Read my 11 y/o sons text message, ,he called his girlfriend a slut.?

Question

My husband has horrible language. I used my son's cell the other day to listen to music and there was a text message from a girl asking "Why did you cal me a slut" I can not think of any reason a 11 year old would talk like that other than hearing it at home. My husband would just be angry if I brought it up. How do I approach my son on the subject?

Just an FYI, I was not snooping, the music kept stopping because he was getting text messages, I opened the phone and it was right there.

Answer 1

WTF why doe's a 11yr old have a cell phone?.

Answer 2

Okay, I have an 11 yr old daughter and I would not permit her to have a boyfirend at her age. What is wrong with todays children? They are so eager to grow up! Things werent like that back 17 yrs ago when I was that age. Anyways, regarding your question, your child is mimicking your husband. My 5 yr old son does that too sometimes when he gets mad. I think its because my husband uses profanity when he is upset. I think this is so wrong because parents are usually the first role model a child will have in life. You need to have a family meeting about this. Dont feel bad about your son thinking his privacy was invaded. He is still too young to have that type of privacy. You need to tell your hubby that is is your duty as a mother to deal with this and dont let him being angry stop you. Tell your son calmly without scolding him. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I would tell him that talking to women that way is unacceptable. That women are to be treated with respect and that he needs to apologize. I wouldn't make it an issue that he cursed because the more forbidden you make something the more appealing it becomes to children. Just tell him you are disappointed and that you expect better from him in the future and move on. Hopefully some of that will seep into his almost teenage brain and take root. Kids hear curse words every day from someone other than the people at home. Don't fret too much over this. There are bigger issues that will come up later. Choose your battles carefully. Kids will only take so much criticism before they stop listening.

Answer 4

Well first off I don't think you should tell him you were snooping. I know you said you were using it and the text just came through but trust me he'll THINK you were snooping. Don't mention the text and tell your husband to keep his mouth shut if he can't talk correctly and make sure you tell your son if you ever hear him talk to a lady in the wrong way he'll be in big trouble. You and your husband have to teach your son to have respect for women or he NEVER will.

Answer 5

Be careful here. You were using his mobile phone to listen to music, yet went snooping in the text message directory.

Privacy issues .....but that is another topic.

Sit the boy down and explain to him that calling girls -- or women for that matter -- a **** is unacceptable. Ask him to turn the tables and ask what he would feel like if his best friend called him a .

Best of luck with the young one......Finn.

Answer 6

I think the bigger question is why does an 11 year old have a cell phone, and why your husband uses foul language in front of a child.

My kids don't swear because I don't swear in front of them. They hear "bad words" at school, but they not to use them in polite company.

Answer 7

Sorry, but why does your 11yr old child have a gilrfriend? That should be one, and if you don't want your son using that language let him, that he shouldn't talk that way to anyone. By the way why can't you just tell your husband to watch what he says around your son?

Answer 8

You said hubby uses horrible language, so that’s what son hears at home, and now you’re surprised that he's using that language? You shouldn’t be.

Talk to son, explain it’s not appropriate and then talk to Dad about cleaning up his language at home. Dad may be angry about it, but so what? You're not scared of him, are you? If you are, then there are more issues here than son's language.

Answer 9

Before you go off half-******, boys at 11 use bad language as a right of passage. You would not believe what I used to say at that age. My father never swore in front of me. Honestly. So before you belt your husband, try this. Tell your son that it is a sign of intelligence to use better formed words and language. It worked for me. I never swore in front of my children. Away from them, well that's a different story.

Answer 10

You don't approach your son. Obviously he learned his language from his father so he isn't to blame for using that language. Either you risk your huband being angry or you drop the subject altogether.

Answer 11

Take his phone away, and slap the little hoodlum across butt or leggs my mom use liy soap

The kid is spoiled and the fact that you even have to ask this tells me you may be the reason.

Start showing this child some tough love, or he will eventually end up in jail or a ditch somewhere.
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(amen very well said i couldnt say better my self )