He wants to write up his own agreement and sign it.
2007-11-12 05:15:20 · 13 answers · asked by Child Of God 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would consult an atty. He might be trying to pull something over on you. He doesn't have to have an atty. but that doesn't mean you shouldn't.
2007-11-12 05:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by joellemoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can write up whatever he wants, and he can sign it as many times as he wants. YOU don't have to sign anything! I have a feeling that this guy has called the shots throughout the marriage and this is his final attempt at getting the best deal possible for himself. Do you know what the process of divorce is? Do you know what is and is not rightfully yours in a divorce? Who is going to look out for you? You need to at the very least go to see a divorce lawyer for a free consultation with this "agreement" of his in your hand. Ask questions about it---like whether or not it follows the guidelines of the law, and then ask if you are getting a fair deal. A lawyer will help you answer your questions, and if this guy is really trying to take advantage he/she will tell you so. It will be up to you whether or not you hire an attorney, but I would. You need to protect yourself first! The marriage is over---don't worry about anyone but yourself anymore because he certainly isn't taking you into consideration. Good luck to you!
2007-11-12 05:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, that is the easiest way to handle it. It's less expensive and if you can agree on property and debt responsibility, it gives you more closer than having lawyers duke it out for you. If you're unsure about anything though, I would recommend just getting some legal advice on the agreement. Having someone look over everything without being incredibly involved might save you from an agreement that isn't 100% what you want. Good luck!
2007-11-12 05:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by ivyheatherclover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 04:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ilse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are books/services to help you write up a legal separation agreement if you want to do it yourself. The only reason people get lawyers is when it's a complicated divorce, or they can't both agree.
2007-11-12 05:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by John R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write up what you both agree to. Take it to an attorney, have it put into legal terminology. There are too many chance for loopholes trying to do it yourself. Your divorce may be amicable now, but when new spouses and other things come into play in the future, you'll both want to be protected fairly.
2007-11-12 05:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by J M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do that but you are going to run the risk that he can break it it is better for you to go through a lawyer and make it legal and it is better to do it soon he wants this becuase he does not want to have the goverment take his license or garnish his check do not listen to him and get your divorce legal go through a lawyer and have him pay child support.
2007-11-12 05:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have lots of asset then you certainly can do it yourself as long as 2 people agree. Don't waste money on lawyers if you don't have to. They're a bunch of blood suckers. I could have done it myself 'cause I didn't get anymore than I should get. We split everything in the middle and voila! so long. The reason was that my husband went and got a lawyer so I had to get mine. What a waste!
2007-11-12 05:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by Who wants to know 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do it yourself, it does save a lot of money. If you agree with everything, why not do it yourself. You do have the get the right paper work from the courts, you cant just write something up and turn that in. Good Luck
2007-11-12 05:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by tarie75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can totally screw you if you're not careful. If you don't trust him, get a lawyer. There's a chance your husband is hiding something and knows it'll come out if lawyers get involved.
2007-11-12 05:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by monicanena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing? My Ex and I did not Saved money and anger I think and the latter there was still plenty of
2007-11-12 05:39:29 · answer #11 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋