this last one he's still emailing and talking to her on the phone while at work...confronted the woman via an email myself and she said she would leave us alone and let us live our lives...that was back in january and they still talk...they were high school sweethearts and reconnected 30 years later. this isn't his first time cheating either...is he just giving me lip service so he doesn't lose his caretaker?
2007-11-12 04:44:46 · 15 answers · asked by alura_06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Once a liar, always a liar.
Do yourself a favor and find someone to love and who will love, cherish and respect you the way you deserve.
Good Luck
2007-11-12 04:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by mn lady 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i think he is. He has cheated before and you apparantly took it and let it slide, so he will keep on. The only problem is if you put your foot down and give him an ultimatum==make sure you are ready for him to leave. He probally wont think you are serious because you never have been==so be sure you are prepared for the back and forth he will do between you and her or whoever until he decides what and who he really wants. OR you could get some counseling and do some honest soul searching and figure out why he cheated on you in the first place. Once you get yourself together and are a strong , independant woman again==the next time he gives you lip service to come back you can tell him where to put those lips! Good luck
2007-11-12 13:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've have had this same problem. Even if he does stop the phone calls and emails, it will take you a long time to believe they have stopped. You will always wonder. The trust is gone and that is a difficult thing to win back. Do you really want to waste a lot of time on a man who has done this time and again? It is not about love. He probably does love you, but he won't change until the consequences are severe enough. Leave him.
2007-11-12 13:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will keep on cheating you know what they say once a cheater always a cheater. You said that this isn't the first time. There is something he needs that maybe he is not getting at home or is it just a thrill for him and he doesn't seem to love you because he is hurting you and love is not suppose to hurt.
2007-11-16 12:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have no shame and no regard for anyone else's feelings. That applies to both your husband and this other woman. Your husband takes you for granted and doesn't respect you or the relationship you have. The other woman is selfish and doesn't care that she is interfering in others' lives. I don't believe in divorce, so its important that the two of you try to work it out if possible. If he is unwilling to stop cheating and be with only you, its time for you to go. You deserve a better life than that!
2007-11-12 12:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by kyliekissesx 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is playing you. He is a cheater so you obvisouly can't trust anything he says. Why wouldn't he just say that they won't talk anymore if it gets you off his back, he can keep you, and still talk to her? There are no consequences as of yet. Get rid of him, you tried your best, now more on.
2007-11-12 12:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first time it happened, shame on him... the second time, shame on you....
You tried, you loved him, he loved you, but you have to be happy and respect yourself. Everyone deserves a second chance, but if they fail in the second chance, they know what the consequences are... unless you go back for more.
2007-11-12 13:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by ~Lizzy~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's been cheating more than once and you let him get away with it, then, you've as good as set up the path.
You can't tell him what to do anymore, so it's time to think of what YOU can do.
Good luck.xxx
2007-11-12 12:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He may love you, but may not be IN love with you.
He's a cheater, you should have dumped him ages ago.
Good luck!
2007-11-12 17:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and Sex are two completely differant things.
2007-11-12 12:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by todd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋