she is not accepting that i no longer love her the way i used to and i have moved out but still wont accept it as over i dont want to be hard on her but i need her to understand any suggestions please
2007-11-12 05:51:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have divorce papers served on her and she will get the message. It sounds cruel but in the long run it is best for her to understand as soon as possible so she and you get on with your lives.
Good Luck
2007-11-12 05:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by mn lady 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems like there is some more to the story here that is missing. You no longer love her the way you used to. Are you done with her? Is she still thinking this is fixable?
If it is over for you, you need to sit down and tell her it is over. Your moving out should provide a pretty strong indication.
Are you saying she does not accept that it is over? Have you filed anything?
If you file, the papers in her hand will help. Just make sure this is really what you want.
2007-11-12 05:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love can be brought back to an unloving marriage. There are counseling programs you can try. Try something, anything, before you throw your marriage out the window. You promised to love her forever, find a way to make good on your promise. It is possible. I know you think it isn't, but it is. Think of when you were first falling in love with her. You can fall in love with her again. She is not accepting it because you promised her you would love her forever. Get some help. Others have made it back from the same point you are. Don't give up so easy. It is worth it, so fight for it. Mort Fertel has some awesome marriage programs that have had impressive results. I'm sure there are others. Good luck to you and your wife.
2007-11-12 06:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by D C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A difficult one, she is obvioulsy in denial - which is completely normal. My advice would be not to contact her at all unless absolutely necessary. She will take any contact as a positive sign that you want her back. Start divorce proceedings as soon as possible to show her that you are serious. Be honest with her but not too brutal. The worse thing you can possibly do is give her false hope. Most of us are capable of handling situations like this if we know where we stand - even if it is not what we want we can deal with it.
2007-11-12 05:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband has just done that to me and my 4 year old he walked out. I don't understand why I don't think your wife will understand right away either......she just lost something so big in her life and if she didn't see it coming it even makes it worse. I believe everyone will except it with time......like death you go through stages anger, sadness etc. then maybe acceptance....you can't rush her into understanding so don't try she will come to terms with it on her own... trust me it has been 2 weeks for me and I am still at anger.
2007-11-12 06:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get some therapy and Grow-up really why did you marry her
you should have felt this prior to marriage if this was a fact you have no one to blame but yourself. Marriage is to be for life if you cannot put in the commitment you have no reason to marry.
Seek professional help and a lawyer let divorce papers do the explaining since you are to incompetant.
2007-11-12 06:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can say that will make her accept it. She needs time. You've moved on ... she hasn't. You were moving on while you still lived with her. This is a shock to her. Stay consistent with her - don't give in to her, but there is no reason to be unkind. You can't force her to understand.
2007-11-12 05:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Kim S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to accept that the man you are married to no longer loves you. She is probably thinking that you'll see that you still do...it sounds though that you have seriously made up your mind...give her time to see that you honestly mean it. Time is what is going to get her to realise your not coming back.
2007-11-12 05:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seemed like your wife is still in the scoking stage. Maybe you two need to see a mariage counsellor to help you two comminicate. Good luck
2007-11-12 17:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This makes me so sad.. just be nice to her in your attempt to move on. She will need her best friend in a time like this and unfortunately for both of you, that is you.
2007-11-12 05:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by Blond&Tall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋