what does your husband/partner do to help around the house and with children?

Question

does your partner need constant instructions? or do they use their brains and do things without being asked or maybe they offer.
Do you get fed up with the lack of support and communication?

Answer 1

Well we don't have any children but I do the cooking and he does the washing and ironing. I think I got a good one though because I never have to tell him to do anything. We both have a tidy up for an hour or so at the weekend (to be honest I think he does more housework than me). :-)

Answer 2

My husband spends time with the kids when he is home, and will watch all 5 (ages 9, 8, and the 3 little ones that will turn 3, 2, and 1 in February) by him self so I can go out and do things I want to do. He will show up in the middle of the day, and say go on and get out of here for a while because he has a few hours with nothing to do. He changes diapers, and does all those things for the little ones, we have 2 in diapers right now.
If I am cooking and have something heavy in the oven, he is right there to get it out for me. He helps make all the kids plates and get them settled down and at the table to eat.
Pretty much anything I ask him to do, if he has time he will do it.
Now he doesn't really help out around the house because I don't ask him to, unless we have company coming and I am busy then he helps. It wouldn't be right to ask him to help because he works and i don't. And I do all the lawn care because I want to and I don't want him to mess up my tractor.
As far a communication, we talk all the time. We talk at least 5 times a day on the phone when he is working. And he is the type if I am not feeling good, will always say, baby is there anything I can go to make you feel better. Cant really ask for anything more then that. Anything I want I get.

Answer 3

My husband does very little, compared to what really has to be done here on a daily or weekly basis. He's pretty good to clear the dishes away after a meal. But anything that has been rinsed off a plate is left in the sink (for some reason he refuses to push it down and turn on the disposal). Counter tops are never wiped off, stove is left in a mess and usually anything spilled on the floor is left there until I decide to clean it up.

If he makes the bed, he merely pulls the comforter up and throws the pillows on. The bed was so lumpy I honestly thought he had made it up with the cat in it.

To clean a bathroom, forget it. Do laundry? Yea, right!

Answer 4

My husband takes out the trash, does the laundry, makes dinners/lunches/breakfasts. He takes the kids to school.

I've been out of commission due to abdominal surgery and in the past month, he's done it all. I'm still not able to pick anything up that's remotely heavy (heavier than a milk carton is a no-no). I'm a stay-at-home Mom and it's been hard to sit there any watch him do it (especially if it's not MY way...LOL).

I do laugh because he will step over things - rather than just pick it up! Or he'll get something 75% of the way there and put it down.

I have a rule: TOUCH IT ONCE. If opening the mail, touch it once. Don't put it on the counter, don't put it down at all. Open it, throw it and if need be, put the contents where they go. If you take off clothing, put it in the clothes hamper, not the floor.

I have tons of support and his heart is amazing. I just don't think they multi-task like women do. I'm not putting them down - they have their strongpoints!

Answer 5

LOL. I hear you!! My hubby has good days and bad days. He helps sometimes...

Yesterday... my hubby sat on the couch and watched football all morning in his sweats... then he got up a half hour before we had to go to his football teams end of the year banquet... and he actually had the audacity to rudely ask if the kids were ready yet (we have toddler girls). So basically... I cleaned house all day, got the girls ready to go to a party, entertained them quietly for 2 hours while my husband handed out awards to kiddos on his team, I fed them, I got them home and got them ready for bed, I bathed them put their jammies on, got clothes out for the next day, read them books, calmed them to sleep, etc. Then I woke up with the girls 4 times during the night since we had a wind storm that kept scaring them.

And just about the time when I think he is worthless... this morning when I was running behind on my way to work and I was scrambling around the kitchen trying to make my lunch before taking the kids to daycare and he walks downstairs gives me a kiss and says "honey, I can take them if that will help" and I am like OMG... HOW NICE OF YOU!! Thank you.

Answer 6

I work PT in the evenings. My husband cleans up after dinner and cares for our girls until he gets them ready for bed. He mows the lawn and keeps the rest of the house taken care of (like the gutters, shrubs, and maintenance). I willingly and happily do the majority of the cleaning and upkeep around the house. I love being a Mom and a wife. He works hard to make us enough money that I only need to work a few days a week. To me, that's worth a closet of clean clothes for him and a clean living room.

Answer 7

well I am a man and my wife don't need to take me by the hand.

my mother did that when we were younger.

I help my wife with everything from dishes to cooking, laundry, vacuuming plus pick up after the kids as a matter of fact i just got done with all the housework.

It is my day off but not hers why should she have to come home to a messy house.

My mother taught us boys that a wife is not your keeper, And she taught our sisters to not rely on aman for support.

Our mother raised us well after my dad died, I just hope I can do as well with mine.

she also made sure my sisters knew how to do yard work and basic car maint.

Changing oil checking the fluid levels etc.

Plus we had our grandparents right next door. so if we got out of line to much my grandad woul get after us.

There is no reason why a man cannot do housework or help with the children.

If you think it is unmanly, Then you have problems you need ton deal with.

The only thing unmanly is thinking your wife should work all day then come home to cook clean and take care of the kids.

Maybe if more men took the time to help thier wives there would be more time for her to take care of his needs also.

Me and my wife spend as much time together as possible.

By my helping her out she has time to relax and she shows her appreciation.

Answer 8

I have to ask if i want nething done by him. With the kids, with the house with anything, instructions are always needed. It drives me mad, I hate it. He never offers to do nething and deffinately doesn't do nething without bein asked. Yes I am completely fed up, I've tried talking to him bout it several times, as that is always the first step, but nothin ever changes :-(

Answer 9

I have always been the full time care giver for our four kids, now ages 16,18,19 and 21. He has gone against everything that I have tried to teach them, as a means of control me and the situation. Not good or healthy for the kids. The three oldest are boys, love to sit in front of the TV, the youngest a girl, my husband thinks of her as someone to care for him in his old age. I am now leaving the marriage, and hoping that it isn't too late for my kids to have a different prospective on life.

Answer 10

When I get home from work I make dinner. I love to cook so that is my job. I feed our daughter because my wife has been home all day and i want to spend time with her. I give her a bath and play and read to her and put her to bed. On Sunday i get her up and take care of her all day while my wife does what ever.
House work i will admit i suck at she is allways telling me to pick this up do that and to put my clothes that she washed and folded away . I am working on it though