I have been married about 4.5 yrs the marriage on a whole has been very emotionally rocky for me. I am going to be turning 26 yrs old soon and my husband is 39 yrs old we adopted a daughter who is 3.5 yrs old from china together.My husband travels 4-5 months out of the year so i'm constantly lonley. My husband lets me buy whatever clothing ect that i want but is cold and emotionally unavailable for the most part.He is extremley controling and i feel like just property to him. He is also very moody at times becoming emotionally cruel,shoved me and bruised my arms.I have not worked since i got married and i signed apre-nup before i got married?But i'm not sure what the pre-nup i signed entails exactly?Also i'm afraid of what my hubbys reaction will be what can i do to perpare if i choose to file for divorce?
2007-11-12 05:13:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I only managed to scrape 1500 dollars together in a savings account because my hubby keeps track of how all money is spent.I'm afraid he wont want anything to do with our adoptive daughter because he was not thrilled with adopting to begin with.What if my hubby tears me up in court?
2007-11-12 05:22:29 · update #1
go see a lawyer with your pre-nup. without knowing what's in it, none of us can really give you advice.
2007-11-12 05:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by John R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm going to address this: "i signed apre-nup before i got married?But i'm not sure what the pre-nup i signed entails exactly?" Why the hell didn't you read it and if you didn't understand it then why the hell didn't you consult a lawyer. Depending upon what it stipulates if you get divorced you will be left with nothing and still have a child you have to support, if the prenup states he doesn't have to supply child support that COULD hold up in court. I can't believe that in this day and age women could be so stupid as not to have a clear understanding of what they sign before they do so.
Secondly:
"My husband travels 4-5 months out of the year so i'm constantly lonley." If you're lonely that is YOUR fault for not getting out and finding things to do to be un-lonely. You could join a church, join a gym, take classes, lean a new hobby. YOU are the one keeping yourself from doing so while he is gone.
I suggest in order to "prepare" for divorce you seek the advice of a lawyer first.
2007-11-12 08:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be a bitter and drawn out process where lawyers will suck what ever money you have out of you. Your adopted daughter will become a pawn in a winner take all battle. This person who feel is cold will become your worst nightmare. You will have sleepless nights and worry about how youre going to afford your next meal. The loneliness you feel now will seem like paradise over the depression, guilt, and anxiety you will feel well into the process.
Your home and all its contents will become a tag sale. Married friends will opt out of associating with you rather than take sides. Friends and family on your husbands side will no longer associate with you either.
Still wanna get divorced? Maybe invest a few hundred in a marriage couselor first.
2007-11-12 05:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by mren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to prepare mentally. This will be one of the most difficult periods of you life. But with help, you can get through this and become a better person. I recommend that you find a support group for separated and divorced people and attend regularly. This will help you with the often neglected healing process.
As for the pre-nup. Only an attorney can help you with this. Be sure you shop around for a good attorney. Take advantage of the free consultations most attorney's offer to ask many questions. Stay away from attorneys that will not discuss your case specifics until payment in rendered.
Lastly, do not be afraid to call the police if he abuses you. Any documentation you can make of his abuse will help you later in court.
If you need any more advice, let me know. Good luck. I will pray for you.
2007-11-12 05:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-12 10:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check him for criteria leading to a Dx with Asperger's Syndrome. Do a quick search. You may just find exactly what the problem is. Get marriage counseling.
2007-11-12 05:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what youre gonna do. regardless just the fact that you are saying this is enough for to make my heart cry. I hope you can find it in you to work things out because it sucks.
2007-11-12 06:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by JWalker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋