or will they just laugh. He tells everyone we are seperated because he left to his brothers a month before he joined military but he also begged me not to divorce him while we lived apart. Every since he went in the military he has become a jerk as they will finish helping him become a citizen i just paid for greencard so he could join now they will give him citizenship after one yr i wrote immigration and want him deported as i was used it seems like he is seperated because it is convient for him since he rents hotels and puts money on whores.
2007-11-12 05:51:38 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Periods go a long way in helping people understand your question.
But hey, I'm not here (primarily) to criticize your grammar (or lack thereof).
In answer to your actual question; no. If he's a jerk on his way to becoming a bigger jerk, simply divorce him and move on with your life.
Why get engaged in a tit for tat with someone who you're ultimately destined to not be in a relationship with?
What if he then tells your parents something you don't want them to know about you?
And yes, I suspect they would laugh that you're telling them he went to a strip club, as I'm sure military guys do that all the time.
If you only married him so he could get a greencard, then shame on you for supporting him in breaking the law, as in my mind, if not the law's, that makes you just as liable for fraud.
Reporting him to immigration is fine if he came here under false pretenses, but spare the military the laugh of reporting the strip club, divorce him, and move on.
And use a period or comma every now and then!
2007-11-12 05:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I would leave him ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He got what he wanted, the Green Card, and now you are no use to him! My mom was in active duty in the military, so she knows! All he wanted was the green card, he got it, thats all he wanted from you. And a strip club is one thing (we hate it, but it's a guy thing) but when he rents hotels and puts money on whores and stuff?!?!? Thats just going beyond extremes! When and if you have children, or even if you already do, what are they going to say about their dad at school when they ask what their parents careers are? I'm sure I don't have to answer that one. He used you. Just divorce him, dump him, which ever!!! Good Luck!!! You are in my prayers!
2007-11-12 06:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by comput newbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you are the tiniest bit ticked off at him. I wouldn't waste time and effort doing anything about it. I would divorce him if you don't love him and if he isn't being a true husband to you. it sounds to me like he just married you so he could get citizenship. That isn't right to mess with someone's feelings like that. Don't report him because they will just tell you not to waste their time. If you divorce him though you do need to report it to immigration or you will get into trouble for not reporting that your relationship has dissolved. From what I can remember don't you have to be married for at least two years after you get your green card in order to become a citizen? I may be wrong about that but I seem to remember that being the case. I hope things work out for you. Try not to do anything vindictive. It will only come back and bite you in the end.
2007-11-12 06:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope don't tell the military. Wait until you're sure of his whereabouts during one of his "Hotel Visits" Then call the locals. Before he can make bail, Call the INS and then his C.O. in that order. Presto! Proof of a crime means no more greencard wich means back to wherever he came from. (complete with dishonorable discharge)
2007-11-12 06:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ricky J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the military will care that he goes to strip clubs. If your marriage was a sham to just get a green card then writing to them to have him deported was the right move. If you are separated then they should know that. Go ahead and divorce him, and get on with your life.
Good Luck
2007-11-12 06:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military wont do anything...Plus if you are divorcing him....Just sue for the Immigration fee's ...To be in the military you do not need to be a citizen only a resindent allien..But you can tell INS that he married you for the green card and that can get him in trouble
2007-11-12 05:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by Burt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH sound like somebody has her claws out. True you might have got played but sounds like your mad at the way he treated you. Men go to stripe clubs and pay for sex it's been around for years and you telling will this make you feel better inside(do it) but will it heal your heart and humiliation u seem to have suffered or will it bring back the money you spent. Ask yourself what do u want from all this for him to hurt like you are hurting or for you to call it a mistake and move on. It's on you do what makes you happy.
2007-11-12 05:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by rosalyn_1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea i wouldnt tell the miltary about he strip clubs, you are right, they will laugh at you. Its not illegal for him to go there, so what will they really do? Yes it seems you got schemed and you should report him to immgration but i must warn you, this will have consequences for you too, so kee pthat in mind that if he gets introuble for having a fake marriage, you will be held accountable for that too cause you agreed to it
2007-11-12 05:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jersey Sweetheart 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yup, you fell for it. You were used and will keep on being used if you allow it. Get rid of him. Divorce him and see what you can get. Maybe you can legally get some of that money you spent on him back. What did immigration say? Get a good lawyer and see what they say. Whatever you do, get rid of the loser and don't have anything to do with him from now on. Good luck.
2007-11-12 05:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by lilith663 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry most military men go to a strip club at some point. how4ver, if i were you i would get a divorce underway as he has not enterd into a genuine marriage with you. betterstill try for an annulment.
2007-11-12 05:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by D B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋