wives, why don't you like sex?

Question

I know there are some who can't get enough. This question is for the women who feel their husbands are after them every day and they wish his thingy would dry up and fall off.

when we married she would only give in once or twice a week. Then she wished it was only once a month. It's always been that way.

Answer 1

I was in that situation. I was with a guy seven years. it got so routine. I gave it to him once a week though. I know my brother only gets it but once ever couple of months! that sux. Now though i've realized its good for both people. So even if i'm not in the mood i do it and get in the mood. Sex is good!

Answer 2

I cant speak for all women but I love sex. I am a stay at home mom, there are times when I am tired, and the last thing on my mind is sex. There are many reasons women lose interest in sex, child birth, weight gain, stress, time of the month, etc. The list goes on and on. But I feel that the bedroom should have no boundaries, you should be willing to have sex whenever with your partner. I am a nympho, so I love sex . If I could have sex every day, all day.. I would.

I dont wish my husbands thingy would fall off, lol.... That would a horrible issue to deal with.

Answer 3

When I was scheduling my vasectomy, a friend (who had already had one) told me it would increase the amount of sex from once a month to 12 times ...per year. : )

In MY experience, the primary factors include: (1) weight gain after pregnancy and her own self image; and, (2) having busy lives with very little time for private conversation or recreational time that we used to enjoy (like when you first started dating). And the weight issue is ENTIRELY from her point of view. You may think she looks great (most husbands think their wives are beautiful no matter what), but SHE needs to think she looks great -- and there's nothing you can say to change that.

IF that sounds vaguely familiar, then when those two things are fixed, she'll be "back". And no, she doesn't need to loose 20 pounds first over six months (so don't stress). Just the START of losing weight or gaining muscle tone will make her feel better. But for heaven's sake, don't suggest that she lose weight!!! (That's sudden death right there). Just be supportive of it if she decides to do so (don't eat junk food in front of her, maybe exercise with her, etc.) and compliment her.

Meantime, evaluate your conversation time with her. It never hurts to make an effort to spend some extra time talking (talking about current events, gossip, funny things that happened to you during the day).

Answer 4

I think it has a lot to do with intimacy and communication...I have been married for 8 years and together for 10 years, and I still feel like we're newly weds.
I simply love and adore my husband, and I desire him just as much now as I did when we were first married.

Take the time to let your wife know she's beautiful to you...Remember to appreciate and thank her for things that she does for you, even if you feel that it's her "job".

My Husband still takes the time to compliment me, and makes me feel like I am the most special girl alive....We have great conversations, and a great sex life.
I am currently pregnant, and he still makes it a point to let me know that he is still happy with his choice in a wife, which makes me appreciate him more, as my husband.

Ever once in while, he'll leave a sticky note on the bathroom mirror in the morning, with some kind of sweet message or sexy idea, so that when I get up after he leaves in the morning...I find it, and spend the entire day just waiting until we get home.....so we can be together...
Not all wives act like "battle axes". A Good marriage is one that allows the two people to remain individuals, don't lose your identity in a marriage. I am an individual, with my own likes and dislikes, and so is he. We allow each other the room to be the people we are, and at the same time, we are together while we are the people we want to be.....
Nothing makes/forces me stay with him, or him with me....We are here, together, because we want to be...not because a piece of paper says we have to be.....

Hope this helps.

EDIT:
Perhaps your lady just doesn't enjoy sex...Or She may just have intimacy issues.
Maybe you could benefit from a marriage counselor or Sexual surrogate.

Answer 5

I think it is the person they are living with. Think about it. When couples split up, the ex wives like sex again. I think the husbands just start thinking of themselves. They let the wife work a full time job, come home & take care of children, cook supper, do dishes, laundry, help with homework, etc. And, then the husband wonders why his wife is too tired. maybe the husband should try helping around the house for a start. And, once they are in bed, think about his wife needing more than a minute of kissing to be considered good foreplay.Most wives I know love sex. It is their situations they don't like.

Answer 6

Not every woman wants to call it quits in that department once they get married. You need to talk to your wife if this is the case. She may be tired. Try taking some of the load off of her like do some chores around the house that she usually does every night. You will definately get points for that and hopefully the points will add up by the end of the week. Don't act eager about getting some either. Act like you are not even interested for an entire week and then go for it. See if that might work for you.

Answer 7

I enjoy sex just not at every waking moment like my husband. There are days when I'm really busy and I fall into bed exhausted. I don't wish my husband's penis would fall off, haha, but sometimes I wish there were more hours in a day.

If your wife doesn't have any kids and doesn't have a really demanding job then she might just not be turned on. When a woman is really busy, stretched thin, and stressed out then the last thing she'll want to do is have sex - she'll want to relax and go to sleep. Otherwise you might not be turning her on; Massage her, shower with her, write her sexy notes, talk dirty to her, make out with her. It generally takes women longer to get turned on.

Answer 8

As a woman who wished her ex's thingy would have dried up and fallen off I may have some insight.

After working 8-12 hrs on the job, coming home and cleaning house, fixing supper, bathing the children, mowing the yard, taking out the trash, walking the dog, cleaning HIS ferret's cage, draw HIS bath water(or he would not bathe) ect.... The last thing I wanted to do was have to please him in bed for 3 or more hours at night. I wanted sleep.

My new guy helps around the house, walks my dog before I get home from work, takes out the trash, and greets me with a hug when ever we see each other. I have no problem pleasing him when ever he asks (or does not ask)!

Answer 9

First of all, women do like sex. What we don't like is insensitive men who have no respect or compassion. Marriage is about honor, love and respect, and that includes for both partners equally. If sex is just for sex, that's one thing, but if sexual relations in a marriage are for maintaining a healthy relationship, then there has to be intimacy and caring, openness and sharing mutually so that both are satisfied and respected. Many women feel frustrated and just give up on trying to communicate, or believe they can magically change their mate. Sexual relationship counseling can help them communicate their needs better and will surely spark up their sex life when they are both on the same page in understanding.

Answer 10

Okay - for all you women who INSIST it is the man's fault, either in an uncaring attitude or "no skills" - here's one for you:

I've never pressured her for sex.

Before we married and right after, she loved it. Loved it! We did it all the time like hungry tigers. She was a multi-orgasmic woman so if she was faking it she was faking it 10-12 times a pop.

Soon after marriage, she developed, in her words, "self-image issues." This woman is 5 feet tall, weighs about 105, has a great figure, nice rack tiny waist cute a$s great legs the works.

Having always been romantic, I thought I just needed to "do more." I hand-made flower arrangements, hand-hammered cards and candle holders from metal, learned to make my own paper to write love notes on, put up little christmas lights in the trees, lit candles, took her to Paris, Italy, cruises, opera, ballet, smooth jazz concerts, champagne sundays, back rubs with no sexual touching, foot rubs, cooked for her, etc.

NEVER with the expectation of sex. Just to say I love you no worries. Hoping in the back of my mind, I guess, but not, "here i made you a cookie now let's f*ck." Not *ever* like that. Just trying to listen to other women say "we are ovens, men are blow torches" and all that.

She has been to our doctor, a ob/gyn, a psychologist. They all say everything is fine, but she insists she isn't attractive when she is. Never voiced this until after we married, and we dated for 4 years. No childhood trauma, no diseases, no bad diet, not on any drugs, nothing.

**12** years later - still no sex.

So you can take your "hee-hee, you have no skills" (as if a woman needs skills - most just have to *lay* there if we're being brutally honest) and your "you aren't romantic enough" BULLSH*T and, well, you know what you can do with it. I defy you to give me answer on this one other than, "well golly talk to her and take her to a doctor." It's been *done*.