though the one they have has plenty of space?

Or settle on only ONE lover for a an entire lifetime?

2007-11-12 05:14:52 · 3 answers · asked by male.confused 2

I have been married about 4.5 yrs the marriage on a whole has been very emotionally rocky for me. I am going to be turning 26 yrs old soon and my husband is 39 yrs old we adopted a daughter who is 3.5 yrs old from china together.My husband travels 4-5 months out of the year so i'm constantly lonley. My husband lets me buy whatever clothing ect that i want but is cold and emotionally unavailable for the most part.He is extremley controling and i feel like just property to him. He is also very moody at times becoming emotionally cruel,shoved me and bruised my arms.I have not worked since i got married and i signed apre-nup before i got married?But i'm not sure what the pre-nup i signed entails exactly?Also i'm afraid of what my hubbys reaction will be what can i do to perpare if i choose to file for divorce?

2007-11-12 05:13:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I dont think so but i just would like other people view on this issue.

2007-11-12 05:02:39 · 48 answers · asked by liltt 1

If my spouse really knew what i was feeling inside, it would hurt too much to stay in the marriage.

My spouse has a severely handicapped child from a previous marriage. This is hard for me to cope with, and makes me very uncomfortable. We are rarely intimate and i believe this is because i associate my spouse with this child. How would revealing this affect my marriage?

2007-11-12 05:00:03 · 35 answers · asked by julesm 1

My wife usually has no interest in sex. Yet once every 3 months, she suddenly gets horny. Women are not supposed to get horny. What's wrong with her?

2007-11-12 04:53:10 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am pregnant and I cannot please my husband in the bedroom and so I have given him "permission" to talk to and have a relationship with other women. I have even set up a profile for him on fling.com (sexysouthernguy). The only thing I ask is that he is open with me about it. He works with a girl that I swear has the hots for him. They have exchanged #s and she asks him all the time if he has plans but they have never planned anything. I think that neither of them can get up the courage.
Do you think I am doing the wrong thing? Or am I just being a considerate loving wife?

2007-11-12 04:50:07 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend who has been in my life since I've been 2 y.o., almost like a cousin. Throught the years we would see each other and our families but as we've gotten older and married things have become awkward. I can't ever go there without getting annoyed by something riduculous. She married ten years ago and sine then I've been the one always driving to her house for these kids parties etc. I've been married for 2 years and mentioned her house is too far for me to drive, to meet me half way into the city. Her response was that she spends too much money in the city. Okay, so I have to pay tolls and be the one to commute 1 1/2 hours each time. My life is less important because I don't have kids and my husband make more money than hers. She says insulting comments (I don't even want to get into that) I'm always in a bad mood when I get home. This is the first time we're actually going outside of her town in ten years to go shopping. Everything is with the kids, I asked if her ...

2007-11-12 04:48:18 · 11 answers · asked by Lyla 3

this last one he's still emailing and talking to her on the phone while at work...confronted the woman via an email myself and she said she would leave us alone and let us live our lives...that was back in january and they still talk...they were high school sweethearts and reconnected 30 years later. this isn't his first time cheating either...is he just giving me lip service so he doesn't lose his caretaker?

2007-11-12 04:44:46 · 15 answers · asked by alura_06 1

My husband and I have been married for a year and together on and off for 10 years. A little background info..we met when we were 14 years old in drug treatment, I got pregnant and raised my son alone for 5 years, he then says he wants to have a family, I went back to him, got pregnant with a second child, and he slept with my cousin in my living room while I was sleeping. I left again, fininshed school and changed my life. During that time he continued using, and ended up in prison for 3 years. I was married to someone else, and that was a miserable situation too, which produced another child. My now husband 'Changed" while in prison and I got back with him about 2 days after my first marriage ended. I have been able to get my RN degree, and actually have some confidence now, he is verbally abusive to myself and my kids. I know this sounds like an easy decision, but I feel a lot of guilt. He and his mother blame all his on me, and say I have a problem with "running away"

2007-11-12 04:30:37 · 13 answers · asked by Destini H 1

I have been married about 4.5 yrs the marriage on a whole has been very emotionally rocky for me. I am going to be turning 26 yrs old soon and my husband is 39 yrs old.We met by chance at one of my dads companies parties and after 8 months of dating got engaged then 3-4 months later we got married much to my families dismay.Looking back i think i was more infatuated with the gifts he was giving me,i liked being shown off and all the attention.It felt like love but my feelings started diminishing shorty after we got married because i was so lonley.My husband travels 4-5 months out of the year. My husband lets me buy whatever clothing ect that i want but is cold and emotionally unavailable for the most part.He is extremley controling and i feel like just property to him.When i brought up kids he bought me a dog it took 2 more pets for the talk to finally happen.We tried for a year i got poked and prodded nothing was wrong but i still could not get pregnant.He refused to go through any..

2007-11-12 03:58:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

does your partner need constant instructions? or do they use their brains and do things without being asked or maybe they offer.
Do you get fed up with the lack of support and communication?

2007-11-12 03:58:20 · 29 answers · asked by whispernikki 4

Do you ridicule your wife? Are you embarrassed of your wife? or do you support her during this most difficult time? Answer honestly please.

2007-11-12 03:50:31 · 15 answers · asked by Lue R 3

because he has been cheating on me. He knows I can't afford the mortgage, the kids, anything...I couldn't afford to care for my self on my wages....He moves the girl in and gets her pregnant. We have a home we are buying 2 vehicles, and 1 son. Him and his girlfriend made threats to me if I come to visit my son they would call the cops... 5 months later she is pregnant...he kicks her out and wants me back...I didn't go... but now he want her back... How can I get him legally?

2007-11-12 03:46:01 · 6 answers · asked by BabyGirl~ 4

2007-11-12 03:32:22 · 12 answers · asked by A Real Fan 2

seafood, pasta, french.

2007-11-12 03:25:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know there are some who can't get enough. This question is for the women who feel their husbands are after them every day and they wish his thingy would dry up and fall off.

2007-11-12 03:10:52 · 51 answers · asked by old-softy 3